#couneling

[asking-jude]

I never look back, darling. It distracts from the now.

Edna Mode, The Incredibles  

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

7 Rules of Life

1. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

2. What others think of you is none of your business.

3. Time heals almost everything; give it time.

4. Don`t compare your life to others`, and don`t judge them. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

5. Stop thinking too much; it`s alright not to know the answers. They will come to you when you least expect it.

6. No-one is in charge of your happiness, except you.

7. Smile. You don`t own all the problems in the world.

Source: Whisper of the heart.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t do.

Rikki Rogers

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

8 Ways to Destroy a Relationship

1. Be abusive: As well as physical abuse, this includes put-downs, sarcasm, negative and hurtful comments, deliberately withholding affection, stonewalling, refusing to talk, and repeatedly threatening to leave the relationship.

2. Be defensive: Individuals who are always on the defensive are so wrapped up in protecting themselves that they rarely grow in their relationships with others. They won’t admit that they have faults and so end up committing the same mistakes again and again. This eventually destroys the relationship.

3. Be critical: While there’s sometimes a place for the occasional remark, if you’re always complaining and pointing out their flaws then you’ll soon undermine your partner’s self-esteem. In all areas of life, a critical person is an unattractive person.

4. Be always right: If you’re always right, the other person’s always wrong – and who wants to feel that they have nothing to contribute, or their point of view is stupid, unwanted and wrong.

5. Be narcissistic and selfish: The person who always has to have their own way in life, or who’s only interested in their own needs and desires has little to add to a relationship.

6. Be dishonest: Trust is at the heart of all good relationships. If you can’t be real and honest, or are not dependable, then there’s no foundation for a strong relationship. This includes being unfaithful or hiding the whole truth.

7. Be superior: If you’re quick to judge others or to put people down, or you think that you are better than everybody else (more intelligent, prettier, cooler etc) then you’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of heartache. For although we all have strengths, and we may excel at times, each person is unique and is worthy of respect.

8. Be controlling: A relationship’s a gift. That person’s not your property. They’re allowed to be themselves, with their own views and beliefs. They don’t answer to you; and they don’t have to change themselves. They’re autonomous and free – and they’re not there to be controlled.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

8 Small Happiness Boosters

1. Count your blessings; practice being thankful.

2. Do something small to make someone else smile.

3. Enjoy spending quality time with yourself.

4. Be your own cheerleader and your own best friend.

5. Waste an hour doing something that you really love.

6. Set aside your electronics for an hour.

7. Experiment and try a new activity.

8. Go to bed when you’re tired; get plenty of sleep.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

10 Easy Ways to Brighten Someone’s Day

1. Send them an encouraging text or message.

2. Give them some home-baked cookies or some beautifully packaged chocolate.

3. Send them a card, or leave a handwritten note on their desk.

4. Offer to do something for them, or to help them with something they are struggling with.

5. Pay them a (genuine) compliment.

6. Thank or praise them in front of others.

7. Notice, and comment on their effort and hard work.

8. Offer to pay - instead splitting the bill.

9. Show up to something they’re participating in (a sport, musical performance etc)

10. Be upbeat, and try to make them smile.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Just because you took longer than others doesn’t mean you failed. Remember that.

Unknown

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once. Breathe. you’re strong. You got this. Take it day by day.

Karen Salmansohn