[soulfulfilled1]

How To Attract What You Desire:

Before you begin:

• Know what you want. What you really want. And don’t think of “how” you’ll get it. • Write the desire in present tense on a card. It is now your goal card. • Carry this card with you and read it often. This is putting the desire into your subconscious mind. • Check if your goal is really what you want. Can you imagine bigger? Are you letting fear stop you? Are you answering your soul’s calling with this? 

Night:

• How you fall asleep determines what shows up in your life. Everytime. Without fail. So we start our day how we fell asleep the night before, actually. Ask your self one question before you sleep: “If my wishes were fulfilled, how would I feel?” Fall asleep to that question satisfied. • Record an MP3 or voice note of your OWN voice, reciting positive affirmations. Get examples online but personalize them. Your subconscious mind trusts your own voice. Use it.  • Never ever let yourself fall asleep feeling stress or failure. Don’t invite it in. 

Morning:

• When your eyes open, set your intention for the day.  • Did you have any dreams last night? Write them down. • Write 5 things you’re grateful for. Increase to 10 after a while and begin to include wishes that are yet to manifest e.g. “I’m grateful I now weigh __” 

Day:

• Read Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. (PDF’s online) Read slowly and reflectively.  • Read Feeling Is The Secret by Neville Goddard (PDF’s online)  • The Secret book/DVD is great for beginners but you’re going to have to dig deeper to pull this off.  • Do what makes you smile. Read, play your music, call a friend, go for walks. Do whatever you can to lighten your mood.  • Write about your desire as if it’s already happened.  • Visualize your life ASSUMING the desire has already happened. How do you feel? What are you wearing? Where are you? Was manifesting easy and fun?

Remember:

• Bruce Lee, Jim Carrey, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Oprah Winfrey, Big Sean, Conor McGregor and countless others have used this formula. It works, and it will work for you. 

And please share this post. You never know who might be waiting to see it. 

[adviceformefromme]

Start preparing for the life of your dreams. It starts with clearing out. Clear out everything associated with the old you. Clothes, hairstyles, makeup, home decor. Now start creating the new vision. It doesn’t matter if you want to live in a mansion but right now you live in the ghetto. Start reading rags to riches stories, make your ghetto home as dreamy as possible, and make sure when you wake up in the morning the first thing you see is your vision board. 

[germansugarbaby]

Dating Rich Men

Hypergamy is not a bad word!

Some women feel guilty about wanting to date wealthy men. But those wealthy men must marry someone eventually. Why not let that someone be you?

You deserve to have the best in every area of your life. That includes your career, social life and romantic life

Rich people don't feel dirty about teaching their daughters to practice hypergamy. Their daughters aren't told that they are golddiggers, even if they are living of their parents money and using their parents connections to meet other wealthy people.

I once heard a man say that if he was a woman, he'd be rich. He's not the first man to say this. Men know the power that women hold. You could literally become rich just because you're a woman.

Identify Rich Men:

Avoid men who are overly flashy in the photos. They likely aren't very rich at all and are in debt.

Avoid men who have high end designer logos all over the jacket or shirt.

Look for men who are properly fitted suits or business casual outfit outfits in the photos. As they are likely businessman of some sort.

Don't discount men wear dress down. I know plenty of millionaires and wealthy men who wear jeans and a T-shirt.

Just check to see if he is well groomed at the very least. Does he take care of his hair? Does his clothes at least fit him right?

Many truly wealthy men, except for the nouveaux riche, don't want people to know they are rich and don't want to attract the wrong people, so they purposely dress down.

Make affluent girlfriends

The goal should be to build a network of classy, successful women are living the lifestyle that you desire. At least one of them should be married, single and in a relationship

Many successful men are going to trust the close friend for recommendations on the great girl, instead of trying to approach random women in public or going online

If they're getting married sometime soon, and you are invited to the wedding many of his and her male friends will be there, and they are most likely is just as successful as your friend and her boyfriend.

Meghan Markle didn't stumble upon prince harry by accident, she was introduced to him by a friend.

It is also important that you become the woman that other classy, successful women want to be around. The relationship shouldn't be one-sided in value you should offer them value as well.

You do have to carry yourself as a classy, successful lady would. You should have interesting things going on in your life. This is another reason why I tell women to build a side income, even if their goal is to meet a wealthy man who takes care of them.

