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hi, I actively identify as asexual and have a boyfriend. He's one of my best friends and sometimes I think about whether my feelings for him are actually just a very intimate platonic love or if it's actual romantic attraction. I've driven myself to panic attacks when I'll grow distant from my friends while I try to think about it. I feel horrible during those times & get so confused. Can you help me determine the line between romantic attraction and intimate platonic attraction? (#panicked ace)

That line is different for just about everyone. I'd suggest thinking about how you feel towards very close friends or family members. Think about that for a while to help you figure out what your personal sense of deep platonic love feels like. Then compare that to how you feel towards your boyfriend.

I'd also ask--does it matter? You can certainly love your boyfriend even if you don't feel romantic attraction towards him. You can do romantic things with him. You can define yourselves as being in a romantic relationship. If you feel platonic love instead of romantic attraction towards him, it doesn't make your relationship any less valid in any way, at all.

-Filbert

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So over the summer between 8th grade and 9th grade my parents sent me to a Christian camp and because they had a drought we had to use he outhouses half the time and the idea of pooping into a hole mortified me so I tried to hold it and at like 3 in the morning I couldn't sleep and had to shit so I shit in my co-councillors M&M bucket and nobody ever found out it was me

M&M BUCKET

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hey! so i'm just now getting to hear about otherkin and I'm not completely sure what it it, and since i've seen some of your posts in the otherkin tag and you identify as feathered dragonkin, do you think you could please explain to me what it is? i really want to learn about otherkin so I can understand as much as possible. thank you!

Hey! Okay, wow. First of all, let me thank you for being one of the few who chooses to learn about otherkin, instead of just hearing out about it— whether it be from a troll blog or some other source— not understanding what it is, and therefore deciding to hate or dislike otherkin for being different and “weird” or what have you. I truly appreciate those who take the effort to ask someone in the ‘kin community to explain otherkin to them, instead of just going by what little they’ve heard (be it negative or positive.) More often than not, the information is false or not sufficient.

Now let me just say that even being otherkin myself, I am NOT an expert on all otherkin. This is because the experience differs a lot from one person to another. I can tell you what I experience, and what I know about the experiences of some others, but it only scratches the surface, and I’ll inevitably leave some stuff out. Always ask questions, as long as they’re not rude! Most of us are more than happy to tell you about ourselves and our experiences.

Here we go!

A few of the common misconceptions about otherkin:

We literally believe we are physically our kintype (kintype meaning whatever being we identify as, for example my kintype is feathered dragonkin.)

Oh dear. No. Trust me, we are all fully aware we are in human bodies. We don’t look in the mirror and see a wolf or a dragon or a plant. Though some of us may experience dysphoria, we know we are human beings and we live human lives. We may sometimes share some minor habits of our kintypes, such as a dragonkin having a hoard or a catkin sometimes liking to lie and nap in the sun. These are things that we do that make us happy. Most don’t go out of their way to act non-human, although some of us may, but only in the company of someone they fully trust. But we all know fully well we are physically human beings.

We are mentally ill for having the beliefs we do.

Again, no. Identifying as otherkin is not a mental illness. It is most often a spiritual belief, sometimes only realized after a lifetime’s worth of experiences, and for some “sparked” by memories or dreams of past lives; but what never changes is that it is always a deep, profound connection with a particular being. There are neurodivergent people and people with mental illnesses who identify as otherkin, yes. But it’s not that belief that makes them so. Some people “develop” their otherkin identity as a coping mechanism, and this does not make them any “less” otherkin than someone with past-life memories.

“You’re not otherkin, you just like (insert animal here) a lot!”

Nope nope nope. There is a BIG DIFFERENCE between simply having a strong affinity to an animal/being and having such a deep connection to it that it’s spiritual, to the point that you feel you have the soul or spirit of said animal, or that your soul takes the “shape” of that animal. I know this from personal experience.

Otherkin is just a tumblr fad among younger kids/teens.

Wrong again. Contrary to popular belief, being otherkin on not a bandwagon we jump on because we think it’s cool or cute or because we want to be special. It, generally speaking, is not a choice. Now, I’ve never had past-life memories, or dreams, or anything like that. But when I found out about otherkin and what they were (which was not through tumblr, mind you,) upon finding out about dragonkin specifically, it was truly like discovering the answer to an unspoken question I’d had for my entire life. The feelings and yearnings I’d experienced since I was a child were suddenly explained. It wasn’t that I found out about otherkin and said “Oh, that’s cool, these otherkin people are cool, I think I want to get on board with that.” It was more like “Wait… there’s actually a term to describe this? I’m not the only one? Other people have these feelings too? Holy shit… I’m not alone.” It was essentially like a piece of my identity fell into place. Not to mention, the term “otherkin” has been in existence in relation to our “subculture” since about 1990. Long before Tumblr was even thought of. As for otherkin supposedly only being a thing in young teens, well… I myself am 19, and know a good number of people in the community who are in their 20’s and 30’s.

I know this doesn’t even come close to being everything, but it’s a start. If you have any more questions, please shoot me an ask, and I’ll do my best to explain further! I hope this helped you understand a bit better.