#alyssareading

[incrementsofinkstains]

I’m gonna marathon Harry Potter because that would make me incredibly happy right now.

I need happy things.

Thank you to my #adultbooklr loves for putting up with me the last few days. You guys are fucking incredible. I love spending time with you guys.

I just need a few days to find a better version of myself.

Don’t worry, I’ll lurk when possible.

Love you all.

[bookishbird]

Zinnia :)

Zinnia: Who was your best friend when you were six years old?

This is kinda late, oops.  My best friend was a girl named Katie.  I was very shy back then(and I still am), so she was pretty much my only friend.  We lost touch for a few years because she moved away, but we’ve been talking again because she moved back and is in one of my classes :)  

[drunken-shakespeare]

Hello! This is kind of random, but I'm writing a paper on how social media interacts with Twelfth Night, and I want to include your "Twelfth Night Google Searches" post. Would that be okay? If it matters, more than likely the only people to see it will be myself and my professor. I'd really appreciate it!

Sure you can use them! Just remember to cite your sources! :P-S

[heartlessharless]

We should be friends. You seem like my type of person. Haha One follow up question if you don't mind: Do you feel like you view the world/approach life (just everyday life, work, hanging out, etc) differently than non-aromantic people? Because so many interactions for allosexual/non-aromantic people are based on "will this person be my next romantic and/or sexual partner" and at times that can overshadow other pursuits. If that makes sense?

Oh yeah, definitely. I sat here for 20 minutes trying to think of a non-offensive way to say, “You people are ridiculous,” before giving up. You people are ridiculous. You know how reasons my kid is crying is hilarious because they’re overreacting to things that don’t even matter? That’s how I feel when people get upset over romantic stuff. AND I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT AN ASSHOLE THAT MAKES ME. I get that romance is super important to some people. But I’ve just got some kind of empathy block or something because it’s so irrelevant and uninteresting to me. Like, I respect how much it means to some people, but it’s the same way I respect how much football means to some people. I’m glad you enjoy the thing and hope it goes well for you, but for the love of all that’s holy please don’t talk to me about it because I’m incapable of caring beyond that.

So that’s a thing. People want to bond by talking about these “universal experiences” but they’re not universal and when you’re not allowed to laugh, they’re actually super boring. It’s as difficult to talk to people who are obsessed with romance as it is to talk to anyone with an obsession you don’t share. Also, for some reason, I seem to give off an agony aunt vibe and people want to ask me for relationship advice when they’re having problems. My advice is always, “Kill your significant other and sell their organs on the black market.” They think I’m kidding. At first. Then it gets awkward.

I think the biggest thing, though, is that I’m freed of the burden of having to give a shit about so many things. Non-aromantic people seem to have so much anxiety about romance. And as a woman, I’m always peripherally aware of, “Men don’t like this behavior or that style choice,” and, “If you’re not obsessive about your food intake, you’re going to die alone,” and all that stressful shit. “Nobody’s ever going to want to marry you if-” Awesome. Don’t marry me ever. Not marrying you is my goal in life. And pass the cake, because I don’t care if you’re attracted to me either. And if your joke’s not funny, I’m not going to laugh at it. And if you don’t like my opinion on something, who cares? I’m not trying to win you over. (I realize this isn’t exclusive to or universal among aromantic people, but not giving a shit is tied to aromanticism for me. I don’t have to make anyone like me more than everyone else on Earth to the point that they’re willing to sign a legal document attesting to that fact. Friendship is way more chill and you’ve got replacements to fill the void when you have to get rid of a lousy friend.)

[heartlessharless]

Hey! Thanks for responding to my post!! If you don't mind, could you tell me a little bit about when/how you came to realize you were and begin identifying as aromantic? Also, what kind of responses you've gotten from friends/family/etc about it? Thanks!!

Two questions I can be super unhelpful about! Excellent. ;)

I remember, as a child, having some sort of vague idea that I’d end up married one day. Like, in the sense that I guess I thought it was required and inevitable. I’m not sure when that went away but I know that by high school I was absolutely certain I was never going to be involved in any of that nonsense. And it’s never been a big deal. I’m just the sort of person who’s always been very sure of who I am and what I want, so I don’t stress about what anyone else thinks I should want. The only confusion came from not knowing the word “aromantic” and not understanding the concept that sexual orientation and romantic orientation weren’t necessarily the same thing. Because of that, I spent a few years going back and forth over whether I was bisexual or asexual. Once I was introduced to aromanticism a couple years ago, that settled things immediately.

I haven’t used the word “aromantic” with anyone I know in real life because that would involve having an intimate personal conversation about my feelings and I like to avoid that at all costs. I am (and always have been) very reserved and emotionally distant. Everyone in my life does know that there’s no chance of me ever dating or getting married or having children, though. It’s a non-issue across the board. I don’t even remember the last time I discussed it. (Before I learned the word “aromantic” I guess, which is another reason I’ve never needed to have that talk.) I’m very lucky in that regard. I’ve been blessed with the kind of demeanor that says, “When I’m finished talking, the conversation is over,” so I don’t have to deal with meddling.

[sleepy-bookworm]

Hi!!

Hi!! How are you? 

Our Song is It’s a Longer Road to California Thank I Thought by The Wind and The Wave

send me ‘hi’ and i’lll put my playlist on shuffle and send you our song

(Im going to go to bed now, so if I get anymore; they’re still welcome, I’ll just replying tomorrow sometime. :))

thanks!!

[sleepy-bookworm]

12, 18 :)

12. ideas of a perfect date

person and i would meet up somewhere, probably go to an italian restaurant to eat a meal and then maybe we would walk/hang around gas town and explore stores there.. we could also maybe drive to Stanely Park and walk around the sea wall. and just hang out. be ourselves. 

18. phobia

even though I’ve never witness one in the wild: alligators and crocodiles. i mean, I’ve seen one of those (which ever one is smaller) in the Vancouver Aquarium but they’re just freaky. id rather walk beside elk. which I’ve done btw. my heart was racing so much.

thanks for the questions!

[danniebooking]

I've started a GoodReads page!

Or, rather, I've actually begun using one I started a couple of years ago.

If you're curious at all about the books I've read, or am reading, or want to read, feel free to check it out and add me as a friend! (Are they friends on GoodReads? or followers?)

Anywho, my username is alyssareading. Just like on tumblr. I've tried to link the username to the page, but I honestly have no idea if it worked. Heh heh. How do you computer?

I'll be updating it a lot over the next few days probably with all the books I've read, but I have no idea how long this will take me.

That's all. Have a wonderful day.