If you've upgraded your friends, you will be up and dating again in no time, because they can introduce you to someone new.

You should always be working on your network and your net worth. Think of all the rich people who went bankrupt but remained fine because they had not only the knowledge but the network of other successful people who could help them in someway.

"Your dresses should be tight enough to show you’re a woman and lose enough to show you're a lady." - Edith Heard

most men want something to fantasize about. If you're overly proactive, they have nothing to daydream about.

If you dress overly conservative or worse, if you dress masculine, then he won't want to fantasize about you at all.

It's easy to find a man but finding a good man of quality and requires you to do some upgrading to yourself and your life.

finding a good man is like finding a job good job, you don't stop improving yourself and looking for one until you finally find it.

Subscribe to magazines that wealthy people read in your town.

Many magazines that are popular and lower income areas are filled with gossip and celebrity topics because they know what people in these environments find entertaining.

Magazines that I popular amongst wealthy people tend to be filled with very different topics.

Only accept expensive Dates!

Some men and women make the argument that if you meet online, the guy doesn't really know yet and it may be a waste of money...but it's not a waste of money if you're selective about who ask out on dates.

If he is swiping right on every woman online, dating a new woman every week and taking none of them seriously, then of course a coffee date with him best because he's not looking for a serious relationship to begin with.

Remember, men follow the standards that women set. Men wouldn't offer a coffee date when Every woman said no to coffee dates.

You should want to date a man who is generous towards you, loves to wine and dine you and treats you the best.

Dating Etiquette:

Keep phone calls very short during the beginning of the relationship I'm talking 5 to 10 minutes.

If a man wants to know more about you and talk to you for hours he needs to take you out on a proper date.

If he hasn't asked you out with and text exchanges, start taking even longer to respond to his text messages. I'm talking days.

It is OK not to give an answer to a question that is too personal. Many women make the mistake of feeling the need to give an answer to everything.

But not a classy lady! If he asks you how many men you've slept with respond with "I'm a lady and I would rather not discuss something so personal".

Whenever man asks any other question that you deem to be too personal, just let him know that you would rather not discuss it at the moment and change the subject

Don't try to tell a ton of jokes, ask ton of questions or talk to much about yourself. All these are signs that you were trying to impress him

This doesn't mean that you should act shy and boring. Show that you were impressed when he tells you about his accomplishments. men love feeling smart.

The people who talk the least tend to be the most interesting. The people that let us do most of the talking are usually the people we find to be good conversationalist, when in reality, they just know how to keep you talking about yourself. Which most people enjoy doing.

Only allow him to see you once per week until you become exclusive. Why? Because why would he buy the whole package, when he can get it for free?

If he already has full access to your time, and can see you whenever he would like anyway, what incentive does he have to take things to the next level?

A woman who is living her best life doesn't have time to go out with the guy multiple times per week. She's not that easily obtainable.

I don't care how much he begs you or tells you he enjoys being around you, always keep it once per week. Men will always fast track a relationship and see you as much as possible in the beginning.

And most of the time they will genuinely mean it. You are new to them so the excitement (and let's be honest, the lust) makes them want to see you as much as they can. If you allow it, that excitement will die out fast and quickly turn into boredom.

Avoid serious topics like Marriage and starting a family. If he brings it up first then give them a light answer for example: "I could see myself getting married to the right person", "I could see myself having kids with the right man" etc.

How to get him to propose (or do anything else you want him to)

I once had a man admit to putting off proposing to his girlfriend because he already knew she would say yes. He said he thought no rush to propose because he knew she wasn't going anywhere.

Most guys are used to women constantly nagging them about marriage, so let them wonder why you don't mention it at all. Be more mysterious than the rest.

Many women make the mistake of nagging their partners in order to get what they want, yet this technique only leads to the man resenting you.

Now when I say ignore him, I'm not talking about doing the silent treatment. Not only does the silent treatment create the opposite effect of what you want, but it's very immature.

I once knew a woman who wanted to get married, but her boyfriend wasn't even bringing up marriage. Of course she didn't nag him, as it would go against my advice. Instead she told him she was taking a mini vacation to Europe and she didn't invite him.

Prior to that, she was constantly staying busy and texting and calling him less. She "punished" him by giving him less of her time. By the time she got back from her four-day trip, he asked her for her hand in marriage

When you show them that you care too much the chase is over.

