Soft Life Gaby 🪷

Millenial girlie creating a cosy life in LoFi mode. Yoga lover🧘🏻‍♀️ Engaged 💍

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Proud to see that Madrid is PROUD 🥹

Madrid, Spain. June 2026.

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I’ve found my people

Madrid, Spain. June 2026 💗💜💙

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I’ve been MIA for a while, because the stress and anxiety were too high. But delighted to say that my visa as a fiancée of a British person has been granted! 🥹👰🏻‍♀️🤵🏻‍♂️

This is my last week in Madrid and I’m going to England on Sunday. I thought I’d be going all sorts of places here, but I’m just so mentally and physically exhausted that I’m just looking forward to go home and sleep like for a week straight lol 😂

As per my visa, I have 6 months to get married. But that will be happening much sooner anyway!

Thank you, Madrid! You’ve been good to me 🇪🇸 🇬🇧

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El cielo de Madrid ☁️ 🥹

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Flowers, coffee and colouring 🥰

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Soft spring morning 🍵

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Craft time 🌸

Tea light candle holder decorated with real dried and pressed flowers 🌹

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You are allowed to start over. As many times as it takes. Each time you do, you bring more wisdom, more courage, and more of your true self.

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Green tea 🍵

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Freshly roasted pumpkin seeds 💚

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☕️ 💧

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Bring in the iced coffees and iced lattes! Love me this sort of energy 😌✨💫

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“Let your hope be strong” 🥹

I really needed this yoga practice today 🧘🏻‍♀️

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Egg on a cheesy hot cross bun 🍳

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Savoury hot cross buns are the real deal 😌

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On the other side of a Borderline Episode and trying to get my pieces (and life) together while applying for my visa and planning my wedding

TW BPD, depression and body dysmorphia mentions

Something that I don’t often talk about on here is my huge struggles with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and other mental health issues. That’s why my *need* for a soft life is so deep and visceral…because life has been hard and painful for so long.

Every time I have a change on meds or I start I new therapy plan, I tend to get very disregarded, because it’s like re-living so much of my trauma all over again. And if there are triggering situations or people all at the same time, it’s even worse.

I’m getting ready for a wedding while praying and hoping they will actually grant me the visa I need to go ahead with it…and I have to apply for it while being outside of the UK…so leaving my fiancé behind and most of the only semblance of normalcy and safety I’ve had for the last two years.

I’m so scared…I’m hopeful but terrified. The amount of money that’s gone to solicitors and paperwork is insane. And the solicitors are pretty confident in my case, but still…

Lack of autonomy and uncertainty are *big* triggers for me. Plus difficult family dynamics with MIL.

All in all, I’m on the max dose of SNRI, trying Talkworks, trying to figure out other sorts of therapy for my other issues, having the most awful time with my body dysmorphia trying wedding dresses with my MIL (tiny village and no really other people my age to relate to) and all in all, I had a massive crashout that lasted 4 days and I don’t remember most of it…

I’m trying so hard to get my life together, but sometimes it’s really hard and terrifying doesn’t even describe it while I struggle to brush my teeth, eat decent food and start packing my luggage slowly to go abroad hoping for the best.

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Lining up my Friday 13th entertainment 😌