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Maurice MAREELS

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mark thompson, gay body: a journey through shadow to self, 1997

zenithofdisaster

"Disregard for the self, an almost overwhelming sense of being less than fully human, is a condition endemic to gay lives. It is the price we pay for being "other" in a society of calculated sameness. "It is virtually impossible to be different, particularly in this culture, and not feel deficient for the difference, because any awareness of difference inevitably translates into a devalued comparison," state Gershen Kaufman and Lev Raphael, life partners who have written extensively about the crippling effects of shame in gay people. "First we are devalued by others, then we devalue ourselves."

Sociologist Carlton Cornett observes that because we are continually bombarded by negative evaluations, "many gay men internalize representations of themselves as inadequate or morally bad. However, there is also a realization that there is no other way to be. The only compromise available in many cases is to maintain an alienation from the self."

Once this damaged self is set in place, the tragedy is compounded by its projection onto similar others. We are destined to fall short in one another's eyes because the deficiencies seen in friends and lovers are usually our own. The disagreeable aspects of one's negated self is time and again cast onto these convenient living screens. This is why the theater of all possibility I thought I had moved to soon regressed to the haunted house of my youth. Rather than remain a land of milk and honey, mecca began to sour."

-Mark Thompson, 'Gay Body: a Journey Through Shadow to Self,' 1997

magicaloctober

👻 Welcome back, Fall friends! 🍂

justalittlesolarpunk

It’s solar and wind and tidal and geothermal and hydropower.

It’s plant-based diets and regenerative livestock farming and insect protein and lab-grown meat.

It’s electric cars and reliable public transit and decreasing how far and how often we travel.

It’s growing your own vegetables and community gardens and vertical farms and supporting local producers.

It’s rewilding the countryside and greening cities.

It’s getting people active and improving disabled access.

It’s making your own clothes and buying or swapping sustainable stuff with your neighbours.

It’s the right to repair and reducing consumption in the first place.

It’s greater land rights for the commons and indigenous peoples and creating protected areas.

It’s radical, drastic change and community consensus.

It’s labour rights and less work.

It’s science and arts.

It’s theoretical academic thought and concrete practical action.

It’s signing petitions and campaigning and protesting and civil disobedience.

It’s sailboats and zeppelins.

It’s the speculative and the possible.

It’s raising living standards and curbing consumerism.

It’s global and local.

It’s me and you.

Climate solutions look different for everyone, and we all have something to offer.

mxbutchtwink

I'm glad I'm weird about gender in a joyous transgender way and not in a miserable cisgender way

niceinchnails

Whats a girl gotta do to be a boy around here

disabled-dyke

i feel like we dont talk enough about how distressing and disturbing memory loss issues are. forgetting what you were talking about halfway through a sentence, putting something down and instantly forgetting where you put it. having to reread one paragraph over and over again because by the time youve moved onto the next sentence you dont remember what the one before it said. always doubting if your memories of things are real, not being able to remember important life events.

its so incredibly scary, it feels like your mind is constantly playing tricks on you and you start to doubt whats real and what isnt.

“i forgot” is treated like a lazy excuse when it’s genuinely such a big issue for so many people.

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theglobster

i was ranting abt this w my wife last nite like. i think people have forgotten the whole “dont assume stuff about people based on their appearence” thing and that it also applies to people who are “straight-looking” “cis-looking” “normal-looking” etc. ultimately you dont know anything about how someone identifies or what their life is like unless they tell you, especially not at a glance. dont project your ideas onto strangers, its weird.

theglobster

and like examine what the traits that mark people out as “straight and cis” to you are. is it a physical feature they have no control over? their voice? how old they are? or is the way they present? are they wearing a work uniform that leaves little room for self expression? or are they just wearing casual clothes you wouldnt consider “gay-coded”? why do you get to choose what certain clothes mean? those clothes could mean something completely different to them. assume that you know nothing.

geopsych

Take me with you

lakevida

(person who doesn't give money to homeless people because they might spend it on drugs voice) That feeling when you need a little treat to get through another day of adulting