Men are used to being spoiled by women's emotions and over-affections. It's part of the reason why the silent treatment doesn't work.

When you are sitting right next to him being angry and silent as he tries to talk to you, it shows that you truly do care too much and he knows it.

If you truly didn't care you would have walked out and left along time ago are you would be too busy to be sitting next to him and pouting.

When you pull away from the relationship even just a bit he will notice. He will begin to worry that you might leave or that you found someone better. He will feel losing you and he will do anything to fix it.

Now the catch is that if he isn't that into you, you will soon find out with this technique. So be sure that you are ready to handle the truth.

If you are following this rules, the wealthy man that you are seeing will have invested too much time, money and energy into you, to want to lose you so quickly.

Don’t build with a Man!

When you help a man build his career from the bottom up, you represent what he can get while he's on bottom. Which is why many men cheat or leave a woman altogether once he gets on top and becomes successful.

You want him to be doing well in his career before you except a proposal. This allows him to see you as a woman that he got while on top.

Keep them chasing you from the beginning. He will feel like you are still the prize to be won, once he's on top, because he still hasn't fully "caught" you.

And after that, the fact that you let him build his career alone without you helping him, he will feel like he truly got to impress you.

In the end men just like to feel as though they got the best women that they could while they are successful. They don't want to feel like they've settled.

Source: „The seven rules of Dating Rich men - Learn How to Attract AND Marry The Rich Man Who Will Love And Spoil You Forever“ By Grace Harper

[theambitiouswoman]

Discipline is the strongest form of self love. It’s ignoring current pleasures for bigger rewards to come. It’s loving yourself enough to do whatever you need to do, to give yourself everything you’ve ever wanted. It’s giving up the good for the great. It’s about being relentless and having tunnel vision. It’s about believing in the long game and knowing you will accomplish the things you want.

[glowdiamond]

men’s type is the opposite of what they say

When men talk about their “type” they’re really talking about who they can afford not who they ideally desire to be with

men will say i want a woman who’s natural and doesn’t wear makeup

but who do they follow on IG, and mast*rbate to while watching p*rn, and cheat with, who do they pursue and spend money on : women wearing makeup

men will say i don’t want a gold digger or  high maintenance women

but when given the choice they’ll always go for the high maintenance women, a man will walk into a room and look at the most boojee expensive looking woman, the woman who’s nails and hair look like they cost 2 months of rent, and THAT’s the woman they’ll approach

men will say they want a good girl who loves them for who they are but will be bored with her and actively chase the self absorbed woman who puts herself first

so whatever men say they want they’re lying

they’re describing who they can afford

they can only afford a low self esteem woman, who doesn’t take care of her look and doesn’t ask for much

but who they dream about and wish they could have, who they salivate over and actively pursue and jump hoops for is the exact woman they claim they don’t want

they want the high maintenance bratty chick, the girl who wants to get flown out and go on shopping sprees, the girl who knows her worth and ads tax,

they might hate on her for show, they might go on these podcasts and claim they don’t want that kind of woman, but deep down every man wishes he could show off having a pretty girlfriend and being able to spend on her, no one aspires to be with bottom of the barrel, low maintenance easily accessible women.

so this is your reminder to STAND UP, and know your worth and act like it ! 

[glowdiamond]

hi i love your blog and your tips!! :) do you have tips on how to establish boundaries with men? i'm always kinda lost with it. do i tell him what i expect from the get go with no sugar coating or should i adress things as they happen/come up? i have a streak of sometimes being taken advantage of (not just with guys tbh) and i'm trying to become more assertive but i don't know how to approach it

Hey dear,

the best way to establish boundaries is first through energy, how you look and act gives men an idea on what you’re willing to tolerate.

for example if you accept last minute dates that let’s him know you have no boundaries around time.

if he shows up at your workplace unannounced and you accept to see him that shows him you have no boundaries around personal space.

my advice is at the first sign if disrespect, the first time he insinuates something or says a tasteless remark, do NOT ignore it, you can ask him to repeat himself, then explain what he means = this will make him realize how unacceptable he sounds. Then calmly you can say either of these things.

