stanfem of all time

radical lesbian, woman of color, that bitch, yes that bitch

[roach000fister-remade-deactivat]

i was tagged by @keziamydarling to post my lock screen, the last song i listened to and the last photo i saved ^_^ ty 🫶

i tag @zaraki-fempachi @femgoddess-hecate @showertaker @swaglet and everyone who wants to do this too ^_^🫶

[femgoddess-hecate]

Omg thank u angel 💖 i love stuff like this!

Lockscreen:

(Ignore the warnings I'm running out of space lol)

Last song:

And last photo i downloaded:

(In a skyrim mood rn 😂)

I will tag: @swagging-back-to @germananon @pink-pill-stacy @flowerlygirls and @oracle-cassandra bc some of u tagged me in smth and I love u for it! I just kinda did the game already sowwy 👉👈 i did see it tho 💕💕💕💕💕 ur all my angels

Feel free to do it if u want to!

[flowerlygirls]

heehee i love these games thank u honey ^~^

first is my lockscreen, second the last song i listened to (yes yes i know pls do ignore the playlist name)

and last pic i saved to my phone is this

im tagging @girlentity @malewaifbeater @researchgate and @femmesandhoney <3333

[researchgate]

Thank you so much for the tag!!

I unfortunately can't take a screenshot of my Lockscreen so I'll do homescreen instead so here are the three:

(i adore peepo)

I'm tagging

@atmospherings , @son-of-hemera, @marmorada, and @madolecence

Ofc you don't have to 🌟

[madolecence]

Thank u!!! I love these games lol

Lockscreen, last song I listened to, & last photo I saved 😅

Clearly I’m a fan of The Bad Batch lol

I’m tagging: @badmiffy @blorbortion and @femmesandhoney to do this if you want!!

[blorbortion-deactivated20231204]

thank u!!

shout out to those who recognize the lockscreen

tagging @bakerstreetdoctor @menalez @labsbian @genderidentitty whatever ur current url is queen, and whoever else wants to do this!

[sootfem]

hi viii im so doing this

tagging @socktape lmao

[ranmagender]

Who would win?

TERF Wizard Game

Vanilla Extract

Voting ended onFeb 7, 2023

[radicalfembabey]

[mtfoss]

We need a digital archive of LGBTQ+ works of art, science, and every other conceivable work we can share between each other because we are beyond the genocide warning level in most countries in the west and they're already trying to purge us from libraries.

[mtfoss]

If other people are interested I'll make this a priority

[cannilyuncanny]

Speaking as someone with a background in archives, stuff like this does already exist. No need to reinvent the wheel. Creating an archive and making sure it's accessible and searchable and actually preserves things for the long time (especially digital things) is actually a huge undertaking. Show some love to these already existing collections and maybe even consider contributing. There's the Digital Transgender Archive off the top of my head. I know more I just have to think.

[cannilyuncanny]

The History Project, based in Boston, is an LGBTQ+ community archive that's existed for decades. Many of their collections are digitized.

The Lesbian Herstory Archives, based in Brooklyn, is similar.

The Digital Public Library of America covers a great many topics, but they also have LGBTQ+ stuff.

I'd also recommend searching "lgbtq+" and "libguide" in your preferred search engine. Many universities list helpful resources and databases, some of which are freely accessible.

Many public and academic libraries in the US and Canada (not sure where you're writing from) subscribe to the Gale Archives of Sexuality and Gender. If you have a library card or are a student at a given library, you can access it for free.

In general, I'd really recommend searching around to see how you can support existing museums, community archives, college and university archives, etc that specialize in LGBTQ+ history and media local to you, whether that's in your same town or regionally.

[closet-keys]

Adding--

The Queer Newark Oral History Project (QNOHP) records interviews with LGBTQ Newarkers about their lives, makes their stories accessible to academic and community-based researchers, students, and artists; sponsors innovative programming that bridges the community and campus, spreads awareness of oral history methods, and commemorates the community's elders.

