The first LGBT group I ever joined asked me to leave because they didn’t consider asexual to count as queer. It wasn’t visible enough to them. And more than that, they were concerned that I was a CisHet man only using the label of asexual to sneak into what was meant to be a safe space
Now that I’m out and transitioned, I still run up against this suspicion that I’m just infiltrating spaces and making them dangerous for the people they’re meant to protect
I’m tired of being seen as a predator when I’m just trying to exist















