Commission etiquette I didn’t know I needed to teach 💛 kind of a rant
i woke up today to a random payment on my paypal labeled commission for x tumblr user. it was paid through KoFi.
i go to my DM’s to find a WALL of text explaining a commission idea. 4 characters, 4 instruments, full color and shading, specific instructions and an ask that it’s done at 6pm today.
i didn’t answer bc i had been sleeping. so they went to my main and found my KoFi to just… send the payment. of 15 dollars.
did i mention it wasn’t even persona related? not even persona adjacent?? which is all i’m taking right now during my PERSONA SALE???? like i charge WAY more for my regular commissions?!
i’m grateful that someone wanted to commission me, but they clearly didn’t read my commission information at all and it seems like they were trying to force me to do this by paying before I could decline.
i refunded and blocked them.
so just so people know, basic commission etiquette requires both parties to engage in a conversation about the project. didn’t think that was something anyone would need to explain but here we are. lol
Imagine if you had pwyw slots open and you simply for asking ‘What’s your price range?” You were met with hostility and called rude.
Imagine having outdated prices for commissions you haven’t really been able to update yet so you say ‘I don’t really have a price sheet to post. What are you interested in and whats your price range”
And this person tells you they feel mistreated and that you ‘don’t give a fuck about people who want to buy things”
This person left me a shout about a journal I’d posted regarding selling some items in a game.
My assistant replied to them for me in an attempt to help me out. As assistants do. But even more so particularly, as anyone can read by my previous journals on furaffinity, i’ve been in need of a lot of help the past few months. Im dealing with a lot unfortunately.
This above images is how Lolita acted during this very short exchange.
Are you serious?
What kind of adult person acts this way over being asked to mention their preferences so that I can more easily see if I have what they’re looking for rather than taking the time to list a bunch of items that either may not interest them or be out of their current comfortable paying range?
Extremely childish.
I’ve asked the question before to people and had none of the rudenes and disrespect as I did from this person.
Apparently this is not uncommon behavior for this person.
And is extremely seller beware worthy.
I would also like to point out that they could have EASILY contacted me straight forward, my email was LITERALLY posted in the journal that I even mentioned I was selling these game items.
and while I don’t have the screen shots(because in my anger i deleted the telegram exchange) i did reach out to Lolita via telegram and even re-enabled my FA notes to duplicate the message in case their telegram no longer worked.
Trying to figure out why the actual fuck someone would react so childishly and entitled.
Here is the message I sent.
On telegram they refused to be kind. Instead telling me that I “didn't want to give them the time of day because I assumed they didn’t have money”
Which is the actual farthest fucking thing from reality.
I even tried explaining to them that it’s also much easier for me have a more narrow set of things to discuss rather than my ENTIRE list of items that may or may not have even interested them, because i’ve been feeling unwell and have been extremely lethargic. my waking time is very minimal.
They gave me a half assed “sorry things havent gone the way you want. You still need to take a look at yourself and how you speak to people”
again i sit here like....I said less than 20 freaking words to you to begin with and you lost your goddamn shit.
You’re more than welcome to ask Lolita for their screen shots on telegram for further proof.
but frankly for someone to react to such a simple sentence and question in the way that they did is extremely indicative of severe immaturity and could very likely result in treating other people, be it someone selling items or someone selling art, with the same sense of uppity entitlement.
Pissed off client: Maybe I'll leave the country and then you won't get any money. Me: We only take 15% after settlement, so if you're willing to lose the 85%, I can't stop you.
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I truly had no idea what to say. I work in a corporate salon so I couldn't exactly speak my mind but wow did I wish I could tell her we don't accept bigoted clients 😩
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