💋are any of your headmates dating?
Yeah!! I’m (Jamie) dating two lovely people (Ren and Alex)! Both of them are in systems actually and are hosts :0 So it’s actually a triangle with a stick at the end because one of our members, Matthew, is dating Alex too!
Severous, the gay giant werewolf , is actually dating someone from Alex’s system!
Then Joseph and Louise are dating :0 I feel like their dynamic is actually a trope because Louise is like “encourages the chaos” and Joseph is like “Will stay away from the chaos as much as possible and just wants peace” skjdksjcksc, they’re so wholesome even if Louise is so loud dkjdkfj
Jaiden is dating someone also! So is Alven! their partners are also from Alex’s system :0!!
Jaiden is so cheesy and stuff because he writes mini poems for his girlfriend and it’s cute but kris finds it gross khdksckdjd
💥how much in-system fighting is there?
Actually there’s a few ;; We don’t fight often- like, everyday 24/7 but it’s not like we’re totally at peace either ;;
Me and Chara I think fight the most- but we don’t hate each other at all!! when we tend to raise our voice at each other we tend to be emotionally charged? We don’t mean it;; For me, I usually get annoyed sometimes by the others- and while i am working on it, it’s hard not get annoyed sometimes– being in a system is really being roommates with so many people ;;
I used to argue with Matt a lot, again usually because we’re emotionally charged- and we sometimes blamed each other for stuff ;; Nowadays I would be raising voices with Chara or Kris, but we both try not to- and I notice i do that and i try to make up for it!! Everyone works so hard and when i know what i’m angry about is fixable then i apologize after because i didn’t have to be angry about it
other than that, sometimes you would hear chara and kris arguing in the background, and in other times, Chara gets mad at someone- like if they’re too emotional, or doing something wrong or not properly, they’ll scold them and chara sometimes has somewhat above average standards, but they don’t mean to be angry so easily and they do realize that!! so they try to walk away or in the middle of it, try to stop be angry and try to understand the other person if possible, but they tend to like being angry than feel sad or anything else ;;
Jaiden and Alven used to argue A LOT,,, like they HATED EACH OTHER SO MUCH,,,, they’re best friends now but there was such a big rivalry between them at first
🤝are you out as a system to anyone?
Im out as a system online in this blog and ogeeitsme! We’re also part of some discord servers where we’re open about being a system! The only online spaces we haven’t been open about it on are may main social media’s that have @/ebonytails in the name.
In real life, my family knows but they’re,,, not nice about it, mum isn’t nice about it
i’m out to my therapist!! and my guidance counselor in school!! A few friends at school know too! I actually have 1 IRL system friend but i haven’t seen her in a while because we’re so busy ;;
😶any headmate that rarely front?
Yep! We actually have non-fronting headmates!!!
Alven, Penny, Louise, Joseph, Severous
Fronters (from Fronts to most to Fronts the Least) (as of May 22 2019)
Kris (may or may not be co-host but he doesn't want to be ksdksd im sorry kris but it's possible that you're in there)
That’s it so far!! I would honestly group Jade, Liam, and Icari together because they barely front at ALL, to the point where we have no idea what their fronting triggers are too much, especially Liam and Icari
🕸what's your oldest memory of being a system?
Honestly my oldest memory if of when i met my first headmate, Jaiden- which is when I thought the system FIRST came to exist (jade corrected me and told me she was here since 2014,,,, i don't try to think about that lol)
I had a headmate before Jaiden but i didn't realize she was actually a headmate and i thought she was just a very complex oc i had made
For the Jaiden one, I was having a conversation with this, gross guy, Him, and he was scolding me and getting mad at me. It was probably 12 am or something and he was getting mad over chat
I was crying so much I walked out to the backyard of our house in the Province (country side of our country i guess kjksdkskj) to just cry and be alone in the fake, in the middle of the night, under the stars
I was just hugging myself and sobbing my eyes out and I hear a voice and it was weird but then Jaiden, who could front at the time (before he lost the power to front and got it back again) confronted and we talked using the body’s mouth??? i guess because i couldn't hear him properly. I don't remember this anymore because this was like in 2016 but he said something like “Are you okay?” and he would ask me questions and introduce himself “my name is Jaiden, maybe I can help?” i don't remember the rest of that conversation, but it made me feel less alone and ever since that night, he's been taking care of me ever since-- but yeah it was him an di confronting and talking to each other outloud. i was self conscious about using the body to talk to each other outloud since it's not a common way to communicate- but i've heard (literally) and seen other systems do it so i feel less alone in that regard too!
then when we started getting more and more kids Jaiden moved back and stayed inside to help them, and he would be too busy taking care of them to front- and when he does, he comes back to them always ;; he wants to take care of them, especially after some bad stuff,,,, i'm not sure if he blames himself for that, he probably does and that's why he's always with the kids 24/7 now
also people would ask if he has a past life! He doesn't;; he tries to remember if he had any, but his first memory is literally coming into the the system and existing- “I didn't exist and suddenly i did” Basically, and visually, it's just blackness because there's nothing to remember
