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backup account. my account smol-grey-tea got terminated :( Sebba - they/them - 02/09/2003 - British - MaDD, probably ADHD icon by @bimboklavier but I put a flag behind it.

[cheritzssebba]

Oh fuck I back :0 they says it was a glitch in the system. Could've been handled a bit less messily but I'm glad all my stuff came back :)

I'll still keep the other account as a backup and I'll reblog all my posts from there onto here :)

[smol-aro-tea]

My original account got restored 😌 go follow me over there since I'll only use this account as a backup

[aromantic-enjolras]

for the aro ask: 8 and 24

Thank you for the questions!

8. Favourite place to go for a non-romantic date? 

Good question. I’m not sure I know what qualifies as “a date” in general (”dating culture” is not really a thing where I’m from), but if we are talking about “stuff that has made people wonder whether I was trying to get into their pants/their hearts”, probably my best experience was once I invited a friend to a dance party and then we went out for dinner and a stroll in the park. It was a lot of fun, we danced until we couldn’t breathe and we laughed until we couldn’t stand, and then we had good food and talked about anything and everything. And when I got home I got a message from them that went something like “my roommate thinks this was you flirting, is that true? Because I love you as a friend, but I don’t want anything more...”. And what could be a better way to end a great night? :D

24. Do you want a traditional life, with marriage to 1 person and children, or do you reject it completely? What parts of the traditional life do you like and which parts do you not like?

I’m polyamorous, so traditional life was already out of the question for me. xD No, I don’t want a marriage and children. I never did, even before I realized my orientation. Actually, I used to joke with a friend that “I don’t want to abolish the institution of marriage... I just want to change it so much that it would be unrecognizable by the end”. x)

Mostly, I like the idea of a support network, of people who are there who you know will have your back, that will help you through a rough patch and celebrate your good times. But I reject the idea that it has to be romantic, and that it has to be a single person. In fact, in my personal opinion, the larger and more diverse is your support network, the better. Putting all that pressure on a single person is a recipe for disaster, and it only kind of works because our society is constructed to keep women in those roles of caretakers that shoulder all the emotional work and never leave, no matter what. And that’s not fair. To anyone involved.

So yeah. a traditional life was probably never for me, but even without taking that into account, for me this is a political issue and a societal problem. I wouldn’t do it even if I was wired that way. (I mean, maybe I would have, you never know, but I’m glad it is not, because I don’t want to)

[smol-aro-tea]

Do you think the gay best friend trope began cuz women like feeling safe around men they know won't harass them or do you think it was always fetishistic

[aro-culture-is]

aro spec culture is identifying as lesbian/gay/bi/pan/etc. before aro because you have a strong aesthetic attraction but misperceived it as romantic

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[headspace-hotel]

sometimes it’s like. I have been so brave for so long. I deserve the universe not being terrifying for 5 minutes

[headspace-hotel]

This is getting a lot of notes all of a sudden, y’all ok

[puzzled-niri]

Are you?

[headspace-hotel]

*starts crying*

[smol-aro-tea]

Heyo, I just found your blog and I just wanted to tell you that your colourful posts make me really happy for some reason 😌

Anyways, I hope you have a good day, and happy arospec awareness week!!!

Heyyy thank you! :) colour's rlly fun and makes everything so much more easy to read too ❤ and you too! Tbh I might not post anything else for this week, probably should've scheduled them all in the 1st place. Got too much stuff to do anyway and am abt to relax rn by playing more Age of Calamity again :)

[jughead-is-canonically-aroace]

sex? like from jokes?U know that isnt real right?

[hues-of-purple]

If this post gets

60,000 notes by my 24th birthday (13th August, 2021) I’ll make/self-publish an art book with all my ace spec art in it...

Edit: check the reblogs for my art :)

[hues-of-purple]

Some more ace spec art!

(I drew these so please don’t remove this caption or repost this!)

[smol-aro-tea]

I am angry about things. I hate things. There are things I hate and am angry about that I know other people are totally allowed to like.

I am angry about both big things and small things. I am angry, I am tired, I am pissed, I am not happy and I mean that in a way that is not sad.

I am angry that people in my life have told me to control my emotions. I am angry that people who call me their friend were initially shocked to discover that I have things I hate and am angry about.

I am not angry that I am small. I am not angry that I was always the weakest in PE, the last in every race and always on the losing team. I am not angry that I am too quiet and don't talk much, if at all. I am not angry that I pass as female. I am not angry that I am emotional and cry in lesson without caring about whether people see or not, because I know emotions don't make you vulnerable and couldn't care less about a 'reputation'. I am not angry that I am optimistic and empathetic. I am not angry that I am asexual.

