For all that the 1800s etiquette guides are--obviously--derangedly sexist from a modern perspective? They're also mindblowing in how casually they will assert things that MODERN DAY CONSERVATIVES would scream and cry and shit their pants about.
"People back then always married young it's natural!!!" Every single 1800s guide I've ever met casually mentions that, of course, you really shouldn't get married before you're at least 20, and waiting until 25 is usually better.
Or, like. Okay here's a long segment:
Just firmly going "it is crazy sexist to blame The Wife for overspending when thirty seconds of asking questions will immediately establish that her husband was outright lying to her about how much money they had. Talk to your wife like a normal person."
Or--okay, here. A section on being honest and not writing love letters in secret, because that's usually a good sign that there's something untoward going on....
....except that he then immediately acknowledges that sometimes, the reason you're hiding this from your parents is that your parents suck. That there are parents who frankly have not earned the right to approve or disapprove of your partner.
(I realize the phrasing there sounds a lot less strong than my summary, but--trust me on this. When you're familiar with the narrative voice of these kinds of books, this passage is downright radical. The mere acknowledgement that if you treat your kids badly, it's your own damn fault when they don't talk to you? I've genuinely never seen that before in this genre.
Don't freak out over "properly trained", either. It's just a linguistic shift--at the time, "training" was used the way we would say "raising" a child today. )
"Women should absolutely work if the family economy requires it, that is only reasonable. Trying to keep your 'status' at any cost is foolish" and "Of course the wife should be open with her opinions and have full knowledge of the family economy and affairs" - Miss Hartley (The Ladies' Book of Etiquette, and Manual of Politeness, 1860) telling off every rightwing and tradwife grifter
when you tell people passports don't need to exist and people should be able to travel as they did throughout most of human history they think that's going too far because in their mind there exists a hoard of nameless faceless immigrants waiting to flood their country and "take over". without realising that there is nothing inherently superior about the imperial core countries - the culture, the food, the clothing, the architecture is not superior than that of the rest of the world. all you've got going for you are the benefits reaped from hundreds of years of historical colonisation and the continuing benefits of modern day imperialism. do you think if people's homes weren't subject to manufactured violence, artificial scarcity, and systematic disenfranchisement they'd all just wanna leave? can you not imagine a life where someone would be happier living in uganda than the usa?
Honestly, Eddie's reaction to Buck saying it would've been better for Chris if he was the one who got shot is actually crazier than it was for him to change his will and just not tell Buck. Because that's an objective truth. Of course it would've been better for the kid who already lost his mother if his dad didn't get shot. It just would be. Chris has a solid support system, but that doesn't replace his father. But Eddie takes personal offense to the implication. Because changing his will made Buck a parent in Eddie's brain, he just didn't inform Buck. So he realizes he needs to let Buck know that he is a parent in Eddie's brain. So that he wouldn't say things that imply he's not. And that's just a fascinating glimpse to the way Eddie himself doesn't realize just how tangled in his life he's making Buck be.
Many lgbt teenagers and young adults growing up on the internet today have socially conservative beliefs that they voice at all times that they got from their conservative parents which theyâve never challenged because they think the life experience of being gay or trans makes them politically progressive
This is why I hate it when people say something homophobic and then go âso youâre really accusing me, a whole ass lesbian, of being homophobic đâ like yeah
I still think the baby box is one of the most awful moments of the Buckley parents (that we see on screen).
I understand not having a baby box for Buck because when he was a baby, their other child was actively dying. I'm not thrilled about it. It's not great. But it's understandable, to an extent. They could have his later, though, but the point kinda stands. I kinda get it.
But showing it to Maddie as an adult while Buck was in the room ? Like, it wasn't going to be obvious Buck would ask about his ? And then just not answering him at all ? No apology? Nothing ? Chim had to be the one to say something, anything to make it a little less awful for Buck (and let's be real no one at this table believe they have a baby box for him).
Having Joe ask Danny to ask Steve to stop looking for Doris is both utterly disgusting (more people trying to manipulate Steve for their own ends) and utterly hilarious (from an outsiders perspective Steve does whatever Danny says)
And we have definitely seen Steve and Danny completely change their initial course of action when the other asks (Iâm thinking of the âIâm gonna go home and restâ scene from I think season 7 and then just a few episodes ago Danny told Steve it was insane to negotiate with terrorists to get Cath back and Steve said âbut Danny this is reminding me of the time the terrorists killed my dad đ„șâ AND THEN DANNY ROLLED WITH IT IMMEDIATELY ILLEGAL CRIMINAL ACTIVITY AND ALL) but having an outsider who is hardly ever in Hawaii to actually witness this behavior say âoh Iâll ask Danny to ask Steve the notoriously stubborn to change his mind that will totally workâ is actually insane. Weâre supposed to believe these two arenât together? Weâre supposed to believe they arenât madly in love?
And I love that Danny said âum âïž noâ
This is why Steve trusts him more than anyone else. Danny puts Steveâs best interest first every time. Danny also does not want Steve hung up on the Doris thing but what he isnât gonna do is let someone else try and control Steve through him.
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the other buzziest thing about buddie to me is how badly they want to take care of each other. buck is running through the hospital because eddie is hurt. he is making sure chris is taken care of because he knows that is what eddie would want. he is freaking out when he finds out eddie visited a cardiologist and didn't tell him about it. he is breaking down locked doors when chris calls to tell him something is wrong. he is rubbing eddie's shoulder during one of the worst moments of eddie's life. meanwhile, eddie keeps showing up at buck's door with food he doesn't even like that much because he is worried and he knows buck and chris love pineapple on pizza. he is sitting by buck's bedside, never straying far, giving buck medicine and water. he is reminding buck that ice goes on the eye and that he doesn't have to be anything for anyone. he knows when buck needs to come to him, and he gives him the space to do that. they want to take care of each other so badly. all the time. they are each other's safe spaces, the place they go when they are hurt or tired or scared. they choose each other and their family again and again and again. they are each other's person.
