#anegosexual

[queertothepoint]

Identity of the Day

Aegosexual

Type: Sexuality

Definition: Aegosexual, also called Anegosexual, is a label with multiple meanings. This label may be used by those who like sex as a concept and enjoy content about it but experience no sexual attraction or desire to be one of the parties involved, those who enjoy sexual relationships as an idea but have to desire to be in one, those who feel sexual attraction only in scenarios where they are not involved, those who feel fully disconnected from the object of their attraction, or those who only want to be involved in sexual scenarios in their fantasies. It is a part of the Asexual umbrella. Those who are Aegosexual may fall under other Asexual identities such as Demisexual or Greysexual, but not all will. Not all who are Aegosexual are Aegoromantic.

Flag(s):

This is the Aegosexual flag made by hunterinabrowncoat in July 2014. The meaning of this flag has changed from its original. The current meaning of the flag is the triangle being used to represent an inversion of asexuality, where Aegosexuals are more likely to be seen as allosexual by others and even by themselves due to the experience of a directed arousal and interest in sexual content or fantasies. The color meanings represent the same as the original Asexual flag, with the black representing complete asexuality, the grey representing greysexuality, the white representing allosexual partners, and the purple representing the asexual community as a whole.

This is an alternate Aegosexual flag, made before or during August 2020 by an anonymous user who is Aegosexual. The colors, in order, represent:

Community

The Asexual spectrum

A disconnect between ones self and ones attraction

Asexuality

The flag than repeats the first, second, and third stripe in reverse.

This is another alternate Aegosexual flag, made in August 2020 by xeno-aligned. It keeps the original flags design but with the colors of the alternate flag.

[prettiest-pride-flag]

Round 1, Match 90 — Aegosexual vs. Apeirongender

Which pride flag do you prefer?

Aegosexual

Apeirongender

Voting ended onMay 14

AEGOSEXUAL Definition: Aegosexual or anegosexual, also known as autochorissexual, is a microlabel on the asexual spectrum that describes individuals who experience a disconnect between themselves and the subject of arousal. Aegosexuals may experience sexual fantasies, enjoy porn and other sexual content, or masturbate, but they generally feel little to no sexual attraction and typically do not desire to involve themselves in sex with another individual. Some common aegosexual experiences include: 1) Enjoying sexual content, masturbating, or fantasizing about sex, but being indifferent towards or repulsed by the idea of being in a real-life sexual relationship. 2) Fantasizing about sex, but: 2a) the aegosexual individual is not involved. They may only be a disembodied observer viewing it from a third-individual perspective rather than from the first-individual. 2b) envisioning only other individuals, such as celebrities, fictional characters, or even friends. 2c) it involves generic, faceless individuals, not specific individuals. 2d) it is seen through the perspective of another individual rather than as one's actual self. 2e) only imagining oneself, and no other individuals. 2f) it is idealized and unrealistic. Adding realistic elements to the fantasy makes the idea of sex less appealing or even repulsive. 3) Perceiving someone as "hot" or recognizing someone as sexually attractive, yet not seeing the appeal of having sex with the individual in real life. The aegosexual individual may instead prefer to fantasize about them or admire them (mirous attraction). 4) Enjoying erotic content but getting turned on by the situation or relationship dynamics in story lines rather than by one's attraction to the individuals. 5) Experiencing sexual attraction only when imagining to be someone else and seeing the target of said attraction through the eyes of that individual or character (vicarious attraction). Aegosexual individuals may exist anywhere on the asexual spectrum. It is for example possible for someone to be demisexual and aegosexual at the same time, meaning that they are aegosexual until they have formed an emotional bond with someone, at which point they might start experiencing sexual attraction to that individual in real life. Most aegosexuals are however considered to be black stripe asexuals as they do not experience any sexual attraction at all. This is possible since aegosexuality has to do with a pattern of arousal and not actual sexual attraction. Flag creator: @hunterinabrowncoat (2014) Colour meanings: The triangle = a "reverse" or "inversion" of asexuality, as aegosexuals are likely to be initially perceived as sexual individuals, both by others and, maybe mostly, by themselves, because of their experience of directed arousal and interest in sexual fantasies and/or content. The color associations remain the same as with the asexual flag, with an extra meaning added to the grey stripe = arousal as an “in-between”.

APEIRONGENDER Definition: Apeirongender or apeironic refers to someone whose gender is both agender and pangender, otherwise feeling like everything and nothing, or every gender and genderless, at the same time. Apeirongender individuals are usually apathetic to their gender but still acknowledge they have a gender, although complex. Flag creator: Atwistedpotato (2020) Colour meanings: The light green of the flag = feeling genderless or agender, pale yellow = the connection to being non-binary or the gender non-conformity one feels, light blue = the connection to masculinity, light purple = feelings of gender apathy, and soft pink = the connection to femininity.

[sagetsukimura]

Finally found the word! Got the CLICK, you know what I mean? The overly specific term that finally sounds specific enough for your own experience

I've identified as some form of gray sexual for a while, but none of the variants seemed to be quite right?

