cassie

psalm 51 | infj | art is cool okay

[minn-why-skye]

I hate when people review classic literature and put shit like “the language was too hard to understand” LIKE NO SHIT IT WAS WRITTEN LIKE 2 TO 3 CENTURIES AGO.

[superpineapple63]

There are 2 types of fanfiction writers:

Type 1: hey everyone yeah sorry I haven't posted in 3 years, I wasn't feeling the vibe

Type 2: hey guys I'm so sorry I posted 2 hours late, but my dog died when my house burned down last night!! Anyways enjoy :')

[itspileofgoodthings]

I love Gilbert Blythe so much because he’s so…restrained? The more deeply he feels the less he actually says and the more matter-of-factly he says it (and of course that actually just makes him more romantic because restraint is romantic) but the amazing thing to me is that he knows Anne, and he knows Anne is not restrained, and he knows that what she’s looking for, at least in her own mind and her own words, is something much more openly and sweepingly romantic and- he never does that for her? He never tries to be That Guy. He refuses to be That Guy so much that he almost overcorrects. His first proposal is the absolute bare bones necessary for a proposal because he’s not putting it into flowery words even though he knows it’s what Anne “wants” and I am just always so moved by how he can be so in love with her and yet so different from her. He can keep his hold on his own personality and way of doing things even though being with her is one of the only things he’s ever wanted and by doing that he eventually shows Anne, without telling her, what she wants and even why she wants it, which is: someone to love her as quietly and steadily as she loves him loudly and poetically. Because Anne is already the silver-tongued poet and so Gilbert never needed to be anything but a quiet loving foil to that and so he IS in this essay I will

[soft-persephone]

Being infj is like being a hopeless romantic that’s so in love with everything while also being a stoic intelllectual that doesn’t want to feel.

[pumpkinoverthinking]

Why do i like you

- because I’m usually super shy but somehow I can be bold with you (didn’t realize INFJs can be natural flirts?! Like w o t)

- because you show me how to love confidently and that makes me believe in something I never did.

- because even if you are exciting, I still feel comfortable with you.

- because you motivate me to do better, to be a better self.

- because you keep thinking you’re not the best but you are already perfect to me.

- because this feels like a dream, and before it ends I must love you now.

Shameless love letter by shy INFJ

[smol-phoenix-feather]

awww this is so cuuuuuute my hearttttt

[smol-phoenix-feather]

the guy i like just told me that he likes my friend, and ‘is it obvious?’

…

this may be the most cliche thing to ever happen to me

[smol-phoenix-feather]

this was over a year ago now and it's honestly the best thing to have ever happened to me hehehehehe

[smol-phoenix-feather]

over thinking

maybe reading too much into things isn't just a side effect of being an infj- maybe it's an unhealthy symptom?

just a thought

[smol-phoenix-feather]

yesterday I read two books in four hours.

(sometimes I wonder why I'm 39 books behind on my goodreads challenge if I have the ability to read two books in four hours.)

"the dream walker" - magical realism. australian small town. genuinely good writing. 🌿🌿🌿🌿

"suitors and sabotage" - about suitors and a sprinkle of sabotage. kinda clunky description. the silly romance we all need sometimes. 🌿🌿

[spent-deactivated20180912]

"talk about" is a lot cuter than ask me

[hauntified-deactivated20210730]

1: Talk about the first time you watched your favorite movie.

2: Talk about your first kiss.

3: Talk about the person you've had the most intense romantic feelings for.

4: Talk about the thing you regret most so far.

5: Talk about the best birthday you've had.

6: Talk about the worst birthday you've had.

7: Talk about your biggest insecurity.

8: Talk about the thing you are most proud of.

9: Talk about little things on your body that you like the most.

10: Talk about the biggest fight you've ever had.

11: Talk about the best dream you've ever had.

12: Talk about the worst dream you've ever had.

13: Talk about the first time you had sex/how you imagine your first time.

14: Talk about a vacation.

15: Talk about the time you were most content in life.

16: Talk about the best party you've ever been to.

17: Talk about someone you want to be friends with.

18: Talk about something that happened in elementary school.

19: Talk about something that happened in middle school.

20: Talk about something that happened in high school.

21: Talk about a time you had to turn someone down.

22: Talk about your worst fear.