[minecraftdykes]

also!! the Herland Sisters, a lesbian org in Oklahoma City, recently transferred their archive to the women’s center at the University of Central Oklahoma! it’s accessible to literally anyone, anyone in the metro should check it out!

LibGuides: Archives & Special Collections: Herland Sister Resources

[infectiouspiss]

as above (insane in the head) so below (insane in the pussy)

[radicalandmathematical]

Deciding not to date men is actually a huge decision and not as easy as people make it sound sometimes. You can read the arguments people make and realize that y e a h, chances are it's gonna go poorly and you'll be unhappy, but still want it. You can want a good relationship. You can still believe there are good men out there and you can find one and be happy, have a good healthy relationship.

Whether there are good men out there or not doesn't really matter, if you date in hopes of trying to find one you're going to encounter bad men. So in the end you have to realize that it's not worth it to even look. That even if good men exist, you may not find one. You probably won't actually. You'll end up with someone who seemed good, but then gradually got worse and now you're invested and it's hard to leave, or you don't realize how bad it is, even though 5 years ago before you started dating him you would have. It's hard to come to terms with this.

Everyday since before we can even talk, women and girls are bombarded with the message that we should desire a relationship, a husband. We're often sold a highly idealized version of relationships, and it's really easy to want that. To want someone who loves you and supports you. To want companionship and someone to have fun with. Someone to spend your life with, a partner. And you can say you can get that from friends and family all you want, but we are looking for a romantic version of these things, this is what we are being told to desire. Romantic, not platonic. It is incredibly difficult to receive this message for so long, to internalize it, and then give up on it, to give up on dating men.

It takes time. It takes realizing that chances are you can never have that, whether you choose to date men or not. it's an incredibly bleak realization for many women. It's hard to accept. Being told men are evil because look what these men did isn't going to magically make women decide not to date them, to give up on finding a good one.

It's denial. Surely this can't possibly be true, because then we can never have what we want. Yes these men did that, but surely not every man would do something like this. I will find one who doesn't!

And it's kinda true. Not every man is a rapist, men who don't watch porn exist, there are men who do most of the childcare, etc. We know this, and so we can imagine that a good man must exist, an intersection of all the ways in which an individual man may not be horrible. Except...if a man isn't horrible in one way, he's probably horrible in another. The intersection we're looking for is most likely empty, and if not, it's an incredibly small pool and finding such an elusive man is near impossible and not worth the search. It just takes time to realize this.

Just give women time to come to terms with this stuff instead of acting like a single solid argument should change our minds and convince us on the spot that there are no good men so we shouldn't date. That a few examples of men being awful means we should understand there are no good men to be found anywhere no matter how hard we look. Don't be condescending to women who aren't there yet. It just drives us further into denial.

So what does make it sink in? I can't speak for other women, but for me? Just seeing more and more examples of men being trash (without people being condescending about women who still want to date them). Making strong, fulfilling friendships with other women, especially women who are single and uninterested in dating. (Having happy relationships shoved in your face gives you an example of what you're "missing out on," and women who are looking for a relationship reinforce the desire for one.) Seeing other women, especially older ones, being single and happy, but not pushing it, just living their lives. All of this, over time, can help you realize hey, I don't need that in my life.

[sootfem]

| Except...if a man isn't horrible in one way, he's probably horrible in another. The intersection we're looking for is most likely empty, and if not, it's an incredibly small pool and finding such an elusive man is near impossible and not worth the search.

this!!!! absolutely this. my dad quit his job to be a stay at home father. he raised me, bathed me, and changed my diapers. he loves me.

all of that would be a great quality in a man, except that he’s homophobic, misogynistic, refuses to help around the house, and likes to taunt his black daughter with racial slurs. when i was younger i used to pray my mom would divorce him.

men 👏🏽 won’t 👏🏽 change 👏🏽 for 👏🏽 you

[butch-reidentified]

Hey Radblr!

