Those closest to us are the ones that tend to hurt us the most. Even if unintentionally, spreading a perception that is only half true or not at all. When did family/friends become our enemy in this way?
Giving people the idea that they can be bias from what one hears. Did we not learn from judging a book from its cover? Come on people!
Our friends/family make new friends and talk horrible about you. So when you meet them. You get "the" look or maybe even a tone. Like they think they know something about you and decided they dislike you.
I do not like making new friends, because its exhausting and difficult. But through others. Its like they already set us up to fail with their own friends.
First off, all of you MF need to get a reality check. People vent to you. Do not share our private venting about others intentionally for you to twist and use against that person. Its PRIVATE for a reason.
Two, you never judge a person through that persons ranting. Your getting only one terrible perception from someone upset. Whom probably already regrets venting after getting it out cause it was something stupid.
Lastly, you meet this person and now you think you know their whole life story. You don't go reading a memoir about a J.k. Rowling and decide you know them. Do you?
PERCEPTION! Get your own!
I have friends vent about each other all the time! Its healthy to vent, because you either realize something or your trying to fix it out loud. Unload all these jumbled up feelings and let loose.
But talking shit about a person. You do not realize someone is basically building an idea of that person they do not know. While this one time they were stupid, but you do not sit there crediting all the amazing good things they do for you. Cause your VENTING.
Better yet, say a friend that does "intentionally" talk crap about you.
You meet that person and they "know" you. Act out and snap at you. Please, pull them aside and tell them. You do not know me. I do not know you. I do not know what others have said about me. But be an adult and learn to make your own perception of me, yourself. Before you go judging me. Would you like others to judge you before knowing you? *drop the mic*
(unless you murdered or did something unspeakable. Then I cannot help you. >.>)
Furthermore, if you are the one ranting. Take some responsibility and be aware what you say to people. Or at least be mindful whom you vent to. Let them know that your venting and your not trying to get them to hate them. But that your thankful for them listening.
You are honestly better telling someone that will never know or meet this person. Because a person will give you a much more fresh and truthful perspective and not judge on what they already know. Giving you much more helpful advice.
But I will leave that for you to decide.
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