I’m not comfortable with that

It’s not acceptable to talk to me that way

Did you mean to say that out loud

what makes you think you can talk to me that way

you can establish boundaries while staying feminine, no shouting or agressive body language just let him know that you see what he’s doing and you won’t let it pass unnoticed.

also the key to not being used is not being useful, act like a dainty princess let everyone know everyone does things for you not the other way around, when you’re over giving people see it as an invite to use you.

[glowdiamond]

If he’s not spending it on you, he’s spending it on someone else 🤷🏻‍♀️

The first mistake women make is believing men don’t have enough to spend. If a man likes you it doesn’t matter if he’s earning 6 figures or minimum wage, he WILL find a way to provide for you!

I had a friend who’s boyfriend was 10 years older and was earning significantly more than her and he used to make her go 50/50 on everything, food, rent, vacations. Yet every time he was with his buddies, and I’m talking groups of 7 to 10 guys at a time, he’d always pay for the entire table to show he’s an « alpha male. »

You ever wonder how your boyfriend/husband never has money for you but will magically have money for his homie who needs gas money, has money for p*rnhub or onlyf*ns subscriptions, has money for random useless hobbies like video games and Pokemon cards, and is sending back money to his mom & relatives.

Bu why doesn’t he have money for you ?

He simply doesn’t like you!

I know men who are coupled and make their gfs pay for everything yet these same men will ask to pay for a random woman’s Starbucks because she’s cute, or offer to pay groceries for her just to get a chance to talk to her!

Trust that at all times men are spending money, if it’s not on you, then it’s on the next chick, even if that’s their mama.

Spending is directly in correlation with how much he likes you. If he’s not spending , he’s not investing in you and is limiting damages for his inevitable exit! and like I said above, this instinct to provide for the one you care about is part of a bigger value system and has little to do with what a man has in the bank account, I know men who’ll take loans, extra shifts, and even a second or third job to finance a dream vacation for their girlfriend, or buy her that thing she wants for valentines, in simplistic terms it really is « if he wanted to he would »

[glowdiamond]

Men are supposed to fall in love with you falling in love with yourself

For years I never quite understood the whole you have to love yourself first in order for others to love you.

But now I do and I’ll explain it as best as I can:

When you walk into a room, the only thing you have going for you is your appearance and attitude (aka confidence)

You could be a loving, creative highly intelligent woman beneath the layers of insecurity, but if you act insecure, don’t take up space and speak negatively of yourself, people will just accept that conclusion about you because again they can only know what you show them, they’ll assume that you must have something to be insecure about.

Similarly, you could have previously been the ugly duckling, could have been bullied at school, picked last, a victim of trauma, but if you act confident and speak highly about yourself, that’s the only conclusion people will take with them, they’ll assume you have a good life going for you because you’re confident.

You are a walking advertisement for yourself, everywhere you go, through your confidence(or lack of)you’re telling people how you feel about yourself and how they should expect to treat you.

We are wired to want the best for ourselves, so given the choice between a confident and insecure person we’ll choose the confident one, because they carry the promise of a good time!

Think about weddings, there’s always that one bridesmaid who’s a bundle of light, she’s talking to the DJ, and helping the staff serve food and chatting up the elder family members, everyone loves her and remembers her. Think about the cool girl you meet in the bathroom of a club, she lets you borrow her lipstick and gives you an uplifting compliment and makes you feel good about yourself, and you think wow I’d love to get to know her.

THAT’s the impact of self confidence, it’s this luminosity that’s so addictive and that draws everybody in.

In dating too, you will have the best outcome if you carry yourself with utmost confidence knowing that you’re adding more and contributing to anyone who walks into your life.

[glowdiamond]

Reminder

the other day i read something and it was a real wake up call, it said something about how this life is the only one we get, this isn’t a free trial that we then get to upgrade, we either heal, achieve our dreams and thrive in THIS lifetime or we are left with the unknown. your life is not a waiting room, where you wait for things to get easier, and for opportunities to align, and for wealth to fall into your lap, your life is now! We are taught so many useless concepts growing up, “it gets better when you’re out of high school”, “it get’s better when you have a job”, “ it’ll feel nicer when you’re in a relationship”, “ xx age is the best age”, newsflash, it doesn’t GET better, you have to MAKE it better, every single day, and you have to do it on purpose, with determination, even on the days you don’t feel so good, or the days you’re feeling lazy, or the days the weather’s not quite right.

