When it comes to large bodies, there are a myriad of reasons people are fat. These can include, but are nowhere near limited to, genetics, P
"Wanting to be fat (much like wanting to be thin or in-betweeny or athletically built) isn't something I, or anyone else, should have to defend. But it is something I want to talk about more. In radical fat acceptance conversations, it's pretty much acceptable to say that you actually enjoy being fat; that you see beauty in it, that you see beauty in the fatness of others, and that you feel empowered by the way you look. In mainstream conversations and day-to-day interactions, that isn't remotely the case. If you are fat, and you are not publicly trying to "fix" yourself, you need a reason and an excuse. You need proof that you're healthy regardless. You need proof that your weight "cannot be helped." Saying you're fat because it's something you want remains more or less off limits, and certainly not something met with respect for one's choices.
I'm over it. As is the case for most people, I am fat for a few reasons. But the main one is simple: That's how I like it. Some people aren't fat because of illness or the financial burdens of "eating clean" or because their parents are fat, too (not that there's anything wrong with that). Some people just want to be fat.
If you're also one of those people, please know that it's OK. Know that you aren't shoving your beliefs and preferences down anyone else's psyche. You aren't claiming that everyone should be attracted to you. You get to decide to what degree health matters to you, much like everyone else. You get to decide how you go about maintaining your weight. You get to decide what to dress in, or what kinds of people you want in your life ā romantically or otherwise. You get to be autonomous over your body. You get to rock your own unapologetic fatness."
āYou might even sexually connect with your fatness in such a strong way that you'd rather date or fuck or love someone whose preferences align with your own. Someone who doesn't like you in spite of your fat, but who loves the look, feel, and radicalness of fatness that is consciously embraced. Someone who believes that fatness, in all its squashy malleableness, can be an undeniable turn-on. You feel allowed to have those preferences, in the same way anyone else is entitled to their own sexual or romantic (consensual) choices. And that's because you are allowed.ā