My wife & I just had an amazing idea in the process of planning our home decoration. We want to do an accent wall that's essentially wallpapered with a Lesbian History Collage. We came up with the idea while discussing this post:

Specifically, the idea stems from what I'd said about historical LGB folks, especially lesbians, feeling like my actual ancestors rather than my family. I want to honor them in our home. So, I thought I'd ask you all for your favorite historical newspaper articles, book excerpts, lesbian couple photographs, lesbian activism photographs, etc. Please send me anything and everything you can think of, all your favorite stories and pictures - and make sure they come with a caption providing context as we will be including that of course!

Thanks in advance! We are SO excited to do this project & will definitely post pics when it's done, though it will take a while for sure.

[sootfem]

totally doing this!!

[nansheonearth]

Doing an experiment. Reblog this if you say any of the following:

blorbo, moid, handmaiden (not in reference to the lesbian movie), bihet, gendie, terf (in reference to yourself, other radfems, or ironically), troon, tranny, terves, terven, woke (and you're not Black), retard

If you don't say any of this reblog this one instead

[letters-from-x-deactivated20260]

A radical feminist’s reading list-

Classic

The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir

The Feminine Mystique by Betty Friedan

Sexual Politics by Kate Millett

On Lies, Secrets, and Silence: Selected Prose, 1966-1978 by Adrienne Rich

The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf

Fiction

The Power by Naomi Alderman

Salt Slow by Julia Armfield

The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood

Native Tongue by Suzette Haden Elgin

The Vagina Monologues by Eve Ensler

Her Body and Other Parties by Carmen Maria Machado

The Gate to Woman’s Country by Sheri S. Tepper

History

Women’s Work: The First 20,000 Years by Elizabeth Wayland Barber

Caliban and the Witch: Women, the Body, and Primitive Accumulation by Silvia Federici

The Living Goddesses by Marija Gimbutas

The Creation of Patriarchy by Gerda Lerner

Who Cooked the Last Supper? The Women’s History of the World by Rosalind Miles

Women of Ideas: And What Men Have Done to Them by Dale Spender

Headstrong: 52 Women Who Changed Science-and the World by Rachel Swaby

Intersectional

Women, Race & Class by Angela Y. Davis

Ain’t I a Woman: Black Women and Feminism by bell hooks

It’s Not About the Burqa by Mariam Khan (editor)

Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches by Audre Lorde

This Bridge Called My Back: Writings by Radical Women of Color by Cherríe Moraga (editor) and Gloria Anzaldúa (editor)

Lesbian

Unpacking Queer Politics: A Lesbian Feminist Perspective by Sheila Jeffreys

The Disappearing L: Erasure of Lesbian Spaces and Culture by Bonnie J. Morris

Homophobia: A Weapon of Sexism by Suzanne Pharr

Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence by Adrienne Rich

Liberal vs. radical

Female Erasure: What You Need to Know about Gender Politics’ War on Women, the Female Sex and Human Rights by Ruth Barrett (editor)

End of Equality by Beatrix Campbell

Feminisms: A Global History by Lucy Delap

Daring to be Bad: Radical Feminism in America, 1967-1975 by Alice Echols

Gender Hurts: A Feminist Analysis of the Politics of Transgenderism by Sheila Jeffreys

Freedom Fallacy: The Limits of Liberal Feminism by Miranda Kiraly (editor) and Meagan Tyler (editor)

The Sexual Liberals and the Attack on Feminism by Dorchen Leidholdt (editor) and Janice G. Raymond (editor)

The Transsexual Empire: The Making of the She-Male by Janice G. Raymond

We Were Feminists Once: From Riot Grrrl to CoverGirl, the Buying and Selling of a Political Movement by Andi Zeisler

Pornography, prostitution, surrogacy & rape

Against Our Will: Men, Women and Rape by Susan Brownmiller

Slavery Inc.: The Untold Story of International Sex Trafficking by Lydia Cacho

Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality by Gail Dines

Being and Being Bought: Prostitution, Surrogacy and the Split Self by Kajsa Ekis Ekman