I'll probably continue to use ace in general, but still, knowing there's a term like aegosexual that's so much more specific makes me feel happy! Less like I need permission to identify under the ace umbrella, you know?

[saltyfryz]

Gay 8 of pridecons 😎

[ace-aro-queerplatonic-positivity]

[Image-Description: uncredited screenshot of a tumblr post. The tags #asexual, #asexuality, #ace, and #asexual pride at the bottom are in the colors of the asexual pride flag. The post is titled: Asexuals are not inherently prudes

Holy mother of Jesus. Just because we happen to see some sexually erotic images/video/whatever, doesn’t mean we shriek away in horror inherently, just because we are asexual.

Ex boyfriends have accused me of “being a prude” because I felt literally zero sexual excitement because I happened to see erotic imagery. Nah, I’m fine with sex stuff, it just doesn’t “do” anything for me down there like it does for them. /End Image-Description.]

Please let me know the URL of the OP if you know it, I will link them accordingly

And even there, YMMV (your mileage my vary), because in erotic media it’s often the act/acts depicted/describe that are the “turn-on” factor

Which can also apply to asexual people

Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction towards people of any gender, asexuals may or may not still get aroused by erotic media/acts, and arousal/libido does have no connection whatsoever with sexual attraction

Libido is “now would be nice”

And sexual attraction is “that one!”, focused on being attracted to people specifically

Of course, there are also no-libido aces, there are people who identify as asexual due to experiencing no libido whatsoever

But there are also enough asexuales who enjoy erotic media and actually prefer that over being with a partner

Aside from the fact that anyone of any sexual orientation may or may not be sex-averse, sex-indifferent, or sex-favorable

Which does not say anything about how they view sex as a social topic but only their personal stance in regards to themselves whether they are willing to engage in sexual acts

Their views on sex as a social topic would be the distinction between being sex-positive, sex-neutral, or sex-negative - any one person from any orientation could be sex-positive in the social regard while sex-averse in reference to their own person (which, for example, the mod of this blog is.)

[trans-aegorose-culture-is]

🌸Bienvenue tout le monde! 🌸

This blog is for trans* and non-binary and genderqueer and cisn’t people who are aegoromantic (aego-aro) and/or aegosexual (aego-ace)

This blog is also for trans, enby, genderqueer self-shippers!

(I just genuinely didn’t know how to put that short and to the point with in the URL)

Rules:

Please begin asks/submissions with something along the pattern of “trans aegoromantic culture is” “cisn’t aegosexual demiromantic culture is” “genderqueer sex-repulsed aegosexual culture is” “non-binary asexual self-shipper culture is” “trans fem aegoromantic self-shipper culture is” “trans masc sex-repulsed aegosexual culture is”

NSFW asks will be approved on a case-by-case principle but are allowed

Kink asks (be they sexual or not) will be approved on a case-by-case principle but are allowed

Referring to your sex-/romance-repulsion is allowed and welcomed

If you reference anatomy or genitalia, please put a quick “TW” at the top of your submission/ask

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This is a space open and welcoming to: anyone aro-spec, anyone ace-spec, anyone aego-rose, non-dysphoric trans people, trans people who choose not to transition, aro/ace/trans/enby self-shippers, aro/ace/trans/enby pro-shippers, etc.

Anti-shippers may stay if they play nice and don’t start getting offensive. Shipping in itself is harmless.

Another shipping positive aro/ace/qpr blog. Ksier post actually includes several further links explaining how/why shipping is in itself harmless and why AO3 is not only Beloved™️ but also sorely needed, a safe haven for creatives.

Also: if you are a TERF, TIRF, truscum, transphobe, transandrophobe, transmisogynist, enbyphobe, exorsexist, radfem… If you think trans masculine people hold any power or privilege over trans feminine people by virtue of being trans masculine. Or otherwise believe trans masculine people aren’t oppressed.

If you think trans people in general are only valid if they seek medical transition.

Then this blog isn’t for you, even if you are an aroace trans person yourself. You can fuck right off! Be a nice piece of trash and show yourself out!

About me…?

I’m older than 21.

I am a pro-shipper.

I am oriented aroace.

I am aegosexual.

I am a survivor of sexualised abuse. (a rape survivor)

As far as my gender goes… I am agender-genderqueer.

Aside from agender-genderqueer, I am mingender/miagender, masculenby, libramasculine, transneutral.

In case you want to address me: You may call me Azalea or Leonard (he/they)

[snowy-weather]

I think I finalIy figured it out. I am Asexual, more specifically I am aegosexual/anegosexual. 

For me, this means I am comfortable an okay with sexuality in a purely fictional setting. I can enjoy fictional sexual context like NSFW art and fanfiction. But I have no desire or interest in pursuing a sexual relationship in real life. 

[dan-the-dreamer]

me: Maybe I’m not really asexual :/

the community: Here’s an acespec identity that perfectly describes your current state that you hadn’t known about before.

me: :-D