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ᥫ᭡ | This blog is run by The Skulk System who collectively go by Kyousei and uses he/him, plural they/them, and space, sea, Backrooms, and deep dark themed neopronouns!

ᥫ᭡ | Our blogs are as listed; the host's writing blog is @justanotherboringwriter, our cutecore-themed BAH pack and system blog Is @infwctednyacifier, Soldier mind's age/petre/dre, alterhuman, and therian blog is our @rocketsnraccoons, our term and BAH pack archive blog is @thearchivaldata, our system diary blog is @datasystemdiary, and our agere/petre blog is @s0vl34t3r!

ꨄ︎ | Have you, as a system, ever wanted a blog to submit asks to relating to your relationship with a system, a singlet, both, or more? This is the blog for you!

ꨄ︎ | sysdating-culture-is is all about dating, whether that be in a monogamous or polyamorous relationship! This blog is about out-sys relationships but in-sys relationships are fine as well.

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fictive dating a fictive culture is NO, i'm not a yumeshipper and NO, we can't "share" [x] "because we're both yumeshippers". That's literally my husband in-source and stop pretending like i'm a yumeshipper and forcing the label on me.

#₊˚⊹👤 monogamous #₊˚⊹👥 polyamorous #₊˚⊹🏠 In-sys dating #₊˚⊹🏞️ out sys dating #like srsly #saying this as a Pyro dating/married to a Scout #idgaf abt yumeshippers bc sure ur not hurting anybody #but I am a FICTIVE who is MARRIED to another character FROM MY SOURCE and AM NOT A YUMESHIPPER #do not force the label on me and do not try to “bond” over my marriage to the character you yume #like if u yume scout then ok #if ur sharing/hyper-sharing then int yk obvs we're with 2 diff scouts so no jealousy #but don't force that fucking label on me!!!! 4 me it makes me feel weirdly delusional #specifically cuz sum yumeshippers act like this is sum delusion #like NOOOO!!!!!! not every1 sees it like dat ++ its disrespectful 2 other yumeshippers ++ those w delusions who may also yume #anyways rant over #also again DNI non-sharing yumeshippers esp the aggro ones like bro stfu #obvs ppl guna yume w ur yume n the yume is always a SUPER popular character like wtf u expect #that's like saying ur black n nobody else can b black bc UR black like c how that doesn't make any fucking sense?????#rant over bye

Hiya hai sooo a month ago our partner system had a newly formed headmate decide she doesnt wanna date us, so were like alr we still fw u heavy and we talked and it got to a healthy spot!

Since then her headmates have broken up w us 1 by 1 til theres only 2 left, (who r both infrequent fronters) while their main host is *mad* crushing on an online friend and wont stop gushing to us about her

We never had any bad feelings about them dating other ppl before, Im glad theyre navigating relationships by-headmate for the 1st time but this feels awful?

Is this as unhealthy as it feels or am i ovverreacting ><

defo discuss it. Tell them that you may not be the most comfortable with them constantly talking about this crush because of your relationship and to maybe pull it back. Also possibly discuss trying to find a way to have the 2 headmates you're still dating front more because that would definitely help since instead of having most of the time spent with the host ranting about this crush, you'd bespending more time with your partners.

Also, as a sys in a polycule, it can feel awful originally. It feels "weird" for newer poly beings because you're not used to having partner/s want to pursue other partners, even if your poly, because you're most likely used to monogamy. That's okay and we experienced it too, esp w feelings of jealousy but as we spent more time in our polycule, we got used to it and now we don't care as long as our partners are happy.

This isn't unhealthy and you aren't overreacting. Overall, just discuss this and tell them how you feel and how you can avoid this awful feeling since you don't want to end the relationships, you just feel a bit uncomfortable with the current situation and want to work around it.

#₊˚⊹👤 monogamous #₊˚⊹👥 polyamorous #₊˚⊹🏞️ out-sys dating #atp we're just a relationship counselor for systems and that wasn't intended for this blog but wtv we don't mind helping others

Dating a system as a system is...

We get to experience a 100 ways to love you as a system of 100, and you have 100 members so we have 100 of you to love 100 different ways.

