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a friend with a boyfriend is a type of dead wife
Do you ever write a sentence and then realize “Nah, that’s too self aware for you” and backspace a bunch of times.
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unironically so important
Love it when one character is an obvious freak about their companion, and the other is more subtle, and then there's a moment in the story where everyone gets to confirm/discover/realize/etc that oh no it's mutual.
the reality of being a writer
YOU CAN NEVER GO BACK! YOU CAN NEVER GO BACK! YOU CAN BITE AND SCRATCH AND BEG BUT YOU CAN NEVER GO BACK!
the author's barely disguised discomfort with topics of sex and intimacy
Improving your art skills isn’t easy; it takes a lot of patience and dedication but it is extremely straightforward. It’s all grinding until you understand 3d shapes, light, color harmonies, and composition ratios. I got good at the process. If I wanted to focus on improvement instead of making comics I could go back to that at any moment.
My issue is that I can’t figure out a good equivalent to that kind of practice with writing ? Like idk. Do I do a bunch of object descriptions ? Do I do a scene with a restricted vocab ?? I don’t knowwwww
It’s hard finding useful advice because online creative spaces are full of self taught “just have fun and be yourself” type people and it’s like. I will have fun later. Right now what I need is to figure out the writing equivalent of filling a page with cubes at different angles.
I think the people responding to this with some equivalent of "read more!" are missing the point a little. That would be closer to going to an art museum and looking at Old Masters paintings and trying to think of what you like about their styles—Which can be valuable, yes! But it isn't grinding.
Grinding would be word sprints. NaNoWriMo was killer for this before their whole operation went to shit, but the good thing about that is that they never had copyright over the concept of writing fast. The numbers you go for can be a little arbitrary at first as you figure out what specifically works for you, but 15 minutes is usually the average from what I've seen? Maybe you can get 500 words in 15 minutes. Maybe you can only get 200. Either way, you're exercising the muscles that get ideas from your brain out onto paper.
Here's some other ideas I came up with for more specific exercises:
Wordsketching for Settings
Go outside (or stay inside?), practically anywhere. Sit down and angle yourself in a way that lets you get a good view of where you're at, and then pick the first things that jump out to you about the place you're in and describe them in 2-3 sentences. Then, figure out what you're drawn to next and write sentences about that. Make sure you add what you feel in that moment (Is the atmosphere uncomfortable? Is the place hot or cold? Humid?), what the place sounds like (People talking, or cars, or animal noises...), so on and so forth. This is very similar to the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique, so you can even work off of that structure if you'd like, but this is specifically to help you get better at describing settings.
As far as fanfic is concerned, I think the genre as a whole skimps on atmosphere and setting a SHIT TON. If you want to elevate yourself, let the pacing of your work slow down for a second and dedicate some time to really orienting your blorbos in a specific space. It does a lot for the tone of the work, and... if you want to play ball with the big boys you need to start thinking about things like tone and atmosphere when writing.
Transcription for Dialogue
This can entail you writing down what your family says at the dinner table like a creepy weirdo, or transcribing movie dialogue or anything of that nature. The purpose would be to get used to how conversation naturally flows between two or more people (turn-taking, interruption etc.), and furthermore getting a sense of how human beings naturally talk to each other. I've written down things I've heard people say in public before for no better reason than thinking "Oh! I could totally see [X Character] saying that!". Whatever hangups you may have over this sick linguivouyeristic perversion are much less important than the tragedy of filling your work with Incorrect Quotes -style unreadable garbage. It's like eating your vegetables.
Wiktionary Challenges for Word Choice
Just spamming the "random word" button on Wiktionary will give you instances in every language Wiktionary has in its database, so this one requires a little more work to be helpful, but in lieu of that you can look through stuff like Categories or Thesaurus Entries!
Let's gather a few fun words to demonstrate.
Okay, this should be more than enough for some sentences describing a setting out in nature! Blunket is making me think this takes place at twilight... And I like alliterating, so let's mash it to make the semi-redundant phrase "blunket-blue" just for some flair.