But I am very angry about the way this makes people view me. They look at all of those things above and think there's no way I could be angry. And that I'm a pure, precious, innocent cinnamon roll that can do no wrong. And that I need to be sheltered from a sexual birthday card. And when I text them, crying and swearing about my homophobic dad, their 1st words aren't of comfort or solidarity, but instead an "I never knew you were like this". And when I call them out on how they infantalise me, they claim they have a protective instinct, as if I need to be protected from harmless things.

I can't fight. But I can feel anger and hate and it manifests through tears.

Fuck off cuz I sure am a smol bean but I don't need your god damn motherfucking protection.

[smol-aro-tea]

Hey, I typically use bolding, italics, colour, etc to make my words more accessible for neurodivergent folk who may struggle w reading, but I've seen some ppl retranslating coloured text into plain for accessibility, but how does the plain text make it more accessible?

Is it just the eye strain, or smth else? Do I have to choose between which disabilities I want to accommodate for? Or is there a way to stay accessible for everyone?

I use Tumblr's dark blue screen instead of the white one - is the colour annoying for those using white or black?

[madphantom]

Mum: NO SEX! SEX BAD! SEX BAD!

Me: Ok cool I'm asexual anyway

Mum: *gasp* but sex!

[smol-aro-tea]

Finished watching Duck Tales 2017 last night tho I believe there are more episodes happening recently? Like yesterday?

Tbh I don't like how they handled FOWL. I feel like it's been built up to be bigger than it actually is? I get that villains are supposed to be funny and dumb sometimes but it's like the Big Bad has no power. I think they've done less showing and more telling, since I don't think FOWL has done enough to actually show the viewer how big of a threat they are. I still don't know how much power they have, what they intend to do, and I don't even have a solid opinion on whether I agree or not w what they're doing since all they say is they want the world to be safe but the show hasn't properly portrayed that that's bad, other than how they put the main characters in trouble.

They did this w the 1st season finale tbh, they didn't handle the villain well there either.

The 87 Cent Solution is still my favourite episode.

Watched the 1st episode of Kipo and the Age of Wonderbeasts as well and it does look rlly good ❤ excited to see more. I like that it gets into the real story straight away, unlike Duck Tales and Amphibia. The world is rlly vibrant and well built and the music is rlly good. Also, the main character's voice actress also voices SPoP's Glimmer so that's cool ❤❤❤

[rubinhexe]

aesthetic attraction is wild bc I could literally stare at you for hours without the desire to do anything else why are you so beautiful how is this even possible this amount of beauty should be illegal aaaaaahhhhh

[smol-aro-tea]

I just wanted to say thank you for helping me with my sexuality, I'm still questioning but now I have a better idea of who I am.

I also wanted to thank you for your posts about romance, Aromantic people have completely changed how I think about love and all the problems with how media and society in general portray love and relationships, I'm pretty sure I'm Alloromantic but now I know what I want in a relationship.

Sorry if this got long, just wanted to let you know, have a good aro week 💖💖

Aww that's so sweet!! I'm rlly glad I could help you and this motivates me to try and help even more ppl in the same way that I've helped you! 😁 Thank you so much for your kind words, you are very sweet ❤❤❤

I might upload a post today on arospec terminology, but idk I've been getting rlly distracted lately, maybe it'll come out tomorrow or not at all haha 😅😂.

And yes! I agree, there's so much society teaches you that, only when you talk to aro ppl, you realise is just so, so backwards.

I saw someone on here describe the aro community as smth along the lines of this: other communities ask you to identify as gay or straight or bi, whereas the aro community asks what you want in a relationship and to name it as you like from there.

I rlly wish I could remember how it was originally worded, they did it way better than I did..

I think that's super cool. The gay, bi and trans communities do differ from the norm, but the aro, ace and non binary communities completely break and recreate the system that the gay, bi, trans, cis, het and allo communities are built from.

[smol-aro-tea]

may i introduce to you

rät (not mine but it's cute)

Aawwwww thank you so much!! :D Rät is so cute!! ^^ much appreciated :)

[yeeiguess]

Allos talking about their boyfriends is the funniest thing ever. They were talking about like, which body part is better like abs or arms or eyes ? And also roasting each other’s bf and talking about they act with them and with other people... woaw. An entire world I’m discovering. I so not want to be a part of that

[queeredy]

So if angled aroace means someone on the aro and ace spectrums who sometimes can feel sexual and/or romantic attraction

And oriented aroace means an aroace who feels tertiary attraction

And the term aroace can be used by anone who is on both the aro and ace spectrum

Does that mean I could label myself as a bi-angled but pan-oriented aroace, considering that I identify my rarely felt romantic attraction as bi but my tertiary attractions as pan?

[smol-aro-tea]

Ehh sorta. But the difference between angled and oriented is that oriented is fully aroace along with tertiary attractions, whereas angled is not fully aroace regardless of tertiary attraction. Electio is where you are fully aroace and do not feel any tertiary attraction.