(blushes like a smut)

30's, sideblog

[10001gecs]

I need to suck you off until you’re groaning like a beached whale 🫣

ok you can give me a blowjob but take the time to think of a more sexy simile please

[dykonicdiva]

i am at my clits end

[no-sharks-on-the-sun]

starting a compilation

[no-sharks-on-the-sun]

[no-sharks-on-the-sun]

[screenshotsofdespair]

[crazy-brazilian]

femcel posting

[blessedbygod2]

Let's just cuddle naked and if it slips in, it slips in

[berdyayeva]

It’s just me and my stupid clit against the fucking world

[aggot]

everyone wants masc carpenter trade until his rough calloused handjob sands your thing down small and smooth as a river stone

[hellyeahscarleteen]

Welcome to Scarleteen: Grounded, non-judgmental, and genuinely centered on inclusive pleasure

At Scarleteen we’re focused on making pleasure accessible for all, especially for queer folks who are tired of either getting zero sex ed info, or getting info that assumes everyone’s straight, cis, and/or having one very specific kind of sex. Our work also centers community voices, not outsiders telling people what to do.

A lot of sex ed out there skips over queer pleasure and queer dynamics, and dodges the real questions folks have like, how to navigate dysphoria, or thinking about how to have safer sex in ways that go beyond “use condoms.” All of our sex ed is written with queer people in mind, but some of our articles and advice columns dive more deeply into concerns our LGBTQIA+ visitors ask us about—although they’re out here for everyone to read, whether questioning, supporting a partner or friend, or just curious to learn more.

If you want queer sex ed that’s grounded, non-judgy, and actually pleasure-forward, welcome :)

[hellyeahscarleteen]

We’ve pulled together a bunch of our best resources on pleasurable queer sex, including safer sex guides, toy guides, and pieces focused on comfort, communication, connecting with partners, and feeling good in the body during sex, not just “doing it right.”

We’ve got everything from the practical basics on safer sex to how to enrich your relationship with your partners. We talk about all the stuff that makes sex mutually enjoyable and pleasurable, like checking in with your partner during, welcoming in varied experiences, and experimenting to find what feels right for you during partnered and solo sex. Scarleteen also covers topics like exploring polyamory or sexual pleasure for QTBIPOC youth, written by and for members of these communities. Here’s seven of our favorites just for you:

T4T sex and feeling euphoric (Advice column)

How Can I Enjoy Sex as an Intersex Person?

Figuring Out How to be a Lesbian Safer Sexpert

Finding Joy in Our Bodies and Bonds: A Guide to Sexual and Relational Pleasure for QTBIPOC Youth

Let's Get Metaphysical: The Etiquette of Entry

A First Polyamory Guide (Series)

How to Play with Toys (Series)

[fake-guns-blazing]

i wish i could reblog all the i hate sex posts because they’re terribly funny but unfortunately it’s just not true. i don’t hate sex. i’m literally thinking about it while i’m on the clock. on the clock? i wish i was on the. well. i shan’t say

[poussentlesailes-deactivated202]

before we have sex can you reassure me i’m the most precious thing you’ve ever seen and repeat it a thousand times please

[di--es---can-ic-ul-ar--es]

ME AND WHO

[shieldfoss]

#why do they call it the little death if not to remind you to do a post mortem.

lmao

[closertotheheartofthesunrise]

no no @nogoodhorsethief, you have something here

[the-sensitive-sadist]

Good girls use their safeword frequently btw

[the-sensitive-sadist]

Some people had a weird reaction to this one, so let me clarify some misconceptions and express my perspective a bit more.

When we talk about kink, a lot of the time people treat safe words as if they are exclusively an expression of an absolute limit. A firm proclamation that the scene is too rough, the pain too much, the situation too extreme, and that the entire thing needs to stop. Safeword use in such situations is obviously essential and mandatory in order to bring the scene or sensation to an end and ensure the safety of all participants. This is not, however, the only time a safeword should be used.

They can be used to express when someone is at their limit. They can mean the scene needs to end completely because the sub can't take it anymore at all. But they don't have to mean that. Safewords should be used to pause or stop the scene and break character for any reason. You can also use your safeword to pause and discuss a limit, communicate that something is or isn't working for you, ensure that everything is going to plan, take a water break, go get a toy from the other room, check with your partner about something, pause to change your laundry, or do absolutely anything else out of character related to your scene.

This is why a lot of people use green/yellow/red.

Green - continue

Yellow - pause and make a change (this can be anything from "slow down a little bit" to "I need something different but want to keep going")

Red - I need this situation to be over and for us to get right into aftercare.

What a lot of people seem to miss is that in this framework yellow is also a safeword.

All of this is ignoring the additional dimension that Dominants also need to safeword!! It's completely normal and if you're doing a lot of BDSM it should happen in your daily kink life often. Real life is not a romance novel.

Using your safeword is essential and you should use it all the time, whenever you want. Breaking character during kink is normal, healthy, sexy, and fundamentally essential. Do it more often.

[hellyeahscarleteen]

"People aren't perfect, so neither is anything we do, and that includes sex. Sex should be a place where we get to be imperfect and feel okay about -- and maybe even enjoy -- being so.

If you feel like you, a partner or sex need to be flawless in every way, it's wise to really think about and evaluate those feelings. Most of what they're probably telling you is that there's a security or comfort in yourself, a partner, a relationship or sex and sexuality as a whole that you just don't have yet and need more time to build."

Sorting Maybe from Can't-Be: Reality Checking Partnered Sex Wants & Ideals

[nulltwink]

omg hii !!! hi you're home!!! (jerks you off to completion)

[swimminglovernut]

Meh

[nulltwink]

(puts the cum back in you) get out .

[blackpyrefly]

[about to give you head] [doesn't know how to talk dirty at all] umm the huge cock store called they said they want this back

[disabled-reblogs]

[what-even-is-thiss]

Talking to allo people who haven’t really interrogated how society has told them to view sex feels like that bit in SpongeBob where Patrick keeps failing to put his hand on the lid

[what-even-is-thiss]

Sex is just a thing. No it’s just an activity. It doesn’t have to be… no listen it’s just an activity. An activity. It’s just a thing. A thing. No it’s not the same for everyone it’s just an activity. No it’s a value neutral activity. An activity. An activity.

[what-even-is-thiss]

I’ve been experiencing this lately with people trying to argue with me about my views on sex work.

“You can’t compare sex work to other types of work because having sex you’re not enthusiastic about is really traumatizing”

I’m sure for a lot of people that’s true but for me sex and masturbation occupy a similar emotional space to brushing my teeth or doing the dishes and I certainly don’t feel traumatized about it and I know for a fact that I’m not the only person who feels this way.

Also I think that someone physically and violently forcing me to brush my teeth might end up being traumatizing.

Sex is so taboo and mythologized that people have forgotten the mechanics of it.

Yeah sex might be sacred and important to you. To me it’s a chore I’ve gotta do sometimes. Like cooking. I love cooking and put great importance on it and who I do it with. A lot of people just cook to live though.

Yeah if to you sex has a lot of emotions caught up in it I’m not gonna tell you that you’re wrong for feeling that way. That’s normal. It’s not a universal experience though. And if you can’t accept that, then too bad. Other people’s personal realities don’t exist to confirm your personal worldview.