Normalize Sober Living

Run by @space-bones-official. Sober, teetotaler, straight edge lifestyle. Addict and sober curious safe space.

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It's never too late to be on day one.

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I'm not sure if this blog is still active or not, but I am so glad to have found it. Lot's of really interesting and inspiring things to see/read here. I am currently 18 days sober as of today. In an hour though it'll be 19 lol. So much is going on in life it's easy to think about picking up a drink again, but blogs like this and my meetings and such are very helpful when calming the mind. Thank you for your posts, and I hope to see more of them. <3

Hi there!

This blog IS still active I've just been busy. I hope to bring it back soon <3

I'm super glad that my blog has reached you. I'm proud of your sobriety and I hope your journey continues to go well.

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“we need an alcohol free queer space for adults with no friends to meet each other”

[allie-leth]

I have to say, I do enjoy alcohol in queer spaces where I'm meeting new people. It makes it a little easier for everyone involved.

[sinsinewave]

i personally do like my drinks with alcohol, but having a bunch of friends who don't, i think the best option is just doing both that is, safe queer spaces for adults where both alcoholic and nonalcoholic drinks are available in about equal qualities and quantities if the safety of the location is adequately maintained, that should be a non-issue

[a-polite-melody]

No, I’m sorry, but addicts need spaces where their drug of choice is not being offered freely. Queer spaces cannot all be serving alcohol just because they also serve the same level or quality non-alcoholic drinks unless we want to be forcing addicts out of queer communities. Which I’m not too keen on myself, considering how often addiction comes about from trying to numb yourself to things such as bigotry you may face through the day or being forced to hide your identity.

[the-dracologist]

#yes this isnt about infantilization or sanitization#its about having sober spaces for those in recovery#bc while some may be able to handle being around alcohol & other things while in recovery that is not always the case#esp for those at the start of a recovery#and the queer community has such high high rates of sud exactly like last commenter said#& these spaces will also benefit others of course#but this reaction of like 'oh asking for sober spaces means ur just some loser child' is highly ableist#consider for once that your life experience is not the only one thats out there. have some fucking empathy#<- prev tags because you’re so fucking right#also like. some of us are uncomfortable in non sober spaces not because we’re softie loser wimps but because we’ve had rly bad experiences#and not ur uuuuu drunk ppl scawyyyy types but as in full on abuse whether that’s been from family or friends or partners or strangers#the addiction and the discomfort from background reasons and the social pressure are all very real reasons

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[mypatchworkreflection]

These are suggested for serving to recovering alcoholics, but I think they’re just fun and cool anyway? I like a fancy beverage, it doesn’t have to have booze. That cucumber Collins sounds refreshing AF

[shark-yaoi]

@space-bones-official thought of your sobriety blog ^^

[kaijuno]

IM JUST A RECOVERY COACH THAT IS FUCKING BEGGING YALL TO USE DRUGS SMARTER. IF YOU’RE GONNA USE, THEN YOU’RE GONNA USE. I CANNOT STOP YOU. JUST BE SAFE AND EDUCATED.

[kaijuno]

Always use clean needles. Most pharmacies sell over the counter narcan. There are hotlines that will talk to you as you’re using, judgement free, they’re just there to make sure you don’t OD. I’m begging y’all to utilize these resources.

[kaijuno]

And I know that you’re in the trenches when you’re using. I was an addict. I’ve been in the trenches myself. And I was able to pull myself out and I know you can too. And I know that it starts with the destigmatizing and non judgement of those who use

[myshrinkanditalkaboutlove]

[kaijuno]

Also: NURSES AND EMTS ARE NOT NARCS. HIPAA EXISTS. ALWAYS tell medical professionals what drugs you’ve been on.

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When I was a little kid, my parents took me to the Backyardigans live show. It was hosted at a concert hall that would typically serve alcohol when it had an event, however because this was a kids event, they served juice boxes and pop only. Because it was a kids event. The kids, the primary audience of the show cannot legally be under the influence, and their parents/caretakers need to be alert enough to manage them and drive them home. The parents should be happy to spend time together with their children and go to an event that makes their little ones happy. The children's happiness should be enough, the adults shouldn't need incentive to attend a 45 minute puppet show.

I went to Sesame Street Live this past week. This was at a similar venue in a different city 15 years later. I'm an adult now and I went even though I don't have kids because I love the work of Jim Henson and I think the legacy of Sesame Street is very interesting. I assumed that the bar at the venue would not be serving alcohol, just pop and juice, along with their regular snack items. I was wrong. The menu didn't change from any other event.

The amount of adults who were double fisting booze was uncountable. The amount of people who couldn't sit through an hour show (plus a 20 minute intermission) without being buzzed made me upset. The amount of couples who were both drinking and then driving their children home afterwards was dangerous.

1. If you are venue hosting a children's show, change your menu to cater to your children. No alcohol, and add choices that make sense. If you're concerned about money I promise you, parents will still spend $4 on a juice box.

2. If you are a parent and you can't handle doing something that you don't want to do without lightly intoxicating yourself, you have a social drinking problem and you need help. Either get help and get better, or don't go to kids events.