We fail ourselves the moment we live our lives in the future, in anticipation of the better, happier, wealthier us that apparently can never exist in the now but only in the mist of our imaginations of a future. the future is NOW. your life is a continuous now, wait for tomorrow to be better and that tomorrow is your new “now”, and that’s how people blink and suddenly, life has already passed them by while they were fantasizing, they wake up at 50 or 70 and think of all the things they could have achieved, and they think of how doable it was all along. the things we wish to accomplish seem daunting when we first look at them as a big chunk, but in reality every dream is only a series of small steps, actions, and thoughts, that are repeated with fervor and faith on a daily basis.

Please, start today, start living now, we are not drawing from an inexhaustible source, our time on earth is limited, everything else is not, your passion, drive, discipline, how much you can grow, how much you can love yourself and others, how much you can serve others and contribute to the world, how much you can achieve and create, how much you can earn and learn, money, knowledge, love, prosperity, wisdom, health, are all available to us, no cap, no maximum or limit to how much we can have, it’s all about how much we’re willing to take, if we just get up and do it.

Wake up and live in the now!

[glowdiamond]

I find myself coming back to this post and sometimes i really wonder if i’m the one who wrote it, it’s so easy to get off track and get swept away with life’s events and distractions, I read this and it always reminds again and again, that it takes an immense presence in the now, a great amount of effort to stay conscious and keep on working towards your dreams, you might drift or take a wrong turn or two but please don’t be caught up in guilt, “’ill never be disciplined enough to do this” “ i’ll never achieve my dream”, “ i keep waisting my time”, it’s okay to start over, time and time again, as long as you never stop trying, it takes time and discipline to build discipline, as weird as it sounds, it takes this energy of “being sick and tired of being sick and tired”, when you’re fed up of always going back to square one, that’s when real discipline begins, you realize that every moment you’re NOT moving forward you’re declining, you either keep pushing that rock til you get to the top or you take several breaks on the way and the rock slides back to where it started.

Self improvement, healing, and growth is a full time job, dedicate even 10 minutes a day to doing something that’ll get you closer to where you want to be, say a positive affirmation, read a page of that self help book, watch that 10 minute tutorial on how to start a business online, do something! never let a day be wasted!

[hathor77]

Someone should do a post on dressing in a way that looks ‘expensive’ but not breaking the bank

[estra-die-ol]

Wear black with gold/cream/silver detailing. Buy items that fit you well at the WIDEST POINT OF YOUR BODY and get them tailored to fit the rest. Stick to simple, clean lines and use accessories (detailing on a black/white purse for understated, a colorful purse for a bigger statement, , brightly coloured shoes if you go for fun shoes at all, funky jewellery) to add individuality and personality. Stick to neutral makeup in nude tones (+ false eyelashes), except for red/pink/maroon lipstick. Paint nails red for universal appeal, white or cream/beige for a bright neutral, black/grey/maroon for darker neutral. Keep them long enough that you can audibly tap them on objects, but not long enough that they interfere with mobility. Don’t touch your own cuticles unless you’re a wizard.

Don’t try go for red lips, red nails and red heels IMHO. Even if you rock Loubs, it just looks so extra- in a bad way. Never coordinate your purse, nails and your shoes around anyone in fashion- it looks good to regular folk but it comes across as slightly tacky, slightly lazy, and very unimaginative to anyone in fashion.

I’m still trying to figure out hair but…That basically covers it, I think.

[yhjklol-deactivated20200626]

You should know your skin’s undertone & what jewellery works for you. For example, I have a very golden undertone & silver looks really horrible on me.

Where to shop:

Zara: I find Zara has a knack for tailoring their clothes to fit your size very well. They’re very clean, & often minimalist in nature. Shoes are affordable & amazing, especially if you have wide feet. If you still can’t afford things here full price wait for their end of season sales. 

ASOS: they are a one stop shop & you can easily compare prices between brands. The ASOS brand itself is pretty great. If  you’re a student, make sure you sign up so you can have a 24/7/365 10% discount on purchases. Their sales are phenomenal & they have a great customer service & shipping policy.

H&M: I used to hate them but they’re upping their game. They’re very good for basics such as camis and long sleeve shirts.

Lord & Taylor: They have a good selection of quality fashion jewellery that looks very decent. I swear by their earrings.

