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I finally watched BBC's Sherlock and I AM SO MAD THEY KILLED MARY?!?!?!?

First of all, because she is an amazing character.

Secondly:

I am very much on the aroace Sherlock front and I absolutely loved how they made Mary as John's wife work.

She understood how important Sherlock and John are to each other and then she did not only respect that, but she also befriended Sherlock, turning them into a beautiful trio. She could have been jealous, she could have tried to separate them, but she respected their bond, their friendship.

They all cared so much for each other, I could cry. It was absolutely perfect and then they kill her? Unecessary, hurtful, made me so mad I could not finish the series for over a month.

I am just gonna pretend that death did not actually happen.

#bbc sherlock #sherlock spoilers #mary watson #qpr johnlock #platonic johnlock #i mean #this show and its portrayal of a deep meaningful friendship have my heart #the trio really was my absolute dream #what could be better than gaining a friend when your bff marries?#nothing #(or very few things at least)#aro sherlock #aroace sherlock

Sherlock Holmes: Aro-Spec, A-Spec, Gay Icon

What is Sherlock Holmes' orientation?

Asexual? Aromantic? Homosexual/romantic? Why not all three?

Something I've noticed during my time in this fandom is that people can't always agree on what Sherlock's sexual/romantic orientation is. Most people say that he's gay, some people say that he's ace. These two headcanons are rarely paired together.

I've seen people who think he's asexual be called homophobic because it feels like it's taking away from the gay representation they get from Johnlock. What they don't appear to realize is that asexual people can still have romantic or even sexual relationships. It also seems that people confuse being asexual with being aromantic a lot. Asexuality and aromanticism are not the same thing.

(There are lots of people who don't ship Johnlock, and either ship Sherl with someone else or with no one and that's valid! I personally am a Johnlock shipper)

Asexuality is defined as a lack of sexual attraction and Aromanticism is defined as a lack of romantic attraction. Both of these have a spectrum as well.

Asexual people can experience sexual attraction, only experience it sometimes, or not experience it at all. If you are anywhere on the asexual spectrum, it simply means that you don't experience an urge to have sex with someone in some or all cases.

You might enjoy sex. You might be repulsed by it. You might be completely indifferent towards it. You might even have urges every now and then. That is still valid. On one end of the spectrum, you don't experience any sexual attraction, on the other, you do experience sexual attraction, and all throughout the middle are varying levels of attraction/urges or lack thereof. There are more identities out there under the ace umbrella. There's demisexual which means that you only experience sexual attraction towards people you've developed an emotional connection with first. Greysexual means that you rarely experience sexual attraction, but it does happen sometimes. Lithosexual means you experience sexual attraction, but don't want it reciprocated. There are many more, you can do your research if you want to know all of them. I don't want to make this post too long, as I fear I may already have done.

The same thing goes for the aromantic spectrum.

Being aromantic means that you don't experience romantic attraction. Depending on where you are on the spectrum, you may experience romantic attraction sometimes, or not at all. Some aromantic people love the idea of romance, romantic gestures, have no problem holding hands, kissing, etc. You can participate in romantic relationships, you can get married, and it will never mean you're less aromantic. All being aromantic means is that you don't feel romantic attraction. It being a spectrum means that on one end, you do experience romantic attraction and on the other end you don't. All in the middle, you experience varying levels of romantic attraction. The labels are basically the same as the ace labels and mean basically the same thing.

(Edit: I've just noticed that I forgot to mention queer platonic relationships. So here we go)

Aromantic people may experience feelings for friends that go beyond friendship, but aren't in anyway romantic or sexual. They may choose to form relationships with others that are more than friendship but not quite romantic. These are called Queer Platonic Relationships or QPRs. They are just as valid as romantic relationships and are not just friendships. People in QPRs love their partner just as deeply, if not more so than people in romantic relationships.

When someone is asexual, but not aromantic, you put a label for their romantic attraction. For example: Biromantic asexual, heteromantic asexual, homoromantic asexual, panromantic asexual, etc.

So basically, you can experience limited or no sexual/romantic attraction and still have relationships. You can be aroace and gay. So therefore my headcanon is that Sherlock is grey-homoromantic asexual.

It took me a little bit of deciding between demiromantic and greyromantic. But they both sound just as cliche as the other. In both cases, John is the one and only person that Sherlock ever falls in love with. If he's demi, it's because he's never gotten this emotionally close to someone before and that's why John is his only love. But I wanted to see Sherlock struggle with his new, unfamiliar romantic feelings from the beginning. From that very first day that John walked into the lab at Bart's.

Sherlock doesn't even know what the weird emotions he's feeling are. They are subtle at first, because love at first sight is even more cliche. He doesn't really start to feel them as anything too distracting or difficult until the pool incident. Almost losing John, caused other unfamiliar feelings that Sherlock didn't want to deal with, along with the telltale signs of romantic love. But Sherlock chooses to ignore it for as long as possible, denying the fact that he could be in love with anyone. Let alone his very straight, not gay in the slightest, bi in denial roommate. It's too much of a risk with anyone. Platonic relationships are already a risk, but he's seen the strange things that romantic love can do to people. He doesn't allow himself to feel most emotions anyway, why would he allow himself to feel romantic love?

Once he allows himself to realize that the emotion he's feeling is romantic love, he struggles with his identity. He knows that he's aromantic, so how is it possible that he's feeling this way? Eventually he will come to discover greyromanticism and realize that he's not crazy, and he's not suddenly alloromantic. He is experiencing rare romantic feelings for John, which he's never experienced before and will likely never experience again.

He's still aromantic. He's not "fixed". Sherlock is valid in being aromantic and feeling romantic attraction.

Then add in some asexual tension once they finally get together and we should be good to go!

Thank you for reading. Hopefully that wasn't too long for you.

sherlock holmes is so aroace and he is in a qpr with john watson fight me. he isn't even aroace coded it's literally canon what the fuck

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back to Johnlock again, this time with more aroace propaganda.

as a shipper, it’s so fucking hard loving ships AND being aroace (in ANY fandom) bc you have to decide- aroace or ship? Aroace or ship?

and ofc, you CAN be aroace AND have ANY sort of relationship, duh, I’m not denying that- it’s just MOST fanfic writers (especially for headcanon-aroace characters when they’re not canonically anywhere on that spectrum) make you choose one or the other.

Like Johnlock. Sherlock Holmes is a verrryyy aroace-able character. I fucking love aroace Sherlock. But in a ship as.. let’s go with impassioned (other Johnlock shippers scare me, I’m sorry, it’s true), if you make Sherlock anything other than a gay man only obsessed with his Jawn, they’ll kill you. Fortunately AO3 is a big enough space that other ppl who can see the aroace-ness of S.H. have made some beautiful fics with both.

…I just gotta find them again.

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john hamish watson just gave the most incapable of handling social interactions and aroace person he knows the task to have the best man speach at his wedding

/hj

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