Ugh. I finally watched baby reindeer cause it was there.
I was expecting something so terrible because i remember when the internet was obsessed. I already - going off of what people said - assumed that the stalking premise was mostly being talked about because was a woman and not a man
And im even more annoyed by that show that i thought i would be
- to get it out of the way - chasing the man down and groping him is disgusting and should have been reported immediately. Terrible
Now that that’s out of the way
How many times does the star need to tell us he craves attention before the audience gets it…. Apparently him staring in the fucking show wasn’t enough. Is it sad he *had* to relive that experience? No cause he chose to fucking do it. Why are you the star of the show…. Seems he didnt want anymore else getting money anywhere - and he gross need for attention outweighed getting a younger actor to make it make sense
Hes NEED for attention caused all of his “problems” - not to say they weren’t terrible horrible situations but i just find it really hard to care much about someone who
1) made only one of his assailant obvious - the one who couldn’t open more doors for him and get him more money
2) continues to listen to his stalkers voicemails for ego boosts. And even admits that he threw a woman he KNEW was desperate as fuck - breadcrumbs to ensure shed keep giving him ego boost and coming around
I dont understand how everyone seems to be skipping over that part and boiling it down to one cup of tea. That was just the start. How many people go to the same exact bar every single day because they like the bartender? Its such a stereotypical thing that it ends up in most movies. Its not weird that she liked the kind gesture and kept coming back - he fed into it “because he like the attention” he even went out with her
She exploded and ruined that. But he assured it it was ok and didnt want to lose her attention.
The only time he didnt like her attention is when he was trying to date another woman
2) the worst one. The one everyone seems to ignore for some reason. The fucking rapist. Dude kept going back and admits because he wanted the rich connected man to open doors for him. That of course should never result in SA and the man is a monster
The star deserves pity and had terrible things happen to him. Maybe im just more annoyed by the internets inability to say that without escalating everything into either ‘the best thing since sliced bread’ or ‘the worst thing since hitler’
That’s probably actually my issue with the discourse
This attack on an obviously mentally unwell woman who while committed terrible acts - didnt do anything worse than every male stalker ever
Which is my biggest issue and the one i knew id have since i first saw discourse about it
Men are so excited to get a story about a woman stalker to point their grubby fingers at and equate male problems to women problems. And so many women with platforms seem so determined to not look biased that theyll equate a woman doing 70% to a man doing 100%
If this had been another story about a woman getting stalked by a man…… i dont even need to make one up - the final season of “You” dropped and idiots are bending over backwards to excuse A SERIAL KILLER!!!!!! A fucking stalking creepy rapey serial fucking killer. And all the men who wanted sympathy on behalf of another man getting stalked are mad that Joe went to jail FOR KILLING PEOPLE and that the girls didnt all die.
Then theres all the deranged people talking about how Love - ANOTHER SERIAL KILLER was perfect and could have cured poor joe and they could have lived their happy wittle wives as a couple serial killers - understanding and accepting each other ——- also proving my other issue with baby reindeer that if martha had a been a skinny pretty girl - that would have been a romance /everyone would be mad at the star for not taking the “amazing” opportunity
I hate people so fucking much
Be shitty people whatever - but cant you just be consistent with your bullshit
