It's a dating fact that moving on is not easy. If it was, you probably never loved that person in the first place but what people fail to mention is that moving on can sometimes bring you more scars and bruises than you can ever imagine. With that, here are some facts about moving on that people tend to sometimes forget:
1. If you ever went through a major break up, you know that it's not the person who you mourn for—it's what you shared: the little things that you no longer have. You will find yourself looking for the routines and the familiarity of having someone around. In time, you will realize that it's not really the person you miss but it's all about the things they do that make you really happy. Letting a broken heart heal is a long process of self-recovery and self-reinvention.
2. You do not actually heal in the arms of someone; you heal when you let yourself. It all depends on allowing yourself to go through the process of healing. Because even though you say that you want to move on but your heart begs to mourn still, you really cannot do anything about it. Let yourself feel.
3. Even though you are on the process of moving on, there will be times that you would be thinking of the uncertainties of your former relationship. "Why didn't it work out? I gave my all", "What if we had done this instead of...". This is normal. It can be hard to admit to yourself but thinking about the could have been's does not equate wanting the person back. Let go slowly. Every day is a choice, you can wake up feeling afraid of the future without the person you loved the most. Choose yourself even moving forward is hard without the love you used to have before. We don't always end up with the love we want and it's okay. Trust the process and let the timing win.
4. It is not linear. Moving on is not linear! Not because when you decide to move on, you will magically do so within a night's sleep or a week. There will be times that you will cry your eyes out because you miss the person. And it's alright. What you had is irreplaceable no matter how it ended up. It is alright to mourn. But it is never right to come running back to the person who caused you pain.
5. You will hate yourself in the process. You might even start to hate the way you loved that person. But always remember that you should never regret something that made you really happy once.
Moving on is not like driving enthusiastically forward as if it’s about having one foot on the gas and the other on the brakes–releasing and advancing in turn. Healing is never a race, take your own time and I promise once you get there, you will like you're as good as new.
