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[someonewhowilllisten]

can i use your submit page to ask longer questions?

Yes, of course! (:

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You can’t keep asking me to tell you how I am. I think you’ve heard it enough. I’m tired.

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Moving on includes accepting reality.

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[someonewhowilllisten]

Hi! :) I have social anxiety really bad, I'm shy and insecure. I'm so flipping lonely. I moved to where I'm living now, about a year ago, and i know people, but I've always been too shy to develop a friendship or ask them to hang out. It's holidays and i haven't done anything yet and i wanted to ask a group if they want to catch a movie, I don't know them well but I've talked to them. Should i ask or is that weird? This is probably minor but its way out of my comfort zone. Help? xx

Honestly, I understand. Dealing with these types of things are difficult when they are outside of your comfort zone. My strategy for these things is to keep the thought in my mind that the worst thing they can do is say no. On the other side of the spectrum, the best thing that could happen is that they say yes and then you have a great opportunity to connect with some new people (:

After I work up the courage to do something, in the moment I usually still have trouble following through. My tactic for this is to basically stop thinking for just long enough to blurt it out or to hit send on a text so that I make sure I go through with it.

Have a wonderful break (:I hope this helps <3

[someonewhowilllisten]

so i met this guy on tinder, and we had a great conversation going on for a week before we went on our first date. the date was amazing, it went on for hours and neither of us seemed eager for it to end. it never got awkward and we had a lot in common, and i thought we really connected. he even told me that he wasnt interested in matching with anyone else on tinder. the date ended, and i texted him that i had a great time. its been 2 days and he hasnt answered. what went wrong?

This can be for many possible reasons, depending on the situation.  I think that the most likely is he may not have gotten the message.  Sometimes phones get lost or they break or maybe it was just that the messages didn’t go through.  Try sending something again or messaging him in a different place.  Don’t give up on him just yet.  On the contrary, don’t get too attached to him either because there is still a chance that something else happened.

I hope this helps <3

[someonewhowilllisten]

Okay I've been thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend of a year. Today I mentioned how it would be if we broke up and I honestly wanted to right there and then he get all upset I was asking and in my head I was hoping he would just do it. Later he said we'd work it out. And I don't know what to do. Usually I'm super in love with him but lately I just resent him and I'll tell my friends I want to break up with him and think about is seriously. am I rushing should I think more about it

It sounds like you’ve made up your mind already, thinking about it any longer will just make you unhappy and stressed.  From my point of view, you have two options, you can either break it off with him completely or you can try to take a break.  Breaks need a set time, like two weeks, then you have a fresh point of view to make a good decision.  

There is one thing you should be aware of though, a lot of breaks do end in break ups.  Sometimes the other person does not want to take a break and just breaks it off completely instead.  Theres no harm in trying though, either it works or it doesn’t, it depends on the couple.  You should just be prepared and don’t get your hopes up.

I hope this helps <3

[someonewhowilllisten]

Hiya, I'm guess I'm not after advice as such but I want to ask a question about my sexuality. I'm confused. My boyfriend was talking to me the other day and he thinks I'm Asexual. I'm a female, I develop feelings for both male and females. I also find people of both genders attractive, however, I'm not sexually attracted to anyone, I don't particularly enjoy sex (though I do take part in it for my boyfriend) and I very much hate the idea of me ever masturbating and I've genuinely never done it.

Sounds to me like your boyfriend is right.  Asexual generally describes someone who does not have sexual feelings towards others.  It’s definitely not a bad thing, it’s just like putting a name to a face, it makes it easier to describe.

I hope this helps <3

[someonewhowilllisten]

Don't ever hesitate. Reblog this. TUMBLR RULE. When you see it, REBLOG IT.

The original post only has US helplines. I've added UK helplines underneath. It would be great if people could add numbers from everywhere in the world.

Depression Hotline: [phone]

Suicide Hotline: [phone]

LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255

Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386

Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743

Eating Disorders Hotline: [phone]

Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673

Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272

Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000

Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253

Child Abuse: 1-800-422-4453

UK Helplines:

Samaritans (for any problem): 08457909090 e-mail [email protected]

Childline (for anyone under 18 with any problem): 08001111

Mind infoline (mental health information): 0300 123 3393 e-mail: [email protected]

Mind legal advice (for people who need mental-health related legal advice): 0300 466 6463 [email protected]

b-eat eating disorder support: 0845 634 14 14 (only open Mon-Fri 10.30am-8.30pm and Saturday 1pm-4.30pm) e-mail: [email protected]

b-eat youthline (for under 25's with eating disorders): 08456347650 (open Mon-Fri 4.30pm - 8.30pm, Saturday 1pm-4.30pm)

Cruse Bereavement Care: 08444779400 e-mail: [email protected]

