An important lesson for everyone reading this!
Always try to expect the best from life and stay hopeful. You may have read this many times but nobody explains why we should stay so positive? Especially if our lives have mostly been quite negative. Let me try to explain why we should stay positive and hopeful in life.
Our brains don't create our realities, it just reinforces and supports the realities that we create for ourselves. Quite complicated, I know.. But wait for it!
Our brain's job is to keep us safe physically, mentally and emotionally. It's supposed to keep us 'risk free' and will often even justify our wrong doings, just to save us from negative emotions like stress. It does that by supporting our wrong doings with evidence. So that's why so many murderers justify their actions. You'd literally hear a murderer say 'I killed her because she was being too loud and I couldn't focus on my game'.
It's their brain justifying their actions to them because our brains have to ensure our emotional safety and save us from the stress that comes with committing a crime. So the initial reaction to our crimes is usually justification. It takes many people to convince us that we are wrong, that's when we finally understand. This is why there are laws that specify what comes under the category of "crime". Do we need a law to tell us that stealing is a crime? It's common sense right? But nope, because our brains would've justified every crime of ours, that's its job 🤷🏻♀️
So the point of this example is that the initial reactions of our brains is always to support our actions, no matter how wrong they are.
Now that we've understood this point, let's move on to why we need to stay hopeful and positive in life.
Your brain will always reinforce the reality you create for yourself. For the sake of your emotional safety, it won't create conflicts in your head. So if you choose to believe that everything in your life goes wrong, everyone around you hates you. You just aren't capable of succeeding in life, life is just too hard etc etc.. If you believe all those negative things, your brain will ONLY bring evidence to prove your negative thoughts to you. The world around us is a busy place, so many things happening at once but our brains can't and won't focus on everything. It cherry picks and remembers the details that reinforce our thoughts. So in case of you having negative thoughts, it won't make you focus on the people that do like you, the things that you have achieved successfully etc. Because if it does that then it's creating a conflict between your thoughts and the reality outside of you. That's not what it'll do, for the sake of your emotional safety.
What happens when your brain turns a blind eye to the positives and magnifies the negatives? It can see the positives and the negatives both, but what does it remember and magnify and what it forgets and discards? Again, depends on your thoughts. So if you often have negative thoughts, you start believing the negative even more because now you have evidence for it 🤷🏻♀️ when this happens several times, the reality you have about others and about life in your brain turns very negative. You eventually lose confidence in your abilities, trust in your relationships and just you turn into a sad, lonely person who doesn't succeed at anything. That obviously is reflected in your body language and in anything practical you do. It creates mental burdens and slowly deteriorates you.
This is called confirmation bias. A true phenomenon that has been observed for many years.
If you intentionally choose to ignore the negatives and pick the positives in your life, your brain will be trained to only focus on the positives around you cuz it has to use that as an evidence to support your positive thoughts.
And this can be life changing because this will boost your confidence, increase your abilities, groom you and just overall create a positive reality for you. Choose to focus on the positives even if you are facing too much negativity now. In the long run, this will really help all of you.
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