Can someone explain to me why people only understand the concept of “sexual attraction does not equal romantic attraction” in reference to asexuals? So many times, people have explained “just because asexuals don’t experience sexual attraction doesn’t automatically mean they don’t experience romantic attraction because they’re two different things” and (most) people understand it.
So why does that knowledge go out the window when talking about any other sexuality?
I’ve literally seen someone say in their bio that they think the bi-lesbian label is lesbophobic. Like, WHAT? All bi-lesbian means is that, between your sexual attraction and romantic attraction, one of them is bi and the other is lesbian. Basically, you’re either bisexual homoromantic or homosexual biromantic. Literally all it means. The person is still a lesbian in terms of one type of attraction, they’re just bi in terms of another. What is so hard to understand about that? Do y’all freak out when you learn that alloromantic asexuals and allosexual aromantics exist? Why is the idea of someone’s sexual attraction not matching their romantic attraction so hard to comprehend?
I don’t wanna say that this is one of those things that people only acknowledge in asexuals and aromantics to make them seem more similar to allosexuals and alloromantics, (Ex: “Asexuals can still have sex!” or “Aromantics can still date!” Both of these things are true, but the contexts in which they’re usually mentioned are a bit, for lack of better term, strange) but that’s what it feels like.