#developmentally delayed

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I have 2 developmentally delayed teens. I'm trying to get help for Christmas but it's hard when they are teens. One still believes in Santa. If anyone would like to help I have a small list here. Rowan, Crimson, and a few stocking stuffer things. If the link isn't click able you should be able to copy and paste.

Thank you ❤️

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[geekysciencemom]

Questions

Sending these questions out into the void (came across them while reading): Why do we need to make a distinction between ‘normal’ and ‘not normal’ when we are acutely aware that human psychological life is so diverse? Do you think that society or the individual within it benefits from identifying some types of behaviour as ‘abnormal’?

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Some Facts On Occupational Therapy

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Occupational therapy is a highly-needed treatment for several kids along with adults that shave inherited, developmental, along these lines humanly as perceptual disabilities. This could help people to perform everyday functions, just like dressing skyward or even writing. This also helps in mental smarts along herewith problem solving to enhanced brain functioning.<\p>

Typically, people who are injured fantasy need to get talent in with occipitalis groups that are swayed or maybe relearn the right way of procedure specific activities. This investigation is item helpful in achieving the said goals.<\p>

A practitioner outskirts with patients thanks to various conditions, at what price kids who are developmentally delayed or even adults that compass brain injuries, among others. Subliminal self utilize adaptive equipment along with the data exercises influence system to have the patient aided fellow feeling the area which directorate should fortify. Physical exercises might endure utilized unto strengthen clear-cut muscles utilized consuetudinary for specific activities, including the buttoning of shirts, songbook, or unbent driving.<\p>

Some exercises which are also done can be not comprehensively psycho in nature, like memory-aiding unicorn even problem-solving. These could be so helpful for anyone suffering from brain injury or even memory decrement of the short-term affectionate. The therapist provides promoter to clients who should relearn skills or even strengthen some skills.<\p>

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Making Each Minute Matter

Making Each Minute Matter

We’re on the verge of a huge lifestyle change. Our developmentally delayed adult daughter is going to transition to group living. I feel so many conflicting emotions that I’ve given myself a headache.

I’m trying to make each minute matter. Because I know it really does matter. We’ve dreamed about seeing her “graduate” to adulthood. In the blink of an eye, eleven years have flown by. I must admit…

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Talking to my developmentally delayed sister about sex (TMI warning: sex, obviously)

My sister and I have always been very close. Since I've been away at college we talk every night. I'm home almost every weekend, and when I am I make a point of spending time with her. I always want her to feel like she can talk to me about anything.

Her disabilities are relatively mild. She is quite intelligent, but her physical, mental, and emotional development are slower than average. Our estimate is that, academically, it takes her about 2 years to learn 1 average student's year of information. She is 19 years old, and has yet to learn to read. This is not from lack of ability - I have personally tutored her over a couple of summers using a specialized method and I know she is more than capable of learning. Her school lacks the resources to teach her (aides and curriculum) so she is stuck memorizing common sight words instead of learning to sound out new ones. This is a source of frustration for all of us, especially her, as she wants more than anything to live as normal a life as possible.

It was a bit of a fight to get our mom to let me talk to her about sexuality. Her excuse was that it would "confuse her." Now, of course, she's her mom. I would never question her right to have final say in matters of parenting, as she's been an excellent parent to the both of us, but sometimes I push things - basically advocate for what I feel are her best interests. As her older sister I feel very protective of her.

An avenue opened up when we started watching Glee together. I spoke with Mom and got her permission to explain gay vs straight, as one of the main characters on Glee is gay. As expected she was a little confused at first, but it didn't take long for her to get used to the concept. I was very careful to discuss the issue as neutrally as possible, bringing up homophobia and differing viewpoints without bias so that she could form her own opinion before sharing my own. She took her time thinking about it but, happily, quickly accepted same sex relationships the same way she accepts opposite sex ones.

She has had sex education at school, but I can tell that either the curriculum is vague or that the information hasn't really stuck. I am a firm believer in the complete education of young teens about matters of healthy sexuality, so that they can make their own decisions about relationships and protect themselves against predators. 

Once again television became an excellent avenue of communication. I don't recall which show it was, but we were watching one in which a couple was having sex. She asked if they wanted to get pregnant, so I explained the basic concept of birth control. Not really how it worked, but just that it existed and what it was used for. Again, it was readily accepted.

A few days ago we were driving home from a girl's night out, which we like to do every once in a while. I don't remember how the topic came up,  but she brought up getting pregnant and asked how it happened. Obviously those sex ed classes didn't stick! I explained the basic process and she asked how birth control worked, so explain how condoms and the pill work.

She mentioned she'd been thinking about having sex and having kids. She talked about waiting till after high school or college, or until her late 20s. I talked about how it was important to wait to have kids until you were able to support them financially and talked about the costs of raising kids (diapers, formula, clothing, etc.). I told her that when she decided to start having sex that she'd need to talk to Mom or me first so we could get her some birth control. I also brought up the fact that her boyfriend is 17, and that it is illegal for someone over 18 to have sex with a minor, to which she assured me she was waiting anyway but it was good to know. XD

She asked me if my ex and I had been using birth control (so much for my mom's trying to keep her from thinking we were sexually active... XD) I explained that we were not having the kind of sex that could get me pregnant, but if we had been we would have used birth control.

