#cishet aces

[agressivelyaro]

cishet aces are queer. cishet aros are queer. stop seeing aspecs as not queer unless we fit a specific criteria, unless we're "good enough" for you. we belong in this community

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[Image ID: A tumblr ask post. Anonymous asked, "are you aphobic /gen." The answer has been edited to read, "cishet ace people are lgbt i don't have anything against ace ppl."]

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cishet ace people are lgbt i don't have anything against ace ppl

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Ace people and aro people are inherently LGBTQ due to their ace/aro-ness. If you believe cishet aces/aros are not LGBTQ, do not interact with me.

[the-spades-ace]

For a little context before I post this, I am an Asexual Aromantic-spectrum Biromantic Nonbinary person. As well, whenever I say asexuals/aromantics, I also mean all those in the spectrum of asexuality/aromanticism.

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If you exclude asexuals and aromantics from the LGBTQIA community, you’re acephobic/arophobic! (Yes, even if you are fine with them otherwise)

The A in the LGBTQIA community stands for asexuals and aromantics. It is a shame that many asexuals and aromantics don’t feel comfortable or welcome in the LGBTQIA community because you can’t get over the fact that not everyone is like you.  

If you exclude cishet asexuals and cishet aromantics from the LGBTQIA community, you’re acephobic/arophobic! (Yes, even if you allow in not-cishet aces and aros)

Cishet asexuals and cishet aromantics are part of the asexual and aromantic communities. That is a fact; one that not a single person in the asexual/aromantic communities disagrees with (at least that I have seen). Stop saying that “they are not queer enough to be in the LGBTQIA community”. That’s like saying that a lesbian is not queer enough to be in the LGBTQIA community because she’s not also trans. Sounds kind of stupid, doesn’t it? By saying this, you are again going back to the fact that asexuals and aromantics are not part of the LGBTQIA-A is for Asexual/Aromantic-community. 

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Artist u/elhazelenby

[mossy-aro]

....okay

maybe a hot take but I don’t really like the argument I’ve seen online that “cishet aros/aces aren’t *actually* straight because u have to be heterosexual and heteroromantic” which, to be clear, I understand but I feel is worded really badly??

I feel like the point it’s getting at is that it’s not that they’re not straight, because I think most people would say they are (this is a common exclusionist talking point - ppl often pick this argument apart bc yeah it’s weak) but rather that their type of “straightness” fundamentally does not conform with societal expectations and thus means that they still face discrimination.

Their asexuality/aromanticism adds a unique perspective to the way they experience “straight” attraction, and that attraction is different from allo cishets and that is worth acknowledging and discussing.

But saying they’re not “straight” feels like a bad argument...? Because it’s not really getting to the point - that being aro and ace fundamentally changes the way you experience being straight, rather than not being “straight” - since cishet aspecs also suffer from sociatally normative + harmful beliefs.

This is just my take on this - let me know your thoughts.

[lunatails01]

So tired of asexuals treating non-asexuals as people who's entire minds revolve around sex, like we don't wish to just be romantic sometimes without sex, but we have to be fucking at every chance we get. Sexuality isn't just about sex, alot of factors get put into it. I'm also tired of non asexual people getting treated like a predator. Recently I read a thread, where someone was saying they are glad they don't have to worry about ace people having a sexual meaning behind a compliment, because apparently all non-asexual people have some ulterior sexual meaning behind a basic compliment. Also, I'm tired of those who make everything about being fucking ace. Last week there was a post with a meme, about how trans women are still men, because they have a penis, and someone in the comment section said "I'm too ace for this." They couldn't call out transphobia because it had the word "penis," which is not inherently sexual, it's literally the medical term.

Not👏everything👏is👏about👏sex!

[icarusfellintomyarms]

If you can acknowledge that an asexual man is cisgender and gay, you can acknowledge asexuals who are cisgender and straight, and that their presence in LGBT spaces is actively harmful to LGBT people who are and aren't asexual,

the same way Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist lesbian and TERF bisexual ciswomen are harmful to transwomen despite they themselves being queer.

No more discourse about it, no more arguing, if you can't acknowledge cishet asexuals, and erase and hide their oppressor status under the umbrella queer, then you are homophobic.