Drinking is too normalized in parenthood. Consider the influence you are having on your children. What example are you setting for them? That you're allowed to just poison yourself anytime you don't want to do something? That going to an event as a family is so embarrassing that adults need to loosen up? I know this isn't your intention but it's what your children might see.

Alcohol is a carcinogenic substance. Do your part to be there for your kids: quit and get help or support if you need it.

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Happy pride month to my sober queers, straight edge queers, teetotaler queers, recovering queers and addict queers. I hope this month treats you well.

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Hi! Thank you for your blog.

3 days sober now and despite the love I feel for my friends, I’m afraid to see them now. Like, what if I’m actually a boring person without buzz? (I’m pretty shy and insicure) what if they won’t like me anymore? Sorry if this ask bothers you it’s okay if you don’t want to reply.

Anyway I really love your blog

Ahhh happy 6 days now! I hope your sobriety journey goes well and that you're getting the help and support you need. You are NOT boring because of your sobriety, and if people don't like you or think you're boring now, they're the problem.

I do hope your friends understand. I find that social drinkers get uncomfortable around sober people because it makes them confront their own issues with alcohol, even if they're very small issues. That discomfort is normal, and I think if they're expressing this, you just need to give them time to adjust and offer support if they need it.

However, if their discomfort turns into an attack on you, whether it be overt or passive, they might not be people you want to be around anymore. Try talking to them, but if they're still taking it personally, consider if you still want to be around them. It hurts, yes, but we all deserve support specific to us. If you value people who don't see you as boring because you're sober, seek out those people and distance yourself from people who don't respect that if needed.

I don't know if this helps, but if you take anything from this: respect goes both ways so give your non-sober friends some time to adjust if needed, but also advocate for yourself and make decisions that benefit your sobriety.

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I've said it once, and I'll say it again. Don't get people alcohol as a gift. You might not know if they're struggling, and they might also not realize that they're struggling. Even if you know them well, just don't.

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someone in my recovery meeting last night was talking about how concerned they were about developing a sugar addiction to deal with not drinking anymore. and since I couldn’t say this to them at the time. here:

sugar addiction is not real

sugar is not evil

the reason you might crave a lot of sugar when you quit alcohol is because alcohol contains sugar

this doesn’t mean you’re addicted to sugar it means your body is still learning how to adjust to the removal of a previously major source of sugar

you may need additional calories in your diet to make up for the calories you are no longer getting from alcohol

it is fine and normal and natural to eat more food when you’re not drinking anymore, especially in the early stages of recovery

be patient with yourself. be compassionate with yourself. things take time

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Today is the last day of 2024. Tomorrow is the day that new year's resolutions will start, and people will try and break their bad habits or create new habits. Lots of people will attempt to participate in Dry January as well. Just a reminder:

You aren't a bad person if you fail to meet a goal, or if it doesn't go as planned.

You're allowed to adjust goals as you go to meet yourself where you're at.

You're allowed to start your goals after January 1st too if you feel like you aren't going to be ready. (Just remember to try and set a deadline so you can actually do it when you're ready.)

You can always ask for help if you need it.

If you took the effort to set a goal, it's likely something that means a lot to you. Don't give up! Even if you make mistakes or face setbacks, it's still absolutely worth your time to accomplish your goals.

Stay safe everyone! Happy new year.

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It's coming up to a season full of family and friends gatherings. If you are hosting one of these gatherings, here are some ways to support the sober people in your life (even if they haven't told you yet)

1. Don't give alcohol as a present. To anyone. You don't know where someone may be, even if you know them really well, so just don't force that onto anyone.

2. Serve lots of NA options. If you can go completely NA, that would be insanely cool on your part, but if you can't, then provide as many alternatives as you can. Make it a goal to offer the same amount, if not more, NA drinks.

3. Have a private room/area that you can turn into a "quiet time" room. If you notice someone who is just not having a good time, or isn't being themselves, tell them where the space is, and that they are allowed to use it if they need it. This isn't even just for people struggling with substance use, the holidays can be hard for a lot of people, and sometimes a quiet space is nice. (Bonus points if you put some puzzle books etc in there).

4. Don't ask why someone isn't drinking. It's none of your business. Maybe they're working on something, maybe they have health issues, maybe they're pregnant, maybe they're just punk enough to realize drinking sucks. Even if they do answer, it might change the atmosphere of the gathering. If someone else is pestering the sober guests, deal with it. Keep them safe.

4.5. If someone DOES tell you their reason without being asked, support them 100%.

5. AS A SUGGESTION, as the host, set an example and don't drink. If you can't do this, that's fine, but it definitely helps others feel comfortable if at least one other person is in the same booze free boat.

6. Be safe. Whether or not you're getting clean this winter, be careful, be smart, get help if you need, advocate for yourself or others.

6.5. Even if you haven't hit rock bottom, or aren't an addict, please consider sobriety. Just try it. Start on New Year's if you need to. You will inspire others who need it.

Add on if you have anything else 💜

[starsstar]

It's v interesting to see how desperate these sober idiots are to make people unhappy

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Then don't have sober friends. Hope you find healing soon.

