It's coming up to a season full of family and friends gatherings. If you are hosting one of these gatherings, here are some ways to support the sober people in your life (even if they haven't told you yet)
1. Don't give alcohol as a present. To anyone. You don't know where someone may be, even if you know them really well, so just don't force that onto anyone.
2. Serve lots of NA options. If you can go completely NA, that would be insanely cool on your part, but if you can't, then provide as many alternatives as you can. Make it a goal to offer the same amount, if not more, NA drinks.
3. Have a private room/area that you can turn into a "quiet time" room. If you notice someone who is just not having a good time, or isn't being themselves, tell them where the space is, and that they are allowed to use it if they need it. This isn't even just for people struggling with substance use, the holidays can be hard for a lot of people, and sometimes a quiet space is nice. (Bonus points if you put some puzzle books etc in there).
4. Don't ask why someone isn't drinking. It's none of your business. Maybe they're working on something, maybe they have health issues, maybe they're pregnant, maybe they're just punk enough to realize drinking sucks. Even if they do answer, it might change the atmosphere of the gathering. If someone else is pestering the sober guests, deal with it. Keep them safe.
4.5. If someone DOES tell you their reason without being asked, support them 100%.
5. AS A SUGGESTION, as the host, set an example and don't drink. If you can't do this, that's fine, but it definitely helps others feel comfortable if at least one other person is in the same booze free boat.
6. Be safe. Whether or not you're getting clean this winter, be careful, be smart, get help if you need, advocate for yourself or others.
6.5. Even if you haven't hit rock bottom, or aren't an addict, please consider sobriety. Just try it. Start on New Year's if you need to. You will inspire others who need it.
Add on if you have anything else 💜