The copse laid still. On the bank of the meandering creek, the rabbit flattened herself out against the soft grass, her luculent eyes darting back and forth over her surroundings. What she could see of the copse looked mostly the same: Twisting shrubs the color of ash, blunket-blue grasses, an invisible wind brushing over all that stillness and pressing flat everything it could. Her nose twitched. Until the last blushes of rose drained from the evening sky, the rabbit would keep herself fixed in that spot on the riverbank and wait.
Boom! Those words are suddenly in your arsenal to use whenever you want, and you additionally have a reference point to remember what they mean if you forget. I think the only thing I could add from here is that reading your work aloud can help you monitor the way you chunk out your sentences and clauses, but that's more closely related to editing help and, again, not grinding exercises.
I think part of OP's problem is that they aren't yet aware of all the sub-skills that go into writing. It's understandably hard to figure out practice excercises when you aren't sure what you should be practicing towards.
Unlike with art, there isn't an organized consensus about them and accepted practice excercises. I've consumed a lot of writing theory and advice content in my life, so I'll do my best to try and make a list of possible excercises based on stuff I learned as well as my own judgement for useful skills.
The most important thing to remember is that writing is the art of communicating your intent. A lot of writing is just figuring out ways to get across the experience you want to create, and so a lot of the excercises are about learning to do that in different ways.
Descriptions
Start out with picking random things and describing them in writing. This is mostly to get used to translating sensory experiences into verbal descriptions. Try describing experiences or things that aren't visual too.
Pick an object. Describe it three different times. Each time you're not allowed to use any of the previous descriptions.
Pick an object. Describe it three different times. Each time create a different connotation for it (an easy trio to start with is good/bad/neutral).
Go people watching. Pick something that's happening in front of you and describe it three different ways. Each time in a different genre.
Play taboo. Describe an object, action or an emotion without naming it or using closely associated words.
Exposition
Play storytelling Mao. Write a scene where the world and characters act according to a weird and arbitrary rule but never explain it directly or indirectly. Try to communicate the rule with only the character's actions, dialogue and environmental storytelling.
Write a scene with conflict and a twist, then analyze it to figure out what information the audience must know in order to to understand what's going on. Rewrite the scene as a mystery, each time omitting one of those pieces of information and framing it as the answer to the scene. This is mostly to practice awareness of what information you're giving the audience and how its presence or lack of it changes things.
Write a scene with an unreliable narrator. The narrator's perception of what's happening is completely mistaken, but the audience must still be able to understand the truth of what's actually going on.
Atmosphere
Write a story with a beginning, middle and end without any dialogue or actions. Use only descriptions to create environmental storytelling.
Pick an object. Describe it three different times. Each time try to evoke a different emotion.
Dialogue
Write a scene with only dialogue.
Write a conversation where the characters never state what they actually mean.
Pick an emotion. Write as many one line dialogues as you can that convey the character is feeling that emotion.
Character voice
Write a scene with multiple people using only dialogue. You can't state any of the characters' names, yet each speaker should be distinct.
Write a piece of exposition for a character to deliver and have a few different characters say it. Analyze how the character's backstory, culture, status, worldview and personality would change the delivery. What parts would they emphasize and what would get downplayed? How would they frame the information? What's their opinion on it? Would they deliver it factually or insert their opinion? How would their mood change the way they deliver the exposition?
Prose
Write poetry (and look up excercises for those as unfortunately I'm not familiar enough to give any).
Write a 1k story. Then rewrite it to be less than 500 words while still telling the same story.
Write a two sentence story. Write a three sentence story. Write a five sentence story. Compare them and analyze the things the extra length allowed you to do.
Pacing
Look up story structures. Pick a story and try to map it to said story structures. (A good place to start is Snyder's save the cat structure and hollywood movies. Most of them use that structure as template).
Write a story using only sentences with 3-4 words. Then do it with 6-7 words, and then with 10-11 words. Read those stories aloud and analyze the differences between how they sound and feel.