Thrift stores: This is obvi hit or miss & takes a bit more time & a bit more knowledge about the kind of fabric youre looking for etc but one of my most complimented shift dresses was bought at Goodwill for $4 & I also have a lovely silk blouse I got for $3.

Saks Off Fifth: This is Saks Fifth Avenue’s version of Nordstrom Rack. If you’re looking to invest in quality designer pieces but want them at a bargain, this is a reliable source.

Poshmark: This is a site where people buy things from each other’s closets. I sell & buy from there. There was a beautiful asymmetric skirt that got sold out at H&M last year that I ended up finding here in my size. Basically thrifting online & everything is cheap.

The RealReal: Online consignment store for designer goods. If you want to splurge on a designer bag or shoes without paying full price, this is a great place to get pre-loved items. 

How to take care of your closet:

It doesn’t mean anything to buy quality pieces if you don’t take care of them. Looking after the things you own will keep your closet looking expensive.

Find a cobbler: I swear by my cobbler. A good cobbler will take your raggedy ass worn out shoes & make them presentable again. I have a habit of wearing my shoes down to the ground but my cobbler fixes them right back up for cheap. Your cobbler will also more likely than not know how to take care of leather goods such as bags.

Find a tailor: This is more expensive than a cobbler but 100% worth it. My tailor has taken some pieces of mine & turned them into gold.

If it says dry clean, dry clean. Don’t ruin your clothes by cheaping out. You’ll thank yourself later.

[icanhassugar-deactivated2017120]

Get a Nordstrom Debit card.  It shops directly from your bank account like your regular debit card but comes with $100 worth of free tailoring each year, even at Rack.  

[svgarventure-deactivated2019033]

Getting myself together

If you want to be ATTRACTIVE you can be.

-Get up early. Set your alarm and stretch first thing. Then go make some tea.

-Get dressed, do light makeup & go for a walk (Always look your best even if it’s light makeup & your hair is in a ponytail).

-Work out. Even though you don’t want to! Do you think anybody wants to at first? No. How do they get results? Discipline.

-Check off a calendar to feel accomplished after u do these things every day (with a rest day in between. Even then, stay active just go easier—walk).

-Do a face mask 2X a week at the end of the day. Put teabags on eyes to reduce puffiness. Moisturize and use gua sha roller to massage face.

-Sleep to binaural beats music for deep sleep

If you want to be SMART you can be.

-Read portions of a book mindfully and try to retain that information.

-Try to finish 1 book every 2 weeks. The library is your friend.

-Do a crossword in the local newspaper

If you want to be STRONG you can be.

-STOP giving into your emotions & being at their mercy.

-Do you feel sad? Well cry it out, comfort yourself & then get right back to doing whatever you need to further your goals.

-Don’t be an open book. Even if you don’t feel well nobody on the outside needs to know. Don’t give away your secrets. Only ask for help from appropriate people.

If you want to be FRIENDLY & PERSONABLE you can be.

-What would you do if you were drunk/ not overthinking it?

-How others react to you is none of your business. Don’t let them determine your worth/ mood.

-Compliment strangers. Ask for directions. This can lead to small talk.

-Mirror people subtly. Add on to the conversation by asking questions. Wait until the other person is done speaking no matter how badly you want to get a word in.

-Get approached by always looking put together & nice. Even if you’re not, fool them on the outside.

[adviceformefromme]

Every time you worry about what you don't have, you're creating more energy of this in your life. Your lack thinking, poverty mindset needs to fucking stop immediately. Change the story. Focus on the good in front of you right now. No matter how small it may feel. And focus on expanding from that place. That means no more fucking complaining about being broke, not having enough, about worry. Stop. Stop immediately. Be solution oriented. Take fucking actions. Stop being so fucking lazy about your life and reading about making change and actually do something for yourself today that is in alignment with your dreams.

[adviceformefromme]

Instead of obsessing over HIM. Over the job you don’t have. Over the lack of love, lack of funds, lack of new clothes, lack of everything, pour your energy into becoming HER. This is the becoming HER project. Every single day is an opportunity to step into HER. Your dream girl, living that life. This month is for actual-fucking-action. Actions towards your dreams. Actions towards living and breathing life as the most fulfilled version of yourself, the version you see so clearly in your mind but haven’t fully manifested in 3D. The version of you bursting out at the seams of your mind. She is ready to live, to experience life. 

