*incoherent yelling*

ehm... im not smart?? created this acc just to yap idk apparently this is a blog mostly about my woes and thougths and specifically aromanticism

[sugacube]

Gender is so funny like what are you guys even talking about

My ADHD defines me more than my assumed gender ever did in my entire life

/srs

[the-aro-agenda]

the thing is that i actually do enjoy romance in fiction but i also believe that romance-repulsed aros have the right to complain that NOTHING is made for them except maybe kids media. once you start to realize how pervasive romance is in every sector of society it's impossible to ignore. like you remember when there were barely any gay shows on television and straight people expected us to be grateful for the one gay side character on a network show? that's exactly how it feels with romance all the time. i want to see media created by adults for adults that doesn't involve romance anywhere in the plot. i want to see characters (main characters!!!) not want romance and not be treated as broken or crazy. i want a world where my romance-repulsed friends aren't confined to kids media (and even then, to only a limited selection)

[sugacube]

I cried (still am) in a seminar aaaaaaaaaa

That's so embarrassing that's so embarrassing it just made the crying worse aaaaaaaa TT

[fintan-pyren]

[excited about an aro friend getting a boyfriend] congratulations! [remembers that presenting romantic relationships as a universal goal to be achieved perpetuates amatonormativity] I don't care about your relationship at all [trying to reaffirm that I am supportive of aromanticism] and I hope you break up

[sugacube]

I love it when my sibling starts to bother me it's like they have the zoomies

Mwah, i love you too <3<3✨

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Ich bin so erschöpft, ich könnte heulen.....

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The urge between sleep and "just one more episode"

[sugacube]

I often think: what discerns me from my neurodiversity like what part of my personality is me and what is that little ADHD guy in my head but then theres this other thing

Wait

Who the fuck is that

[sugacube]

I am once again devoured by the obsession demons in my head.

I'm consuming every piece of media that belongs to this thing until my brain IS THAT VERY THING and i will forever and ever and ever be obsessed and in love with it and continue to consume every fanmade media of it

... Until like next week? Maybe next year lets see.

And then i will go back to hating my life cuz why do i no longer feel the happy bug. GIVE ME MY HAPPY BUG BACK

but until then!!!! MY BLORBOS!!! THEY ARE CONSUMING ME!!!! "WITH PLEASURE" I SAY!!!

[sugacube]

Trying to become friends with my leg hair.

Its been 12 years and im still not friends with my leg hair.

WHY DO I FEEL SHAME BITCH THATS MY BODY?? THAT SHIT KEEPS ME WARM IN WINTER

I need to murder that feeling HOW DO I MURDER IT! CHOKE DOWN ON SHAME THAT SHIT CAN STAY 6FT UNDER!! I WANT TO BE FREE

[sugacube]

Proving being aromantic is ass cuz how are you supposed to prove something that doesn't exist (or lacks but I assume every single person is stupid and needs the most basic/extreme form explained to even begin to understand subtypes)

What really sometimes works in explaining the difficulty of aromanticism though is logic....

Assume i am not aromantic. I do not carry the lable and just haven't found "the one" yet (for whatever reason: young, disabled, traumatised, name your reasons idc). Let's say i wait and search for 10 years and still haven't found a person i like. Have i still not found "the one" yet?

Let's stretch it. Let's say it's been 20 years. Do you think i earn the title now? Or what about 30 years? 40? I could be 80 and not have found "the one".

In theory, i would need to search for my entire life span. But at some point people will notice and accept that "yeah maybe this person really doesn't feel shit"

Essentially what I'm doing is proving by slow and tedious induction. But at least it works and they get an idea.

[butterfirefly]

[sugacube]

I am going to cry

[mimilove2003]

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I should introduce myself a bit first

*coughs, clears throat*

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*deep beath*

I hope that was enough information ^^

[meteortrails]

part of the reason I think it’s so sad that we collectively write so few stories about unrequited love is bc I feel like there’s very little public acknowledgment of how much it sucks to be the one somebody is in unrequited love with??? and not in a way of like, oh they’re crossing boundaries or putting expectations on me or whatever. becoming close friends with someone and then finding out they’re in love with you and you don’t love them back the same way is heartbreaking, bc a) someone you love is in pain and there is literally nothing you can do about it, and b) it usually means that whether you like it or not there’s going to be distance in your friendship that wasn’t there before as they try to get over you. idk man I just feel like we’ve all discussed the tragedy of loving someone who doesn’t love you back quite a lot and very rarely discuss the tragedy of finding out the way that you love someone just isn’t enough.

[sugacube]

Yeah.... yeah....