#asexual questioning

[gazazabad]

Don't get me wrong I like sex but as a fantasy soley where any live action adaptation just isnt as good

[lgbtranswoman]

I don't know what to call this but I need to vent about my sexuality and the idea of sexual attraction -May

Attraction, right?

I think certain acts of love, certain phrases, and general personalities can be sexy and attractive. I find people attractive for who they are and how they show it.

I do not understand sex appeal. I do not understand looking at someone and thinking "damn they're sexy". I do not understand "sex sells" or anything like that. Why would boobs get me to buy anything? Why would skinny muscular men get me to buy anything? I just do not understand.

Am I missing something? Am I overlooking something? I genuinely do not understand looking at someone and thinking sexual, sensual, or otherwise feelings akin to attraction unless it's my two partners who I'm attracted to because they are amazing people.

If I'm missing something please tell me, it's been frustrating me for YEARS

[valdin-s]

hey question does anyone else kinda feel like gender fluid but with their sexual and romantic attraction levels?

best way I can describe it is that some days I'm super like attracted and shit like I really want a relationship and want to be with someone but other days I just have zero feelings of attraction whatsoever ?

idk if anyone else feels this way lemme know I'm trying to better understand my inner psyche and all that jazz

[demisexual-culture-is]

I'm a questioning myself ! Can i ask you if a demi sexual person has he/him And she/ her pronouns ?

Can demisexuals be straight too ? like feel attraction with an emotional bond to the opp gender like a male if i'm a female ?

A demisexual person can have any pronouns. Your gender identity is different from your sexuality

Demisexuals can totally be straight! Your demisexuality is still valid

Feel free to ask any other questions! I hope this helped!

[mintlavanderpaprika]

I really have this internal confusion and struggle, because I identify as bisexual, but I don’t ever enjoy sex with any gender, but I dont think I’m asexual, because I enjoy the idea of sex and kissing, and I’d like to see my partner naked but at the same time I genuinely hate having sex with either gender. I like thinking about sex but when it comes down to the act of doing it, it’s gross. I genuinely hate having sex with people. But I feel sexual desire but when it comes to physically doing the act and like touching them… I hate everything about it. The feeling of touching someone below the belt, how naked skin to skin feels, I just don’t like it. Like the closest to enjoying any of it is kissing with no tongue. But that’s it. Idk what I would even be, like can I say I’m asexual?

[aroaceconfessions]

I'm pretty sure I am aro/ace but I still hesitate to call myself that. While I don't need sex, I do like to masteubate. And while I've never had a real crush on anyone, I do love the idea of romance and relationships. And how am I supposed to know whether or not I have no sexual or romantic attraction when I don't know how other people experience that? So, now I just feel like I am constantly faking it

[aroacequeeen]

Hey, I was wondering if you could give me advice. I’ve never been sexually or physically attracted to anyone regardless of gender. But when I watch tv shows and stuff I always gravitate towards wlw couples and sometimes they’re the only reason why I’ll watch a particular show. Is that weird? Do you think I could be a lesbian but am experiencing internalised homophobia?

Hey anon! Based on what you wrote to me, it honestly doesn't sound like you have internalized homophobia, unless you yourself feel as if that's an issue. What your experiencing could be some form of asexuality and aromanticism, which is not being sexually or romantically attracted to anyone.

Not being sexually or physically attracted to any gender, as you said, but still being interested in wlw relationships is very normal for a lot of asexual people, including myself! I for sure will watch certain shows based on wlw or mlm content since it makes me happy to feel represented! 💖✨

[aspecsnirvana]

My best friend told me she was intimate for the first time and I’m sad because:

1. I have this fear of her spending more time with her s/o than me and subsequently not wanting to spend time with me—and now they’re closer because of this.

2. I never felt that way about my (ex) bf and don’t know if I want to have any type of intimacy.

3. I don’t feel like I’ll ever have a close bond with someone like she does with her s/o and my strongest relationship will always be with her but can’t it be “complete”/“a real relationship”/“the same thing/wothwhile/valid” because of reasons 1 and 2.

Like I don’t see us as a QPR or anything but she is my rock and such an important relationship to me and to think it might not be as important to her is really upsetting. She’s never shown or said signs of it not being equally important but I don’t know if it’s the same for her lately now that she has a s/o