#aro spec stuff

[bookcub]

i mean, all labels were made up words at one point, I mean, all words were, so I can totally make up a label for myself, right??? 

[pumpkinspicelexatte]

I realized that like 95% of my crushes are from bpd idealization which can feel like an emotional attachment or just liking the attention they give me, and the remaining 5% or so are people I get to know really well.

[exlibrisfangirl]

[exlibrisfangirl]

Soooo I have just been accused of being homophobic and "woman-hating" (by a trans-phobic, ace-phobic TERF, no less... oh, the irony) because I am only (sometimes) ROMANTICALLY attracted to women - not SEXUALLY attracted to them - and consider myself to be queer. (N.B. I am demi-bi-romantic, asexual, cisgender, female, and a feminist.)

Lol... WUT.

That being said, I have now discovered the toxic "ace discourse" community of Tumblr which apparently exists not for aces to talk about being ace, but, rather, for a certain camp of LGB(T) folks - many of whom are TERFs (and exclusionists in general) - to bully aces and talk about how horrible we are for having the audacity to want to belong to the LGBTQ+ community. Yikes. I'll add that to my list of Really Gross Things to Dislike About Tumblr. It appears to be mostly a Tumblr contingent, however, as I have never met an LGB person in real life who is ace-phobic and ace-exclusionist?

Good grief. Just when I thought this garbage can of a website couldn't get worse...

[bi-gray]

Just watched a queer movie and idk where I am romo-wise but sometimes boys are so cute? But also I panic when ppl flirt with me (and not in a good way), so maybe it's a nice-in-theory kind of idea. Or I just have a zillion boundaries and don't trust ppl. Or the aesthetic+platonic+sensual is just SO MUCH that I don't know what to make of it.

Anyway, yeah. Boys. Would like to cuddle maybe?

[mariaalenkoshepard]

Allo people really oversimplify everything like? I was supposed to have immediately figured out that two of my friends had started dating because? They had held hands and he had his arm around her in front of me? I had held her hand and had my arm around her earlier that day that doesn't MEAN anything! None of that is inherently romantic! And it didn't bother me at the time that everyone laughed and teased me a little cos haha yeah I'm always the last to notice these things, but I'm thinking about it now and it's a bit... othering... I know it was no ones intention but it just goes to show how allonormative the world we live in is

[ro-mayo]

me, consuming media of any form: where the FUCK are the aromantics