23: Talk about a time someone turned you down.

24: Talk about something someone told you that meant a lot.

25: Talk about an ex-best friend.

26: Talk about things you do when you're sick.

27: Talk about your favorite part of someone else's body.

28: Talk about your fetishes.

29: Talk about what turns you on.

30: Talk about what turns you off.

31: Talk about what you think death is like.

32: Talk about a place you remember from your childhood.

33: Talk about what you do when you are sad.

34: Talk about the worst physical pain you've endured.

35: Talk about things you wish you could stop doing.

36: Talk about your guilty pleasures.

37: Talk about someone you thought you were in love with.

38: Talk about songs that remind you of certain people.

39: Talk about things you wish you'd known earlier.

40: Talk about the end of something in your life.

pls

[petalya]

in therapy my therapist and i were talking about my own feelings of self worth in relationships. and she asked me to say qualities about myself that someone else would be attracted to, on a romantic and platonic level. so i named some things like compassionate, empathetic, etc. and she said “you named things that you can give someone. ways you can serve, rather than ways that you are” and y'all..my mind was blown that’s gonna stick with me forever like she then proceed to tell me actual innate qualities about myself that she liked and thought anyone else would like as well and i hadn’t even considered those because like she said i was focused on things i could do outwardly to attract and maintain connections rather than who i was as a person..goddamn!!! thats tea!!!

[petalya]

With this in mind, this also makes me think of the ways people describe us. When people say the reasons that they love/like you or describe you as a person, are they only naming ways that you serve them? Are they equating your worth with how much you do for them?

ex. “You’re such a good listener. You’re so generous, you’re so compassionate. You’re always there for me. You always hold me down. You’re reliable”

vs.

“You’re so funny! You’re very vibrant. You’re creative, passionate, and intelligent. You’re optimistic. You’re so talented at ____” , etc. I think that’s very telling.

[hauntified-deactivated20210730]

This FUCKED relationships up too because once this hit me, I realized people can just be in love with the way you make them feel instead of who you actually are. ALWAYS pay attention to the last little “vs” bit there because it IS super telling

[smol-phoenix-feather]

infjs are different

I got called "different" today.

I have to admit that it got me thinking.

Maybe I am a little different. Maybe I am a little quirky. Maybe I do switch between serious and joking far too quickly. Maybe I do cry at injustice and keep quiet during loud conversation. Maybe I do think about people logically and analyse my life with words. Maybe I do speak gently and struggle to use coherent sentences, but write far easier.

Maybe I am a bit different after all.

Maybe that's not such a bad thing.

[dearestvita-deactivated20221122]

“There’s something about her—people don’t seem to be able to love her clearly and serenely: they have to love her too much.”

— Rosamond Lehmann, from Dusty Answer

[sunshinae]

i think reading together is one of the loveliest things two people can do. reading out loud to each other, or reading two different books while lounging on the floor seems so dreamy.

[smol-phoenix-feather]

infj love languages

- making you tea

- lending a beloved book

- showing you their favourite movie that you've never seen

- stargazing

- showing you their art/writing/secrets

- making expressions w/ you across the circle

- big, genuine smiles w/ intense eyes

- letting you hear their dirty jokes whispered under their breath

- listening to your problems

- spending time w/ you when they should be doing something else

[dearestvita-deactivated20221122]

making someone a cup of tea as a love language

[smol-phoenix-feather]

I think this is mine

[deforbes-deactivated20200831]

2019-2020 school year is fast approaching kids

A list of reminders that are mainly for myself

Sleep

Sleep is really important

Don't stay up till 11-12 every night you will cry the next day

GET BACK ON SCHEDULE NOW SO YOU DON'T DIE THE FIRST WEEK OF SCHOOL

Practice good sleep hygiene by getting into good habits before bed (I personally brush my teeth, change into my pjs, lay out clothes for the next day, then go make myself a mug of sleepy time tea to drink while I read)

Try to find a place to chill on your phone/read/do other not school/work related things that isn't your bed

SLEEP FOR THE LOVE OF GOD PULLING AN ALL NIGHTER WILL NOT HELP YOU IT IS TOO LATE MY FRIENDS

Organization

Color code

Color code some more

Color code everything

Color coding is helpful if you enjoy visual learning and it makes things pretty

You know highlighting in pretty colors makes you happy don't lie

You're told to buy all your supplies beforehand but if you're a high school student honestly don't

Buy everything you know you'll need (paper, pencils, highlighters, pens, etc.)