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If "doing it scared" to you means do it sober, then maybe you need to do it sober.

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I think the definition of a "social drinker" is a person who is able to celebrate someone else's sobriety until it makes them uncomfortable about their own substance use.

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DIRECTIONS IN STRAIGHTAGE:

• Hardliners are the strictest offshoot of the Straight edge subculture. The ideology of hardline was formulated by Vegan Reich vocalist Sean Muttaki. It involves the rejection of harmful substances. Hardliners do not consume coffee and energy drinks, considering caffeine to be a drug, and also refuse alcohol, nicotine and drugs. Strict dietary regime. Hardliners consume only non-animal food (strict veganism). A conservative attitude towards sex. Sex before marriage, refusal to view and buy porn products, refusal of artificial contraception and a ban on abortions are condemned. Sex is allowed only for the purpose of conception and in no other way. Most of the hardliners are active members of the Animal Liberation Front and the Earth Liberation Front. Activists release animals from scientific laboratories and livestock farms, find shelter and veterinary care for them.

•Militant sXe is an extremely radical offshoot of the straight edge subculture. 13 Its representatives fight by any means (up to violent ones) for the split of their ideas in society, as well as against any kind of drug addicts (including alcohol and tobacco) and the spread of light and heavy drugs. Representatives of the militant sXe are engaged in direct actions: they hold demonstrations, release animals from cages, smash alcohol and porn shops, as well as shops with furs and leather. At the origins of the militant movement was a group of young people from Boston who called themselves FSU (Friends Stand Together). Some of them worked as bouncers in clubs, caught drug dealers, destroyed drugs and took money, which was their main livelihood.

•Softline sXe (from English — "soft line" or "lax course") is an offshoot of the straight edge subculture, which opposes any kind of violation of human rights, animal rights, violence and violent acts, as well as universal equality. Softliners do not smoke, do not use drugs, alcohol, caffeine and do not have casual or promiscuous sexual relations. In addition, they fight against discrimination based on religion, gender or age and advocate for animal rights (they are vegetarians or vegans). Possible forms of nonviolent action by softliners: dissemination of propaganda information, oral propaganda among people around, boycotting products of companies related to the exploitation of animals, their killing, vivisection, holding concerts, demonstrations and pickets dedicated to specific topics.

•Vegan sXe is a direction of the straight edge subculture, which involves the complete rejection of animal products.

• Christian straightforward style. The Christian healthy lifestyle adheres to the path of complete rejection of what destroys the spirit, soul and body, he sets the main task to develop relationships with God and bring the principles of the Kingdom of God to people, in particular freedom from poisons, stimulants, drugs, bad habits, to bring love to people in practice, to reconcile them with Jesus. He keeps to this path because of his faith in Jesus Christ. A Christian's choice of a healthy lifestyle is an absolute rejection of drugs (light or not) - alcohol, tobacco, caffeine, etc. He can refuse that there is a drug for him personally. Sex before marriage, infidelity, and divorce are excluded. Same-sex relationships are considered a sin. Racial and national discrimination are rejected. A Christian is how he tries to love all people and does not notice that he is the main one for the ignorant. The evil of other people, in his opinion, will be punished by God. I am a person who sees that life has meaning and a scientific plan for everyone, and that a person can become a second if he gives up this very serious path to God.

P.S.: this author does not consider himself to be any other of these dirictions.

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It's coming up to a season full of family and friends gatherings. If you are hosting one of these gatherings, here are some ways to support the sober people in your life (even if they haven't told you yet)

1. Don't give alcohol as a present. To anyone. You don't know where someone may be, even if you know them really well, so just don't force that onto anyone.

2. Serve lots of NA options. If you can go completely NA, that would be insanely cool on your part, but if you can't, then provide as many alternatives as you can. Make it a goal to offer the same amount, if not more, NA drinks.

3. Have a private room/area that you can turn into a "quiet time" room. If you notice someone who is just not having a good time, or isn't being themselves, tell them where the space is, and that they are allowed to use it if they need it. This isn't even just for people struggling with substance use, the holidays can be hard for a lot of people, and sometimes a quiet space is nice. (Bonus points if you put some puzzle books etc in there).

4. Don't ask why someone isn't drinking. It's none of your business. Maybe they're working on something, maybe they have health issues, maybe they're pregnant, maybe they're just punk enough to realize drinking sucks. Even if they do answer, it might change the atmosphere of the gathering. If someone else is pestering the sober guests, deal with it. Keep them safe.

4.5. If someone DOES tell you their reason without being asked, support them 100%.

5. AS A SUGGESTION, as the host, set an example and don't drink. If you can't do this, that's fine, but it definitely helps others feel comfortable if at least one other person is in the same booze free boat.

6. Be safe. Whether or not you're getting clean this winter, be careful, be smart, get help if you need, advocate for yourself or others.

6.5. Even if you haven't hit rock bottom, or aren't an addict, please consider sobriety. Just try it. Start on New Year's if you need to. You will inspire others who need it.

Add on if you have anything else 💜