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[thecollectingmomentsproject]

The Compliment I Still Hear

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[leomonwell]

Backhanded Compliments and How to Spot Fake Praise

Have you ever received a compliment that sounded nice but left you feeling uneasy afterward? Comments like “You did better than I expected” or “You look good today… better than usual” may seem harmless, yet they often carry a hidden sting. Backhanded compliments mix praise with subtle criticism, leaving you questioning yourself rather than feeling uplifted.

These remarks are tricky because they don’t feel openly rude. They often come wrapped in humor or casual conversation, which makes them easy to dismiss at first. Over time, though, repeated fake praise can quietly chip away at your confidence and emotional peace. The pattern matters more than any single comment.

Pay attention to how you feel after these interactions. Genuine compliments leave you feeling supported and seen. Backhanded ones often leave you feeling small, judged, or oddly defensive. Your emotional reaction is an important clue; it’s your intuition speaking up.

Not everyone who gives fake praise is intentionally harmful. Some people communicate poorly or repeat habits they learned growing up. Others, however, use subtle criticism to compete, control, or undermine. Observing whether this behavior happens often, and how they respond when you set boundaries reveals their true intent.

Protecting your peace means responding with clarity, not overreaction. You can calmly address the comment, set boundaries, or choose distance if the behavior continues. You deserve friendships where praise feels safe, sincere, and supportive, not confusing or draining.

True connection doesn’t come with hidden digs. When you learn to spot fake praise, you stop internalizing it and start choosing relationships that genuinely lift you.

[proximatist]

Art! More art! I'm feeding you all

"You USED too look so cute!" What in the backhanded compliments

It's always your aunties that be saying this stuff to you, like auntie you used to have a neck but things change💔💔

[gsmentalhealthwellnes]

Saying It Without Saying It: Understanding Passive-Aggressive Behavior

Passive-aggressive behavior is a way of expressing negativity indirectly, often through veiled actions or comments, instead of directly addressing an issue. This can create confusion, frustration, and strain in relationships.

[parentingroundabout]

Questionable Birthday Gifts for Moms

[communicationskillstrainin-blog1]

How to Respond to Backhanded Compliments and Other Passive-Aggressive Comments at Work

Backhanded compliments--your holiday treasure!

The holidays are here, and that means eating and drinking and generally over-doing it, whether at work or at home.  This is a time for communication skills and tactics for handling all the well-meaning and not-so-well meaning people with whom you'll be socializing.  This video is designed to prepare you for all encounters, including the troublesome co-worker just waiting for the opportunity to throw a few backhanded compliments your way.  Here are a few samples, taken directly from Dan's YouTube viewers Here's a back-handed compliment I witnessed recently said to a skilled and experienced multi-disciplinary artist: "I just love how you dabble in so many things!" Lol One large man leaned over a small woman at an office party and said, 'what does a little woman like you do with her time?' And this little lady put her finger in her mouth and stared up wide - eyed and said, 'Silly me's a judge.' Hi there, haven't seen you for a while, my, you look good FOR YOUR AGE. (Especially, considering the person giving you the backhanded compliment, is the same bloody age as you and has a face like a leather handbag). Just saying. 😁 Girl friend of my 20 something yr old son said they had been looking at some of my photos taken 20 some yrs ago then said " You used to be so pretty" I just looked at her and thought What? In the next few weeks I realised all conversations with this girl included a backhanded compliment without fail. So, this was said to me minutes before a concert by another singer: “Oh I just love your dress... that length is coming back in fashion again”... A woman said to my mother years ago, referring to my dad, I don't know how someone like you got him. And unfortunately, there are so many many more, as you'll see if you stop by Dan's YouTube channel and watch this same video there. In his video, Dan outlines exactly how to effectively and mindfully put and end to this behavior by spotlighting it and then rising above it.  He gives you the outline and the WORDS you need to empower yourself when faced with hurtful comments cloaked as a compliment. Backhanded compliments are nothing more than insults in sheep's clothing,  and it helps to be armed when people come at you with a sledgehammer.  After watching this video, you'll be armed and ready for holiday parties or any events where two or more are gathered--including around the office water cooler. ___________________________________________ To check out Dan's classes, books, and audio/video training, or to book Dan for an event, go to danoconnortraining.com.  You'll be glad you did! Read the full article

[pjalwayswrite]

Posted on FB on year ago. Still applies. 🙄#PJAlwaysWrite #BackhandedCompliments #YouCanKeepThem ✋🏽

[andthenwe06]

Friday 5:39pm EST October 7th, 2016 #facts #fame #support #genuine #naysayers #backhandedcompliments #ibelieveinme (at One Mix)