Plotting
Go people watching. Pick something that's happening in front of you and describe it in three different ways. Each time add a different twist in the end. What different setup did each twist need?
Write the same story in five sentences, then in three, then in two. What had to remain in order for the story to be the same? What was lost? In what ways did it change the resulting story?
Pick a story and read/watch it all the way through. Then go back and analyze each scene seperately. In what way did the scene contribute to the story?
Use a random word generator. Pick one word for theme, two words for plot and three words for characters. Figure out a way to write a coherent story that includes all of them. This one can be changed with any number of words for any category. The important thing is that there would be enough words you need to use that it acts as a constraint rather than a freeform prompt
Write a scene. Then rewrite it so that it starts as late as you can make it and ends as early as it can.
Character
Look up character arc structures. Pick a story and try to map it to a fitting character arc.
Practice debate. Pick a topic and write as many different viewpoints on it as you can. Try to give each viewpoint strong arguments to support it.
Pick a character. Figure out what plot would challenge them the most and what antagonist would cause them the most trouble.
Pick a character and decide on one trait of theirs. Write a foil character to highlight said trait.
Metaphor and subtext
Pick a couple of characters and have them argue. The argument can't be stated directly in any way and instead must be communicated through metaphor.
Write a story where the surface story is completely different than the story told when reading between the lines.
no matter how hard i try, nothing i write will ever be as fucked up as the stuff somebody who thinks they're creating a Wholesome AU with unexamined beliefs will make.
NEVER HEAL indulge in self sabotage romaniticize self isolation ALWAYS QUIT reject your potential never break the cycle let the curse win
Idea Bank: How to Organize and Use Your Creative Ideas
An idea bank is a place where you store all your creative thoughts so you don't lose them.
Why do you need it?
First, ideas disappear. You think of something brilliant, don't write it down because "I'll never forget this," and half an hour later, nothing remains but a vague feeling that something important was there.
Second, it saves you during creative crises. You open it, look at old notes, and suddenly one of them sparks and turns into a full piece of writing.
Third, it teaches you to trust yourself. When you see how many ideas you've already collected, you realize that your brain is a meaning-generating machine — you just didn't notice it before.
Choosing Your Tool
An idea bank doesn't have to be complicated. You just need a place to write things down when they come.
Paper: a notebook that's always with you. If your thoughts don't form neat lines, paper lets you write crookedly, draw diagrams, scribble in margins.
Digital: phone notes (Google Keep, Evernote, Apple Notes). Your phone is always nearby. You can dictate ideas or photograph something that inspired you.
Specialized apps: Notion has templates for idea banks. You can create databases with statuses (new, in progress, done), categories, priorities.
Spreadsheet: Google Sheets or Excel. One author says: "I was drowning in sticky notes. I made a giant spreadsheet with topic sections and now I can sort ideas by any column."
The main thing is not the tool — it's the habit of writing things down.
What to Write Down
Everything. Absolutely everything.
— Plot twists — scenes, dialogue, endings
— Images and atmosphere — "the smell of ozone before a storm"
— Names and titles — beautiful words you hear
— Quotes from dreams — dreams give us surreal images
— Observations of people — a phrase, a gesture, an intonation
— Emotional states — physical sensations that will later help your characters
— Other people's ideas you want to reinterpret
How to Structure Chaos
Simple system: one document, ideas as a list separated by lines. When you have many, add tags: #plot, #dialogue, #character.
System with statuses: in Notion or spreadsheets, add a status column: Inbox → Ripening → In progress → Implemented → Archive.
System by categories: folders like "Characters," "Locations," "Conflicts," "Dialogues."
Spreadsheet by project: separate files for each book with plot ideas, research notes, contact lists.
How to Generate Ideas When the Bank Is Empty
Forced connections: take a random word and forcibly connect it to your topic. Your brain steps out of its usual path and starts looking for new routes.
SCAMPER: Substitute, Combine, Adapt, Modify, Put to another use, Eliminate, Reverse. Seven angles to attack any problem.