The Industrial Vagina: The Political Economy of the Global Sex Trade by Sheila Jeffreys

Only Words by Catharine A. Mackinnon

Know My Name by Chanel Miller

Not a Choice, Not a Job: Exposing the Myths about Prostitution and the Global Sex Trade by Janice G. Raymond

Women as Wombs: Reproductive Technologies and the Battle Over Women’s Freedom by Janice G. Raymond

Psychology & trauma

Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society and Neurosexism Create Difference by Cordelia Fine

Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence – From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Lewis Herman

Toward a New Psychology of Women by Jean Baker Miller

Theory

Dear Ijeawele, or A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Gyn/Ecology: The Metaethics of Radical Feminism by Mary Daly

Last Days at Hot Slit: The Radical Feminism of Andrea Dworkin by Andrea Dworkin, Johanna Fateman (editor) and Amy Scholder (editor

The Dialectic of Sex: The Case for a Feminist Revolution by Shulamith Firestone

Feminism is for Everybody: Passionate Politics by bell hooks

Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center by bell hooks

Against Sadomasochism: A Radical Feminist Analysis by Robin Ruth Linden (editor), Darlene R. Pagano (editor), Diana E. H. Russell (editor) and Susan Leigh Star (editor)

Toward a Feminist Theory of the State by Catharine A. Mackinnon

The Sexual Contract by Carole Pateman

Other

Without Apology: The Abortion Struggle Now by Jenny Brown

Close to Home: A Materialist Analysis of Women’s Oppression by Christine Delphy

Doing Harm: The Truth About How Bad Medicine and Lazy Science Leave Women Dismissed, Misdiagnosed, and Sick by Maya Dusenbery

Beauty and Misogyny: Harmful Cultural Practices in the West by Sheila Jeffreys

Are Women Human? And Other International Dialogues by Catharine A. Mackinnon

Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado Perez

A Passion for Friends: Toward a Philosophy of Female Affection by Janice G. Raymond

How to Suppress Women’s Writing by Joanna Russ

Man Made Language by Dale Spender

Counting for Nothing: What Men Value and What Women are Worth by Marilyn Waring

[sootfem]

i own a copy of last days at hot slit, highly recommend!!!

[marzipanandminutiae]

going through Google Books looking for pocket-related sources and I found something interesting in an 1875 issue of the magazine “The Spirit of ‘seventy-six”

it’s a letter to the editor, written by someone who signs herself “A Revolutionary Young Person” but later makes it clear that she’s a woman. and she is incensed about These Disgraceful Pockets Nowadays

she went through a man’s everyday outfit, based on general observations, and counted up a total of 25 pockets between all the different articles of clothing. this, to her, seems a gross unfairness compared to “these little shallow things, with the opening level with [one’s] bottom or a little lower, of which they sometimes allow us one in a dress…” she’s also transported with delight at the earlier, separate pockets she’s seen on display at American centennial fairs

based on my own study of extant garments, the “modern” pockets she’s talking about are often around 9 inches by 11 inches

so there might be a bit of an answer to the question of “why was there an association between women’s rights and women’s pockets in a time period when, by our standards, they were quite lavishly pocketed indeed?”

some of them  were comparing their pockets to a truly excessive number in men’s outfits, and to the size of 18th-century examples. getting just as frustrated as we are today at our pocketless pants, fake pockets, and tiny pockets barely big enough for half a hand

“As to living another hundred years in this way, it isn’t to be thought of.” oh honey. I have some good news and some bad news…

[hedge-rambles]

1875 men’s fashion apparently

[marzipanandminutiae]

I have to quote this because the young lady was so Unhinged about pockets that I wish to go back in time and propose Boston Marriage

Look at a man. He’s just a mass of pockets. See his Ulster overcoat. Two pockets in the breast, to put his dear hands in when they are cold. Two pockets in the skirt [long hanging portion of the coat] to put his hands when he doesn’t know what to do with them, and what man ever does? One pocket just under the belt. Small change for [street]car-fare, is what he says that is for. One side pocket higher up on the breast, for his pocket handkerchief. Well, we don’t object to that. One pocket in the cuff. Heaven knows what that is for. All this on the outside.

