#aromantic questioning

[ajolteonnamedsparky]

Grahhh, it sucks to be questioning both my gender and my sexuality again despite once being so sure in both of them </3

I swear each year I get thrown a different curve wall when it comes to this: 2023, realizing definitely for sure you're s lesbian, 2024 realizing for sure you are asexual in some sort of non specific way, 2025 realizing genderfluid sounds pretty accurate. Now it's 2026 and it's like "yeah.. yeah okay I see what you've done. Now take all that and burn it because fuck you :)"

Like now I'm questioning if I'm aromantic because I barely actually find people attractive and I'm unsure if I've ever been "in love" with someone, or just in love with the idea of love??

I'm questioning if maybe I'm abrosexual somehow since sometimes I feel really against romance (like I am currently feeling), but then other times I'm like "I LOVE WOMEN!!!!" and like girls so extremely it's kinda weird and then other days it's like "honestly I could date a nonbinary person" and GRAH

am I polyamorus??? Im realizing I never understood the real point of marriage since if you say you're committed then why do you need a ceremony for that? And its not like I'm against the idea of having multiple partners or my partner having another partner or maybe having a partner (romantically) and then a partner (queer platonic) or something like that! Idk, it feels weird for me to be like "oh yeah IDC about monogamy actually!" When my main IRL friends seem to care so much for it it's weird

And don't even get me STARTED on my gender, I have no fucking clue what's going on with it other than it's only sometimes felt right and no idk what that means either

Idk this is just a huge thing of me getting out all my thoughts because I truly don't know anymore TwT if anyone has any tips... Or advice... Or literally anything idk feel free to comment/reblog lol. O hey if you're in the same boat as me, at least we can suffer and be confused together lol 🤝

[valdin-s]

hey question does anyone else kinda feel like gender fluid but with their sexual and romantic attraction levels?

best way I can describe it is that some days I'm super like attracted and shit like I really want a relationship and want to be with someone but other days I just have zero feelings of attraction whatsoever ?

idk if anyone else feels this way lemme know I'm trying to better understand my inner psyche and all that jazz

[ashroontoon]

AW FUCK

I think I feel romantic attraction but am repulsed by being in a relationship

I DON'T EVEN KNOW THOUGH-

Or maybe it's fluid? Or I'm Bi oriented aromantic???

Smthing?

CONFUSION

[apoptosisnecrosis]

ive known i was asexual and nonbinary for a while time now like 7 years or something. i shifted around in those spectrums a bit in college but broadly speaking ace and nonbinary.

and suddenly I'm being thrown into a mental tailspin questioning if I'm aromantic as well???? ive always thought i was panromantic but my relationship with romantic feelings has always been... interesting.

im trying so hard to discern the difference mentally for me between platonic and romantic interest for me and im really drawing a blank. have i actually just never had romantic interest to begin with?

ive only had one 'real' relationship as far as my dating experience goes so i dont have a ton to draw on there. obviously i wasn't interested in a sexual aspect to our relationship what beyond that proves aromanticism?

i liked having a close committed partnership with someone but was there anything we had that wouldnt also be found in a friendship or qpr? i know i tend towards touch starved and i enjoyed some of the physical aspects of a relationship such as cuddling, hand holding sometimes. (I am also autistic so sensory issues also sometimes made physical contact less enjoyable). also not a fan of being referred to as attractive/ hot etc but that may be more an ace/ body dysmorphic thing??

i did discover that i am not a fan of kissing beyond a peck on the lips but i chalked that up to sensory issues at the time. and interestingly (maybe) my then partner broke up with me because they didn't really feel love between us. i was upset about it but were they even wrong?

idk if theres a piece I'm missing?? or if its like super obvious to an outside view? if u have any input feel free to drop ur two cents

[aro-absol]

Yet another old meme that is still terribly accurate. Its just so hard to stop looking for proof even when you know that proof doesn't really exist.

[ID in ALT]

[geogemstone]

I've been questioning if I'm aromantic for months but I'm worried that if I start identifying as aro and then later find out I was wrong, that I'll then be contributing to the idea that aros just haven't found the right person yet

[blowjob-horseguy]

Am I aromantic??? Or am I just bad with social constructs (like 'dating')???

A Novel by Me

[getawaygreenbean]

Oh my God what if I'm recipromantic and that's why I fell for Gwen and Miah?