#aspec awareness

[thephotographerthatranks]

I'm waving the ace flag in case you didn't know

[aromantic-nerd]

ASAW Day 4. Please heed the content warning.

[lizziemack]

I keep seeing shit like ‘I head canon Dami as Ace, unless he’s with Jon.’ and ‘It makes me uncomfortable that you ship Duke with anyone because I head canon him as Ace’.

Stop it. Stop that shit right now. You don’t know what Ace means. Saying shit like this is harmful.

Aspec people can and do have romantic relationships

Aspec people can and do have sex.

Not all of us want to and that’s okay. But saying that X character can’t be in a romantic relationship because you say they’re ace? There’s so many things wrong with that.

[aromantic-nerd]

Hey alloaros, this is for you:

No matter what anyone says, you are an essential part of the aromantic and aspec communities.

You are not a bad person because today’s societal standards demonize sex without romance. There is NOTHING WRONG with experiencing sexual attraction but not romantic. It is real and your experiences deserve to be recognized.

So much activism that I see in the aspec community revolves around aroaces and occasionally, alloaces. This is a reminder to include alloaros in aspec acitivism!! THEY ARE SO VALID, and they deserve to feel seen!!!

[hamster4wheel]

A-Spec awareness week is almost over but I finally finished my contribution to it!

TW: Implied Self Harm, Parents having a bad relationship with each other (???)

I’m 3-years old

I just made my first friend in kindergarten

we both liked the big slide on the playground

and we found out that we both love knights and dragons

he was boy, I wasn’t

“You guys would be such a cute couple.”

I’m 5-years old

I started school a year earlier than I should

I was the youngest in my class and everybody was so proud

the first day is the most exciting thing that ever happened to me

I wanted to show everyone what I’ve already learned

“Are there any cute boys in your class?”

I’m 8-years old

we are finally old enough to go on our first big school trip

the goodbye from my parents isn’t easy but the excitement is bigger

I even got a room with all of my best friends

I had so many cool games we could try together

“Why don’t we sneak out to see the boys?”

I’m 10-years old

I have seen my parents scream at each other more times than I’ve seen them kiss

they live together but sometimes they go days without talking

whatever connected them years ago is long gone

maybe they stay together for me and my brother

maybe it’s because of their screwed sense of loyalty

“One day you will find someone who will love you as much as your dad loves your mom.”

I’m 11-years old

it’s my last year of primary school

everyone told me that they lost contact with their classmates after graduating

it made me anxious

making new friends is hard for me

and I couldn’t imagine a world without my best friend

“I’m sure they will miss their boyfriends so much.”

I’m 12-years old

my life collapsed like a card house in the wind

my arms hurt and my throat was to tight to speak

the sparkle in my eyes was long gone

and my parents wouldn’t even look at me

“You should get yourself a boyfriend to cheer you up.”

I’m 13-years old

there was a small light in between all the darkness

they lived hours away but became my reason to come back home every day

I don’t think they understood that they were the only people, that could make me laugh

sometimes we didn’t even notice the hours that went by

“You should talk to people in real life more or are you in love with them?”

I’m 14-years old

I finally knew why I felt different for all my life

after years of pain and confusion I finally knew who I am

some people resent me for it but I wasn’t alone anymore

it felt good to tell the whole world

“So do you get with girls now?”

I’m 15-years old

I’ve known my best friends for almost 4 years

if I would believe in soulmates she would be mine

our life’s are planned out together

it’s the first time I felt truly understood by someone

“Why don’t you guys kiss?”

I’m 16-years old

I ended every romantic relationship I’ve ever been in

I know it’s not my fault but my love was never what they needed

it was never enough but I thought it could be

all my friends mourn their loneliness but I like the silence

maybe I’m just not made to be loved

I’m 16- years old when I see someone use the label aromantic for the first time

I’m 16- years old when everything that I felt all my life suddenly makes sense

I’m 16- years old when I realize I’m not the only one in the world who feels like that

I’m 16- years old when I sob for hours because I’m not broken

I’m 16- years old when I feel more whole than I ever thought I could

[simplyem-24]

Or none if you are a-spec