#aspec questioning

[astralcuite]

I think I might be aspec

[our-loveless-experiences]

loveless folks of tumblr

may i ask for resources/guides on lovelessness you'd all like to share ? i'd like to see what people would recommend while i go look for some myself also. would prefer more stuff targeted as more educational/informational/for those who are questioning. thanks :D

We do have our loveless wiki the link is in the comments of this post!

It's pretty basic and doesn't have a whole lot of microlabels yet (but we'd really appreciate suggestions for new ones to add!)

If anyone else knows of any resources please link them here!!!

(If you don't find yourself aligning with any of the microlabels on the wiki, we'd suggest looking at ace and aro microlabels then seeing how they would do as a loveless microlabel for yourself. "Does this describe my experience?")

[ijustwannamakeemojis]

[ID: Six pixel hearts of various flags in order being two dandelion aspecs, amid, quoialterous, aspec questioning, and solum aro. End ID]

[aro-absol]

Yet another old meme that is still terribly accurate. Its just so hard to stop looking for proof even when you know that proof doesn't really exist.

[ID in ALT]

[acore-ballt]

Aspec Questioning

[aspecsnirvana]

My best friend told me she was intimate for the first time and I’m sad because:

1. I have this fear of her spending more time with her s/o than me and subsequently not wanting to spend time with me—and now they’re closer because of this.

2. I never felt that way about my (ex) bf and don’t know if I want to have any type of intimacy.

3. I don’t feel like I’ll ever have a close bond with someone like she does with her s/o and my strongest relationship will always be with her but can’t it be “complete”/“a real relationship”/“the same thing/wothwhile/valid” because of reasons 1 and 2.

Like I don’t see us as a QPR or anything but she is my rock and such an important relationship to me and to think it might not be as important to her is really upsetting. She’s never shown or said signs of it not being equally important but I don’t know if it’s the same for her lately now that she has a s/o

[aspecsnirvana]

*continues to cry over feeling like I’m losing my best friend to their s/o*

[aroace-thoughts]

i am having Questions and I do not like it

Sending hugs. You’ll be okay!