Tips 101: ANGER MANAGEMENT
Everyone gets angry. With or without reason. And we all get out-of-control of it oftentimes. We all have our own ways of expressing it, letting it out and keeping it inside just to let it pass. Many of us express it in a way that anyone can notice but there are also people who hide it rather. It is whether you hit the innocent wall with your fist or shout covering your mouth with a pillow. According to a book that I have read, the latter is some kind of unpleasant way to let the anger go especially when you are imagining someone else' face in that pillow. It only makes it worst, the author says. I, myself too have my own way of doing so. I show it most of the time especially when I'm with a fight with my family members.. This is good in the sense that I let them know and see that I'm mad but what's bad on this is that I say silly things like unpleasant words in a dirty language. Or worst, I say offending words that are too personal. And of course it's FOUL, man. With this disadvantage, I see things better when I try to shut my mouth and lock myself in my room. And that one time I did this kind of 'LIFE-SAVING' technique, still I let my anger go without hurting anyone physically, not even vocally. How did I manage my anger? Simple. Here it is:
Go get a piece of paper or a bunch maybe (be ready to be shocked!) and break a sweat find a pen.- This will serve as a medium, a passageway of your anger as you let it go instead of staring the innocent wall or the pillow.
Sit gently. Inhale-Exhale.- This will make you feel comfortable. It helps you to calm yourself. Because sometimes we shake when we're mad. It is better to do this way because this is when you start controlling yourself not to harm yourself or anybody.
Feel like crying? Do it.- This will let you release your anger in a peaceful way and this is the 'peaceful way' that I am talking about. It will let your emotions go.
Start writing. Anything. -Write the words that you wanted to say to that someone who made you angry. Or even the words that you might want to hear from someone you wanted to be right there beside you but isn't. Write anything, everything. Remember: THERE ARE NO LIMITS (As a general rule BUT even general rules have EXCEPTIONS so, except when you run out of ink on your pen or a paper crisis!)
When you're done, read it.- In this way, you'll measure how strong your anger is. And you might be shocked also with all the words that you might see on your paper. Be prepare to see some words that you can never imagine that you will say it.
Decide either you keep that paper or burn it. Keeping that paper will remind you that you got mad with this person once and this will make you laugh someday if you find some purpose why it happened (e.g. She lied to you and you found out that she did it for your own good.) And burning it will relieve you from this anger, it's a way of letting it go TOTALLY. One example of this is when you get mad with your Ex because she cheated on you.. you will burn the paper in order to forget the pain and just in case you decided to forget that person and keep him or her out of your life.
This is just another peaceful way of letting your madness go. It simply saves you from danger. Remember: LEARN TO CONTROL YOUR ANGER, IT IS ONE WORD AWAY FROM DANGER.