Now just unbutton his coat and there, as I’m a living woman, three more pockets inside. Probably under his Ulster he has another light overcoat, many of these tender creatures do, but in that you will not find more than five pockets, so let that go. Then there is his [suit jacket]. Skirts, two pockets; breast, two pockets; another small pocket for change.  Oh! if they only had money in any proportion to the pockets they have to keep it in, wouldn’t they be better worth having than most of them are now? Which? No matter which, the men or the pockets, which ever you please, or both together, for we have to take them that way if at all.

Then at least four more pockets in the vest. Then as to [trousers], I found a pair the other day without a man in them, and just counted the pockets myself. Let me see; there were two, where they always put their hands when they have no overcoats on. There was one, said to be a watch pocket, but this is on historical or traditional evidence entirely. No man has carried a watch there since- well, I’m sure I don’t know when- certainly not since the war with Mexico [1846-48]. Then, last of all, a pocket on the hip slanting backward. A girl who has brothers says they call this a pistol pocket…

Now, let me see. There is the Ulster, seven. The overcoat, five. The [suit jacket], five. The vest, four. The trousers, four- total, twenty-five pockets, to say nothing  of others which I don’t know about and don’t care to.

Why do women carry things in their hands? humph! Why do women lose their purses? Why do women stuff things in their muffs? These are the questions which men with their twenty-five pockets are forever asking. Why don’t you keep a cash account [written log of money spent]? Why don’t you have a diary [planner]? What do you always want to borrow a knife for? Where’s that pencil I lent you?…What do you want a bag for? Think of their impudence, with all their twenty-five pockets, to ask such questions as these.

is her count correct, or typical of the period? I have no idea. is her energy IMMACULATE? Y E S

[bemusedlybespectacled]

“Think of their impudence, with all their twenty-five pockets, to ask questions such as these.” GO OFF SIS

[sootfem]

alright maybe some men are ok

[evilphrog]

One of my favorite parts of the Hunger Games was how, in the beginning, Katniss was jealous amd resentful of the townies for not having to work in the coal mines. Then, over time, she realizes they aren't the true enemy. Then she sees the other district kids as so much better off than she is, because at least they don't come from district 12. But then she realizes they aren't the enemy either. And then she hates the other victors, before realizing they have all been exploited just as much as she has. So the enemy must be the Capitol citizens, who benefit from the exploitation of the districts, right? Wrong again. They are just uninformed and pampered people who have been kept in the dark about the true horrors faced by the rest of the country. Most of them, when push comes to shove, are perfectly willing to help the war efforts.

And slowly, over the three books, all theses separate factions of downtrodden people start to see each other as allies instead of enemies, and that is what propells them to eventual victory over the true enemy, the government that tried to pit them against each other. Just fun, totally fictional things to think about that have nothing whatsoever to do with our current life.

[user87262893]

I am so angry. I am so fucking angry and I have nothing that I can do with that anger. It is like coals in my belly. Embers in the palms of my hands. My blood is boiling. Always. I live like this constantly.