Then after the first day when your teachers give you the supply lists you can fill in whatever you don't have

USE THE DOLLAR STORE THEY HAVE RELATIVELY DECENT STATIONARY FOR DIRT CHEAP

That's where I buy all my comp books and I got a really cute cat one there once

This will save you a ton of money

Try to keep your desk relatively clean but it's ok if it gets a little messy don't stress

Try to keep all your school stuff in one place

If you have classes that don't have required notebook set ups then take notes for all those classes in one notebook and transfer the notes into subject notebooks at home save your backs

COLOR CODE

For my fellow IBD, Crohn's, UC, IBS, lactose intolerant, or friends with severe food allergies

Don't eat your trigger foods during the school year

It's tempting but then you will cry

And since most GI conditions are aggravated by stress missing more school/work because of a flare will cause stress and make it worse

Don't make the mistakes I made last school year I beg

Rest when you need to

School is hard with chronic illness, make sure you take care of yourselves

Mentally ill friends

AGENDAS

I know they can be hard to use but planning things and breaking stuff down into small pieces really does help

I use an app called Egenda which let's me organize things by class and gives me notifications to get my shit done

REST

Get proper sleep because mental illness is draining

Don't stay up till 11 just cause you wanna talk to friends it will catch up to you

Your friends want you to take care of yourself so sleep

Eat properly

Even if it's something small for breakfast it's better than nothing

Make sure you're in classes you can handle

You might have the intelligence for AP but you may not have the stamina, that's ok

School is about learning not competition don't push yourself too hard

Food

Eat friends

Try to eat at least one fruit and veggie every day

You will feel better

Avoid diets during the school year unless necessary, stressing about food just adds more stress to your life

HYDRATE HYDRATE HYDRATE HYDRATE HYDRATE HYDRATE

Dehydration is as killer when you live in a hot area

Please don't die

You are loved

Apps (my personal favorites)

Egenda - digital agenda

Desmos - graphing calculator

Quizlet - this app isn't just for cheating, you can create flashcards, quizzes, and more and it saved my ass on some of my finals last year

Khan is well loved for a reason, it's a great supplement program

Other

School counselor's really aren't great to talk to about mental health issues, they're there for scheduling and handling school problems like bullying and such

If you can, find a therapist, seriously

Find good friends who support you

STAY OUT OF DRAMA

Eat at lunchtime, you need that boost to power through the rest of the day

Stay hydrated too, carry a water bottle

READ

ENRICH YOURSELF

LIBRARIES EXIST FOR A REASON GO FIND A GOOD BOOK

For incoming freshman

Don't try to look cool

Stay out of drama it's not worth it

Don't feel pressured to date just because everyone else is

That senior is not actually interested in you, you're just easy to control

Upperclassmen can be rude but if you find some cool ones make friends with them cause they can warn you about teachers and classes and help you navigate your new school

Try to have good relationships with your teachers, people may call you a teacher's pet but there are perks to a teacher liking you

My bio teacher once called me up beginning of class just to show me a cat meme cause I have an "I like cats" pin

You can't get by doing nothing like in middle school and teachers are a lot stricter, now is the time to learn the value of hard work

Fights aren't worth it, if someone is challenging you just let it go

AND REMEMBER:

Grades do not define you.

You are loved.

You will succeed.

[realentjbutitmightchangetbh]

why INFJS are attractive

- they’re actually nice

- they’re mildly insane because of Ni followed by Fe

- quirky

- they’re clueless when it comes to some jokes and it’s really funny 

- when they’re angry they go to Ti, and it’s the truest most righteous anger I’ve ever seen. The only anger I cower under. And it’s low-key attractive 

- their eyes look like the ocean

- their eyes are so calm. The calmest. So serene 

- they always know how to help me

- they’re nerds

- some of the only people who understand my history/music references

- they actually think

- for some reason they’re naturally good looking. I have a theory that if you’re a good person you’ll be good looking- because even if someone supposedly good looking is mean, they’re suddenly ugly. 

there are many more reasons but I’m in Fi mode and I should stop.