This is you pouring into you. It was never about anyone outside of yourself. Your current circumstances are a reflection of your inner world. Focus your energy on becoming the most elevated version of you.

[adviceformefromme]

When you’re waiting for a man to message back, when you’ve been left on unread, ghosted, ignored whatever the fuck it is to do with communication that is consuming all your energy this is the message for you. Absorb these words and know this is the best advice for handling this situation.... 

Your feminine energy is what magnetises a man towards you, when you're present in your body, you become magnetic, when you're in your head, overthinking you're in masculine energy. REGARDLESS of where this man is, 5 miles, 10 miles, 100 miles from you the overthinking masculine energy you're in can be felt by him. So you need to get out of your head, and stop thinking about him as this is REPELLING him. The polarity is gone. Get BACK into your body, into your feminine energy. This might feel like the most stupid advice when all you can do is think about him NON STOP however, you have to haveeeee to bring the focus back to you. You have to return home to yourself to get the polarity back, otherwise energetically you are repelling him. When you put all your focus on HIM, he puts all his focus on HIM, when you focus on YOU, he focuses on YOU. Remember that, and keep your energy focused on yourself. You are the PRIZE. You are the main character. Are you playing the supporting role in his movie, or are you the fucking leading role in your own movie? Shift your energy back to you, and let these men play their natural role of pursing you.

[lais-noire-deactivated20260601]

doing the "bare minimum" is ridiculous

why should someone be rewarded for not being the best? for not putting in effort? I have worked with girls who, like me, want to be the best. they put in effort. they bring the fantasy. they take care of their nails, hair, skin, body, hygiene. they read books on seduction. they watch videos on sexuality. they give their all in bookings. and their clients ALWAYS come back, its no secret.

I have also worked with girls who do the bare minimum. who don't even bother to put on makeup, who don't work on conversation skills, don't give a fuck. it shows because they are the ones complaining about money. not being booked, clients not returning. sure, their marketing is fine still bare minimum. they don't spend on ads. photos are decent but they aren't fresh. these girls are surprised when their retention is shit. they are entitled. they do the bare minimum, so they get minimum results.

I will never be that person. I am too prideful. I prefer to be known as the best. I prefer to flip the switch and to leave a person awe-struck with how good I am at pretending. yes, its exhausting. but we are compensated VERY well for being a fantasy. If I expect $100k months, I had better be the sort of woman who commands it. Lazy people don't get ahead, full stop.

99% of people do enough to get by. be a part of the 1% as often as you can. take care of yourself mentally so you can use the remaining energy to be the best. to show up. its worth it, trust me.

[sayhoneysiren]

dark feminine habits

1. ᴍᴀꜱᴛᴇʀʙᴀᴛᴇ. give yourself permission to feel pleasure. it release stress from your body.

2. get naked. dance naked. sleep naked. look at you body in the mirror. soak in a bath. moisturize your skin. get a massage.

3. tell people no. if it’s not a hell yes, don’t waste your time. you have free will to do as you please. you are not a slave.

4. have pride in yourself and your achievements. set goals. accept compliments. own your confidence. shine.

5. flirt. it’s fun.

6. do shadow work. at the end of your day, take time to reflect on your mistakes and write down ways to make progress. this helps you understand your fears and guilts. journal. introspection.

7. don’t go along with anything that feels wrong to you. be assertive and don’t be afraid to cut someone off or cause a scene when your boundaries are crossed.

8. work your brain. do puzzles. reads books. learn about seduction. develop a skill. take time to daydream. visually manifest.

9. be daring. wear a sexy outfit or bold makeup look. show cleavage. follow your dreams. break routine. speak your mind. shock the people around you and ignore their judgements.

10. release timidity. stop overly apologizing, stuttering and overthinking. say exactly what you mean. feel exactly how you feel. banish all forms of guilt and shame.

[lais-noire-deactivated20260601]

I looked in the mirror earlier last week

and realized how naturally fine I am. and then also realized I have had sex for free too many times. and then re-realized that none of it was ever worth anything. I had nothing to show for free sex. nothing to show for some man being inside my body. I decided unequivocally that the next man who gets free sex will need to be my billionaire husband, periodt. I sat with that for these last few days. And noted that even for leisure I would not give myself that pleasure…not that I am undeserving of leisure but that I am deserving of way more than dick.