Right now, somewhere, a little girl is being held down while her genitalia is mutilated. One day, the man she marries will open the wound with a knife to rape her, if she doesn’t die of infection first. Another, somewhere else, is being married off as a child bride, to be raped by a man four times her age. Another is trafficked to a brothel, so a white man on vacation feels less guilty taking his pedophilia somewhere else. Another is killed as an infant, because she isn’t a son. Another is dying in childbirth. Women all over the world are dying in childbirth, because they couldn’t get an abortion, or they’re a child, or their husband demanded a tenth child. Somewhere, a husband beats his wife, and it’s habit. In the U.S. alone, a woman is beaten every 9 seconds in her domestic relationship. How many will suffer in the time it takes you to read this? Somewhere else, a woman is strangled by her partner. Women die every day to the hands of their lovers. To their exes. To that guy who saw them once in a grocery store and was so mad that they didn’t smile back. A college woman will leave her boyfriend today, and tomorrow find out everyone on campus has a hold of her private photos. She will be told she is a whore, an embarrassment, asking to be raped. 1 in 4 college women are raped. I was one of them. 80% never report. I didn’t. Somewhere a 16 year old at her first job is wondering what to do, because orientation didn’t prepare her to hear the comments her boss makes about her body. Does she quit? Where does she go? Because it’s everywhere! Its everywhere! In that building, a coworker gropes her. In that bus, a man slides his hand across her ass. In that street, ‘harmless’ teens tell her how pretty she’d look with their cocks in her mouth. In that bar, her drink is drugged. You cannot escape it. Women’s suffering, like gasoline dredged over us. Waterboarded by their hate. Lilith was right. Dworkin was right. Every woman locked in an asylum, lobotomized by their family, burnt at the stake, was right. Every woman crying, diaries full, and from every moment of history, of women crying. Hysterical women, but Christ how can you not be?

It makes me want to howl. I want to fucking scream. But I can’t. If I were to open my mouth right now I would breathe fire.

[spoookysapphic-deactivated20161]

I can’t express how upset it makes me that shyness in women is sexualized, anger in women is sexualized, ignorance/ lack of intelligence is sexualized, intelligence is sexualized- being a woman is being sexualized for everything you feel or do.

[ohfortheloveofwomen]

Being a teacher, doctor, librarian, in a school with uniforms, fat, skinny, chubby, disabled, mentally ill, blonde, brunette, red headed. The list is unending. Any and all characteristics, hobbies, fields of work, etc. that women have or partake in…can be found categorized on porn sites.

[genderresister]

Men have no idea what its like to be denied personhood on the basis of your sex.

[sootfem]

libfems always like “why do you have such low expectations of men” girl let me know when a man meets them

[sybbalb-deactivated20221228]

i wish every woman would understand that no amount of coddling and being nice to men will get them to care about your rights lol

[viindiicta-deactivated20230130]

“pro choice doesn’t mean pro abortion” maybe for you. im built different.

[ms-hells-bells]

two books came into the store and i got them for you guys;

The Abused Woman; A Survivor Therapy Approach - Lenore Walker (Ed.D, ABPP) with Marge Lurie (1994)

Problems of Women’s Liberation - Evelyn Reed (1969) (this is pro feminism)

The second book is super cool in that the back cover is “further reading in women’s liberation from Pathfinder Press”. here are the books it names:

The Mod Donna and Scyklon Z: Plays of Women’s Liberation - Myrna Lamb

Abortion: A Woman’s Right - Linda Jenness, Caroline Lund, Cindy Jaquith

(the rest are pamphlets/essays)

Black Women’s Liberation - Maxine Williams, Pamela Newman

The Family: Revolutionary or Oppressive Force? - Caroline Lund

In Defense of the Women’s Movement: Ruthann Miller, Evelyn Reed, Mary-Alice Waters

Kate Millett’s Sexual Politics: A Marxist Appreciation - Kipp Dawson et al. 

Pioneers of Women’s Liberation - Joyce Cowley

Revolutionary Dynamics of Women’s Liberation - George Novack

Sisterhood is Powerful - Betsey Stone

Sisters in Struggle, 1848-1920 - Debby Woodroofe

Women and the Cuban Revolution - Linda Jenness, FIDEL CASTRO

Women and the Equal Rights Amendment - Caroline Lund and Betsey Stone

Women and Family - Leon Trotsky (!)

i’m giving the names of these because they are probably all online in historical archives for free, so try to search them up :)