#advice columns

[questionableadvice]

~ Beaver County Times (PA.), Thursday, June 14, 1962

Run. Run away

[stormy-melancholy]

so i recently rewatched Love, Simon and I’m reading Dear Wendy and I’m a resident Alec clown and I had a thought.

A human au where the tmi gang is in college together and Alec runs a anonymous queer advice column and Magnus runs a faceless fashion blog.

Alec anonymously asks for fashion advice because he gets a date. Magnus anonymously asks for advice about navigating a homophobic stepdad. They fall in love anonymously through DMs and messages only to realize they’ve been friends the whole time 😭😩

Ft. Annoyed aromantic Jace Herondale

[littlepawz]

Umm...I shouldn’t laugh, but...

[godsheadincidental]

Em has a run-in with the “God” of “Memory.” Plus, how to deal with vision board theft.

The Godshead Incidental is created by Cara Ehlenfeldt and Amy Giacomucci and produced by Cara Ehlenfeldt. Our Sound Designer and Recording Engineer is Philipp Gaissert. Our Production Manager is Abby Norling-Ruggles. Our Social Media/Publicity Manager is Hannah Ehlenfeldt.

Our theme music is composed by Irene Zhong and mixed and mastered by Madhav Ghei. Our credits music is “Everything You Do” by Irene Zhong. Our cover art is by Maddie Rode Design. This episode also features the song “December” by George Edlund.

Transcripts are available at: https://godsheadincidental.com/transcripts/

Content warnings under the cut!

Breaking and entering/theft

Memory loss

Harassment

Mild comic violence

Disassociation

[rubyvroom]

Dear Miss Advice,

As a result of raising our children without community support, working 60 hours a week and constantly enduring the stress of life within a crumbling empire my partner is too exhausted all the time to have sex with me as often as I’d like. I want to open up the relationship and create further stress for myself by searching for opportunities in my own limited time to pursue other partners while maintaining my own primary relationship and worrying about how to pay the bills and cover our mounting debt, but my partner thinks this is a bad idea. Should I just cheat on them or should I overthrow the oppressive economic system that makes our lives a constant misery? Help!

[cardassiangoodreads]

Man, this Captain Awkward letter from a few months ago is like, exhibit A in why I don’t trust people who make a big deal of self-identifying as “mom friends.” Sure I’ve known some people who are genuinely caring who got that nickname from others, and some of those people I count among my closest and most trusted friends... but people who decide that all on their own, make a point of telling people about it, etc. are really just meddlers AT BEST, sometimes outright emotionally-abusive like this LW’s “friend.”

I would be surprised in fact if there isn’t a lot of overlap between these people and self-described “empaths.” And it’s also a nice reminder as someone who worries about being too far on the opposite end of the spectrum that 1) hey, at least I’m self-aware about this and can work on it, unlike these messy delusional fucks, and 2) in 99% of situations, “staying tf out until your friend outright tells you what they want” is infinitely better than “barging in to ‘help’ when you don’t know what to do and/or the help is unwanted.” Like the ways you can screw up and the potential fallout is just so much smaller when you stand back and mind your business.

[hellyeahscarleteen]

Public conversations about sex are necessary to normalize healthy attitudes toward and communication about sex.

Yes to all this! And if you're looking for (if we do say so ourselves) a pretty amazing archive of 20+ years of #QueerSexEdForAll columns at Scarleteen -- the content that started our whole org and site! -- you can find that treasure trove here: https://scarleteen.com/article/advice

[palominocorn]

What the actual fuck?

For the record, my parents are still together, and I have one of the most cynical views on marriage possible.