What's your opinion on someone being pro - contact/leaning towards being pro-c?
I have a somewhat complicated opinion on being pro contact.
First I would like to say, I think that pro-c folks are 100% a part of the radqueer community, and if you participate in harassing pro-c radqueers, you are not radqueer.
I think contact stances are inherently flawed. I label myself complex contact, because my opinions are complex. And stances like anti, neutral, and pro contact do not describe my opinions.
The idea that someone could possibly fit into the categories of strictly anti or strictly pro contact is insane. For example, most people who say they are anti-c are only talking specifically about paraphilias that cannot be consensual, not paraphilias like objectum or other "non harmful" paraphilias. And people who are pro-c, usually are also explicitly pro-consent, so therefore are most likely anti-c for a specific set of paraphilias that cannot be consensual.
I will state now, that I do not in any way support xenosatanism. But being pro-c is not the same as being a XS (I have seen people get them confused...)
I also do not like the term "harmful paraphilia" because no paraphilia is inherently harmful, most people who use that term mean harmful contact (aka: paraphilias that cannot be acted upon in a non-harmful way.)
TL;DR I support all contact stances, as long as you are anti abuse, and strictly pro consent.
Contact stance discourse is its own can of worms, but maybe don't make fun of the concept of platonic zoo contact whilst you're there? Don't really care what your opinion/contact stance is.
I like to view myself as someone who a strong sense of morality. Someone who is repulsed by anything slightly abnormal. Naturally, this would lead me to hate you, as you're a messed up person.
But I can't deny that I find the ideas your posts bring to mind is appealing. To be entirely reliant on someone who has full control over me, to be harmed over and over, I find it... oddly comforting in a way too.
You give me a lot to think about -🌿
i always have the urge to tease the hell out of those who are disgusted by me yet still find some sort of sick pleasure in my content , but this is incredibly genuine , so i will hold back for just a bit. i’ll get you next ask , 🌿 anon . . <3
let me offer another perspective ; taking time to understand these abnormal sides of humanity instead of instantly hating them will give you a stronger sense of morality . a person acting on their first instinct of repulsion will never be as morally correct as a person who is acting on logic , even if they both come to the same conclusion . the first person will often end up being morally inconsistent , as they’ll be morally against the things they’re repulsed by and morally accepting of the things that don’t personally bother them , even if both things are on the same level of harmless or harmful .
this is especially problematic when you imagine the other side . i’m the opposite of repulsed by many harmful paraphilias , would it be morally acceptable for me to ignore consent and do whatever i want regarding them ? of course not . as a hardcore clinical sadist it scares ME when people’s reason for not doing something is that it’s “ disgusting “ . . because ironically , that’s an admission that , if you were me , you would be an offender .
i consider myself a person with a strong sense of morality because i consider morals before my initial reaction , and morals before my own pleasure . i only pursue my harmful paraphilias within fiction , role - play , or consensual contact , if applicable . i don’t harass people for their thoughts , urges , desires , and identities , even if they personally make me uncomfortable ; i judge purely based on their actions and the harm they cause . i judge how important they view consent when pursuing their pleasures . at the very least , i’m morally consistent .
anyways , i promise you’re not a bad person for finding pleasure and even comfort in that fantasy . conabuse fantasies and relationships can be especially comforting to those who are used to non - consensual abusive relationships . our brains are complicated , liking something in certain contexts doesn’t mean condoning it in general .
ok i have never talked about discourse on this account back to my normal self uhm . antis are soooo hot they turn me on . ooo don’t you want to stick around my blog and let me corrupt you into the perfect victim for my sick fantasies ooo ( teasing )
( seriously , send another ask if you want less serious and more sadism . just wanted to be real for a second )
What do you mean by anti noncom abuse? Would be pro a child consenting to a relationship with an adult?
Anti noncon abuse means I am anti non-consensual abuse, but i am pro (NC)CNC.
And I am complex-contact, on the specific issue of children and adult relationships, I believe that teenagers ages 14+ are capable of giving informed consent. I do not condone any sexual or romantic relationships between children under the age of 14 and adults.
Of course there is some nuance to this conversation, like has the teenager been given adequate sex education? If they have not I believe that revokes their ability to give consent.
Addictionally, me saying I do believe teenagers 14+ can consent does not mean I don't belive that they could be abused by an adult or other people their age.
Hopefully this answers all your questions anon, if you have any more please feel free to send me another ask! /genuine
