Asexuality rant incoming: TW DISCUSSIONS SEX
I’ve been out as ace to this one guy I know for a while now, and the other night he decided ask me to play truth or dare over discord. This is super out of character for him.
I say truth first, he asks if I had any crushes in high school. I tell the truth, it isn’t that important for this rant.
My second turn I say dare and he dares me to strip and go outside my house and take a picture of my clothes as proof. I say “I’m not doing that bc there’s a thunderstorm (this was true) and I live on the main road.
My third turn I say truth and he asks how spicy he’s allowed to be, I tell him “remember that I am ace” and he THEN PROCEEDS TO ASK ME how many sex toys I own. Not IF I own any at all, but assuming I do and asks how many. I am stunned, bc this is 1) super personal and 2) super sexual for no reason. In hindsight, I should’ve known agreeing to play truth or dare for shits n giggles that it would turn sexual even if I’m loudly out as ace. I say “bruh wtf I just reminded you I’m ace” and he responds “what’s the big deal, I have ace friends with toys.”
The conversations recovers from that weird boundary crossing thing but I don’t know how to act around him now. He’s been my good friend for years, both in person and while we’ve been going to different universities. But those questions make me think that he’s been thinking about me that way for I don’t know how long. Long enough to ask me those questions. I have this feeling of my skin being see through, of him watching me, it just feels violating. Even though it was just some (albeit weird) questions. I thought that because he was bi/aro, I could genuinely be friends with him. I just don’t know what to do.
This isn’t me asking for advice or anything, just a place to put my thoughts.