An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works
Chapters: 1/1
Fandom: 9-1-1 (TV)
Rating: Teen And Up Audiences
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Relationships: Evan "Buck" Buckley/Eddie Diaz (9-1-1 TV)
Characters: Evan "Buck" Buckley, Eddie Diaz (9-1-1 TV)
Additional Tags: POV Eddie Diaz (9-1-1 TV), Feelings Realization, Getting Together, First Kiss, Friends to Engaged, Love Confessions, Oblivious Eddie Diaz (9-1-1 TV), Eddie is just figuring it out, i meant to make eddie ambiguosly queer but he said nope so, Demisexual Eddie Diaz (9-1-1 TV), it's not really relevant. he just decided to go that way and i had to respect it, buck is having a crises about it, and eddie is ready to marry him about it, Buck's favorite word in this is Eddie, Post-Season/Series 09, Fluff
Summary:
âYour family is adorable,â she says with a smile, before turning her attention to the drawer to get Eddieâs change.
âOh,â he breathes, blinking a couple of times, âthank you.â
Itâs the only reaction that feels correct. That is his family. Unconventional, maybe, but real in every way that matters.
âHow long have you been married?â She asks, finally handing him the change, and his brain comes to a screeching halt as he looks at her properly.
Hailey, as per the name tag pinned next to a little rainbow flag, who canât be more than a few months older than Chris, thinks heâs married to Buck.
He doesnât know exactly what to do.
âWeâre,â he tries, before clearing his throat, âweâre not married.â
or
Eddie just wanted to buy some ice cream.
UNPOPULAR OPINION: A lot of "mental health issues" disappear when bills are paid, rent is secure, and the fridge is full. Peace is expensive. And pretending money doesn't affect mental health is privilege.
I feel like I was the blue and green girl, and then the blue and yellow got more explicit, and I stopped focusing on the blue and green since it seemed like the actual getting together arc is going to be blue and yellow. But I was making that post from yesterday, and I remembered a blue and green aspect that proves to me that, yes, buddie is coming, and how I keep meaning to talk about it, but I don't, so here it is. More in-depth explanation of the blue and green can be found here, it was written during season 7, but the pattern has not changed, if anything, we got more examples.
The blue and green was established with madney, being present in their first scene and being continuously used with most couples we see on the show, from main couples, to temporary li, to people in calls. And while this was happening, the show was very careful not to put Buck and Eddie with blue and green tops in the same scene, which is interesting when you consider the way Eddie wears green a lot, and Buck wears blue a lot. Until 613.
613 we had the poker date and everything that gave us, but more importantly, we had buddies first blue and green scene while madney and bathena got blue and green scenes.
Something we talked about a lot at the time this aired was the colors show the stage of development of the relationship. Buddie is lighter because they're still figuring it out, madney is a bit darker because they just got a house together and were moving toward marriage, and bathena had been married for years, so they are darker.
But then the next blue and green scene starts a pattern. Natalia never got a blue and green scene, but buddie got a blue and green scene during the episode with their first official date episode. It's also the episode Eddie meets Marisol again, who also doesn't get a blue and green scene. So in 617, when we see Buck and Eddie start to put effort into these random women, we get a scene where Buck and Eddie are in the romantic intention color combo. While not getting those with the women.
The next blue and green scene we get is in 704. Which happens to be when Buck comes out.
Tommy got a couple of ambiguous blue and green scenes, as in a greenish brown to Buck's blue and cream shirt, and a very dark navy to Buck's mint, which go against the matchy-match nature of the blue and green with every other couple.
But it doesn't really have the correct effect because the stripes on Buck's shirt in 705 match Eddie's shirt, and Tommy's shirt is more brown than green. And the bachelor party is dampened by the way the Buck is literally wearing a matching costume with Eddie.
But the two times we see Buck and Tommy kiss, the episode has blue and green buddie. Because 706 also has multiple scenes, including one where they are next to bathena, who are also in the color combo. 706 is a very blue and green, you can read more about it specifically on the masterpost.
But they are matching throughout most of the episode, even though both of them have different li, who are not getting the same treatment colorwise.
Next up, we have 805. So once again, Buck and Tommy are being a couple, and they are reinforcing the color coding for Buck and Eddie. Tommy is even in the room, and Buck is looking for Eddie.
Then we had the hotshots scene, which I think is just a fun little nod.
So every time Buck showed real interest in someone else, they reinforced the romantic intention color coding with Eddie.
Which makes 816 even more interesting. Not only is it the first time Buck is wearing green in the combo, and how this eventually leads to the 817 fight, but also, the first time we see them together after the hookup is once again reinforcing the concept that they are a unit.
And we also got technically 2 scenes in 907 when Buck hooks up with someone else, once again reinforcing the pattern.
Because not only is the gym blue and green, the clothes they are wearing to the club are blueish and greenish. You can see it at the end there, when we have the white light on them.
So the blue and green, that is a real aspect of the show, just pay attention to how blue and green 512, 603, and 706 are if you don't believe me, and something that the show explicitly avoided with Buck and Eddie is being reinforced again and again and again. And always in episodes about their love life, too. So when dealing with the romance aspect of their life, they are constantly pairing Buck and Eddie visually together. In the same way the do with Madney and Bathena the whole show. So, if once is an instance, twice is a coincidence, and three is a pattern, then 6 times is very fucking clear lol.
Anyways, yay blue and green, and if you read this, I love you đ«¶.
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