Frank (information and advice on drugs): 0800776600

Drinkline: 0800 9178282

Rape Crisis England & Wales: 0808 802 9999 1(open 2 - 2.30pm 7 - 9.30pm) e-mail [email protected]

Rape Crisis Scotland: 08088 01 03 02 every day, 6pm to midnight

India Self Harm Hotline: [phone]

India Suicide Helpline: 022-27546669

Kids Help Phone (Canada): 1-800-668-6868, Free and available 24/7

suicide hotlines;

Argentina: 54-0223-493-0430

Australia: 13-11-14

Austria: 01-713-3374

Barbados: 429-9999

Belgium: 106

Botswana: 391-1270

Brazil: 21-233-9191

China: 852-2382-0000

(Hong Kong: 2389-2222)

Costa Rica: 606-253-5439

Croatia: 01-4833-888

Cyprus: 357-77-77-72-67

Czech Republic: 222-580-697, 476-701-908

Denmark: 70-201-201

Egypt: 762-1602

Estonia: 6-558-088

Finland: 040-5032199

France: 01-45-39-4000

Germany: 0800-181-0721

Greece: 1018

Guatemala: 502-234-1239

Holland: 0900-0767

Honduras: 504-237-3623

Hungary: 06-80-820-111

Iceland: 44-0-8457-90-90-90

Israel: 09-8892333

Italy: 06-705-4444

Japan: 3-5286-9090

Latvia: 6722-2922, 2772-2292

Malaysia: 03-756-8144

(Singapore: 1-800-221-4444)

Mexico: 525-510-2550

Netherlands: 0900-0767

New Zealand: 4-473-9739

New Guinea: 675-326-0011

Nicaragua: 505-268-6171

Norway: 47-815-33-300

Philippines: 02-896-9191

Poland: 52-70-000

Portugal: 239-72-10-10

Russia: 8-20-222-82-10

Spain: 91-459-00-50

South Africa: 0861-322-322

South Korea: 2-715-8600

Sweden: 031-711-2400

Switzerland: 143

Taiwan: 0800-788-995

Thailand: 02-249-9977

Trinidad and Tobago: 868-645-2800

Ukraine: 0487-327715

[someonewhowilllisten]

Just wanted to say that your blog is amazing and I love you to death. <3 <3

Thank you so much <3

I really appreciate these messages, it really makes me feel like I’m helping people (: thank you for reading and feel free to message me any time about anything

[someonewhowilllisten]

Hey. I am a boy and my best friend is a female. She's been dating this guy for 7 months now and I hate him. He's always mean to me, and I can't stand him. He's always nice to her, but never ever nice to anyone else. I think he's an asshole, which is weird because she's one of the nicest people I know. I think she deserves a lot more than him, and I don't know what to do or think anymore. That guy is a sociopath and he never does anything FOR her. Can you give me some sort of advice?

To be honest, I think that you should just tell her that.  Do you best to not sound accusatory towards her or her boyfriend.  Tell her that you are doing this because you care about her and that she deserves so much more.  Tell her that he is very different when she isn’t around.  He is rude to many people including you.  Don’t say that you hate him or she will just assume you are being selfish.  Try to be supportive and understanding of her side of things as well. 

I hope this helps <3

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If it matters to you, it’s not stupid.

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Reblog if this is true for your blog

[six-foot-two-phanchild]

I waited to reblog til i saw asexual. Thank youuu

[ray-vin]

I don’t even care if you’re sexually attracted to trees. 

[transphysics]

The first transgender suicide hotline in the US

[someonewhowilllisten]

transphysics:

For the first time, there is a hotline in the US that is staffed entirely by transgender people, to serve transgender people.  Everyone in the trans community needs to be spreading this around.  Lives could be saved.

You can reach Trans Lifeline at 877-565-8860

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But storms won’t last, they clear the air, for something new.

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[someonewhowilllisten]

Hi I could use some advice. I met my boyfriend's family for the first time last weekend (stayed at their house). I though they were really chill and I felt really comfortable, but then after I left they told my boyfriend I was really hard to talk to. I won't interact with them again for a while cause they live far away but I'm not sure what to do. Should I just ignore it for now and put more effort into talking next time?

I would leave it alone for now.  Once you have another opportunity to reach out to them, even to say hi, go for it.  Next time you are around them, try to go out of you’re way to start some open ended conversations and to elaborate on their conversation starters as well.

I hope this helps <3

[someonewhowilllisten]

Omg. I remember asking a question about a year or two ago on another acc. It's nice to see you on tumblr again. You really helped me. I never got to thank you. I am a better person with the advice you gave me.

This definitely made my week <3 It means so much to hear from you and know that my advice really improved your life (:

Thank you so much for reading

I’m so glad I could help <3

[kari-shma]

Be brave. Take risks. Nothing can substitute experience.

Paulo Coelho