Mind maps: write the topic in the center, draw branches with associations. Visualizing chaos helps you see hidden connections.
Brainstorming with yourself: set a 15-minute timer and write everything that comes to mind, without criticism, even nonsense. Quantity turns into quality.
How to Use Your Bank in Practice
When you don't know what to write — open your bank, find three weak ideas, and write one paragraph for each. Usually one will grab you.
When a scene isn't working — check your "dialogues" or "conflicts" section. Sometimes an old phrase fits perfectly and brings the scene to life.
When writing a character — look for your old notes about emotions, especially if the character is going through something you've experienced.
And come back to old ideas. What seemed stupid a month ago might seem brilliant today. Your brain processes tasks in the background.
Summer Writing! 💕
We're starting today with the first week in June. Yay!
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In this challenge you set your own goal and I would love for you to announce it publicly.
Your goal can be whatever you want to get done over the summer, and you can change it from week to week. It can be a wordcount, or edited pages, or a set of time spent on a project. This is up to you, depending on what you feel comfortable with and what you need to do.
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Track your process however you like. You can use sites like trackbear or mywriteclub to track your process, or a spreadsheet, or just write it into a notebook, a graphic, a document.
I have a weekly calendar for you and @mareebrittenford made a cool spreadsheet to track your process (a how-to is coming up). I've put everything into this folder:
That's the first calendar. Set your own goal and fill in what you would like to use as a prompt (optional) and then track what you've accomplished every day.
My prompt for you for this week is: bracing
Who's with us? Let's hear it for summer writing!
Heterosexual relationship culture is so alien to me and I don’t know if it’s the fact I’m not cishet or the fact I’m autistic but I hear so many things that make me go “Am I insane or are they?”
There’s a lot of hate on widowers and I saw a woman say “You cannot compete with a dead woman.” which is perhaps a reasonable statement to say if he’s constantly comparing you to his dead partner but that wasn’t what the post was about. And I realized “Oh my God, these people genuinely feel like they’re constantly in competition with their spouse’s exes and the ex being dead makes them feel insecure that they cannot best her.”
There’s also been an uptick in the ‘men and women cannot be ‘just’ friends’ rhetoric which I feel like is extremely dangerous and reflects the rise of fascism and sexism. Some of these stories of women feeling threatened by their husband’s female best friend have some merit and others are like “I feel angry that my husband still talks to the girl he grew up next door to and she and her wife are invited to family gatherings and included in family photos sometimes. Am I right to be suspicious?” No. No you’re not. I cannot imagine being you and living with that high level of stress and paranoia and constant torment and jealousy about your husband having a positive relationship with anyone who isn’t you.
okay look i know this isn't relevant to this post past the second paragraph but. here's the thing. the facts of the case are as follows:
1) I am widowed. my Beloved Wife of Blessed Memory(tm) died in 2019
2) I got together with my current partner about 18 months later
3) when I am committing acts of Foolishness my current partner loves to gesture at the sky to my dead wife, like "do you see this shit, my liege" and regularly says to me things like "[wife's name] was right about this" when my Foolishness inevitably comes back to bite me in the ass
4) this happens. all the time
more importantly:
5) my current partner is on tumblr
6) they love to incessantly send me posts
WHICH MEANS:
7) they just sent me this post with this commentary:
8) they really, really are ganging up on me with her. god help us if there's an afterlife and those two ever actually meet. "eternal rest" my ass, i will never know peace again
rereading your own fics/wips is a very slippery slope into finding out you actually have to finish your fics if you want them finished
one time in college i was in a creative writing class and this guy was holding up the critique with what i can only describe as like cinemasins dinging another student's writing. and at some point the professor said "the plot is the fork and the prose is the meal. you are critiquing the taste of the fork"
when i say cinemasins dinging i mean the piece of writing being critiqued was a scifi short story about a woman living on a space station holding a funeral for her baby. and this guy was like "the setting isn't detailed enough there's not enough world building"