"100 ways to love and all 100 chose your collective"

#₊˚⊹👤 monogamous #₊˚⊹👥 polyamorous #₊˚⊹🏠 In-sys dating #₊˚⊹🏞️ out-sys dating

oh man so we mostly date other systems, have multiple partner systems even, it's usually preferable to us, we tend to click and connect better. (and we're very poly.) but we have our 1 (One) singlet boyfriend. he's so sweet. he's always been so good about our plurality, even with how unique our plurality is (we're monocon, have no memory gaps, very covert system tbh)...he's always been so sweet and respectful, we feel so safe with him, and comfortable with the fact that all of us feel differently for him, even with a lot of us having romantic feelings for him- there's 2k+ of us. a few of our older in headspace headmates view him in a more familial way for example. he's one of like, two singlets we've been interested in since we realized we were plural, and the only one we've dated since our partner we had when we were having our syscovery broke up with us (unrelated mostly to our plurality). and we're so glad we pursued him and have him in our life. he's just. Augh. Apollo we love you so muuch...(it's also ironic and funny to us that one of suns names, suns primary name, is the name of the deity we primarily worship, being pagan. we started that worship before we started dating him, and we often have to clarify "talking about deity Apollo not boyfriend Apollo" or vice versa...or the jokes of "of course you're dating a guy called Apollo"...)

#₊˚⊹👤 monogamous #₊˚⊹👥 polyamorous #₊˚⊹🏞️ out-sys dating #plural love #actually plural #sys4sys #sys4sing #da pics r jst there so weirdos don't int so yeah #new stuff that'll b added 2 every post 2 make sure dni isn't broken

in a sys4sys relationship and a lot of each of our headmates have their own relationships and I'm struggling to know how to ask for time with my partner without feeling like I'm telling whoever's fronting that I don't want to spend time with them bc it's not true, I just really miss my (member of partner sys) gf. What do?

I really doubt that they'll feel like that. You should really just try to tell them that you wanna spend time with your girlfriend but if you really feel like they'd be upset, then try and ask to see how they actually feel. You can also try to establish dates/times where you and your girlfriend specifically front to have time together. Or learn how to system-hop, if that's possible for your system and your partner system.

[btw system-hopping = traveling from one system to another through something like a portal, a path, a vehicle, etc. this can allow for a headmate to permanently move to or temporarily visit another system and it could help since this would allow you to just go to your partner system and see your girlfriend. You can system-hop by trying to form a way to your partner system's headspace and checking progress by seeing if it appears in their headspace. Don't give up if it doesn't work immediately].

#₊˚⊹📢 Kyousei shrieks #₊˚⊹🏞️ Out-sys dating #₊˚⊹👤 Monogamous

fictive dating culture is I don't care if we're universes apart. I know we'll find our way back to each other, even if we're completely different people now. I'll always love you.

#₊˚⊹👤 monogamous #₊˚⊹🏞️ out-sys dating #this is about Scout.#depression and shitty mental health have been fucking me up #downloaded a bunch of pics off of unsentproject and have them in a note on my simply plural profile #1 under my real name and 17 under “pyro”#they all sound like him.#i know we'll see each other soon because he'll never stay away from me <333 true love is great

Sys dating culture is having a protector be fed up and just tell your crush.

"I had six others in my head pining for someone who obviously felt the same way for all of us. A unique torture." -🛰

#₊˚⊹🏞️ Out-sys dating #₊˚⊹👤 Monogamous #₊˚⊹👥 Polyamorous #₊˚⊹❦ Known anons #🛰️

sys dating culture is co hosts fighting for front time around our (singlet) wife / always co-fronting around our wife - 🫀

#₊˚⊹🏞️ Out-sys dating #₊˚⊹👤 monogamous #₊˚⊹👥 polyamorous #₊˚⊹❦ Known anons #🫀 anon

(in)sys dating culture is one of them co-conscious while im working on our sp, passing by its wife's profile, and it making me fix up its wife's profile 😞😞 (/lh) (it was cute and i was happy to pretty up her profile)

also yeah Price and Lilith do this like y'all not even in the fronting room and spend 25/8 together just look at each other 🙄 /lh

#₊˚⊹📢 Kyousei shrieks #₊˚⊹🏠 In-sys dating #₊˚⊹👤 Monogamous

Sys dating culture is that only the host is dating them and yet another headmate is more excited than the host is to greet their partner every morning

#₊˚⊹🏞️ Out-sys dating #₊˚⊹👤 Monogamous

sysdating culture is having a partner who denied for so long that they're plural but now someone else fronted and now i get to rub it in their face lovingly :3

#₊˚⊹🏞️ Out-sys dating #₊˚⊹👤 Monogamous #₊˚⊹👥 Polyamorous

Poly, sys4sys, and aripluric culture is the token singlet partner having a Google Doc to keep track of everybody and struggling so bad that everybody else has to have them just download Simply Plural so they doesn't explode from stress.