Soon I hope to talk with her more about how sex and birth control work, consent, and gender. Most importantly I want to keep a dialogue going about healthy and unhealthy relationships. She watches lots of teen-targeted shows, and while we watch I like to point out things that are good or bad that the characters do, especially if the "good guys" don't comment on them. I try to encourage her to watch things that have positive role models in them and discourage the ones full of toxic relationships and mean people, without actively censoring the media she's exposed to. 

It's a common misconception that people with intellectual disabilities are asexual (though I am sure some are). My sister wants to get married and have kids someday. I'm not sure how the latter will go, if it happens, but there is no reason she cannot get married and have a fulfilling sexual life. In the meantime I will continue to make sure she can get the information and support she wants.

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The Innocence of Autism – Part 2

Part 1 can be found here - http://geekysciencemom.tumblr.com/post/45143501654/the-innocence-of-autism-part-1

THE DRAW BACKS AND THE PERKS OF BEING FOREVER YOUNG

There are draw backs to being "youthful". I can't relate very well to my peers I don’t sit around mulling over the “old days”. My husband is only 2 ½ years older than me, and has been known to do this with his friends. My age doesn’t fit with how I feel inside. My daughter is developmentally delayed as well. She is twelve years old, but feels more like a six year old. A good friend of mine would say my daughter is six years old with twelve years of experience. Sometimes my daughter seems even younger. She still plays with preschool toys and watches shows designed for preschoolers. The person she sees in the mirror does not match how she feels inside. Puberty is hard enough, but it is even harder when your mind is so young. It is just a confusing mess.

During the elementary school years, children typically under go three distinct brain changes; one at six years old, one at nine years old, and one at twelve years old. My daughter got stuck at the six year change. I got stuck at the twelve year change. My son has managed to meet his nine year old brain change. I am very curious to see if he surpasses me in brain development. He is two years younger than his sister, but he is three years older than her developmentally.

I have a naivety about me. It is not a choice that I am this way and it is not something I am proud of. I tend to see the world through the eyes of a much younger person. I have a sense of innocence about me that adults generally don’t have. I have a very black and white view of the world. There is right and there is wrong and there is very little if anything in between. I have worked very hard to see the gray areas in life. It is still difficult, but I am getting better at it. I am very direct and to the point with my speaking. I mean what I say. It took me a long time to realize that most people don’t talk that way. People’s behavior didn’t match their words, so I was hurt many times. There have been many times that the hurt I felt was that of a child, not the hurt that an adult experiences.

Bill Ferguson describes the hurt of a child in this way:

“In the process of growing up, we get hurt, and we get hurt a lot. As little children, the only way we can explain these painful losses of love is to blame ourselves: ‘Clearly I’m the problem.’ We then decide that we are worthless, not good enough, not worth loving, a failure, or some other form of feeling ‘not okay’.”

“It’s never the truth that we are this way. It’s just a suppressed emotion. But to a little child, in a moment of hurt, it becomes our truth. This is the only explanation that makes any since at the time. We then go through life fighting the very belief that we created. ‘No one can ever love me if I’m worthless. Worthless is a horrible way to be’.” “It’s the automatic avoidance of this hurt that sabotages our lives. Any circumstance that triggers this hurt is perceived subconsciously as a major threat. To avoid this threat, we fight, resist, hang on and withdraw.”

This is what I have done for as long as I can remember. It is only after getting my diagnosis, and becoming friends with a very special person, that I realized I am not the problem. I am not broken and I have worth. I learned to let myself feel again and to let my true self out. It was liberating.

Being forever young also has its perks. As a teacher I can relate to my students in ways that other teachers cannot. I can speak like my students do and my mannerisms are more like theirs. I am familiar with what my students are into and can talk to them about it. The one thing I have never understood, though, is the preteen/teenage drama. I couldn’t when I was chronologically that age, and I still don’t to this day. Even adults have their drama, and I don’t understand that either.

Another benefit of being forever young is that I can also relate to my own children. I play with them and they love it. It is said that people with autism do not do imaginative play. Those who decided that never came to my house. Our playing might not be what you would typically expect, but we have grand adventures, and everything gets nicely organized in the process. Our playing is usually story based and it is usually stories that we play over and over again. It may be a formal ball with Barbie dolls. Everyone has to get ready, but some have to stay behind to take care of the kids. Then there is the problem of the car without a steering wheel. The Barbie dolls have to figure out how to steer and, of course, crash into everything. Then there are the Lego adventures we have. There seems to always be a space octopus and a pirate space ship in these adventures. How is this not imaginative play?

But I digress. Being an adult and being able to think like a much younger person opens up possibilities that an adult with an adult brain might not have access to. Think about the problem that involves dots and you need to connect all the dots without lifting your pencil, but you can only use four lines. Children have a much easier time answering this problem because they can think “outside of the box”. Imagine what an adult with a mind like that could accomplish if encouraged!

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