#dilation

[arte1misia]

sweets to measure dilation in labor 🍡🍬🍪🍩

Anna_thenurse is on IG, and she is giving a touch of fun about her job as a midwife delivering babies!I salute her and all the midwives that have all my respect 💓🎉🥳

5th July is NHS birthday 🇬🇧🩵

[princessbimbun]

pre-op girls often get really worried about dilation, so here's a frank little post about it from someone who is over half-a-decade post-op.

i haven't dilated in a few months, i'm not sure exactly how many but i think it's been about four months? i'm years after surgery, so this is honestly fine, but i also haven't done penetration more than once since the start of this year. because of that, i knew it would be tougher than usual, certainly tougher than early post-op dilation was.

today i felt super down and exhausted, so i decided to do some self-care to feel more connected to myself.

that self-care was dilation, because dilating is itself an act of caring for your body! it's a bit boring and mundane (especially since tension, excitement, or laughter are disruptive to it so being bored is the ideal mental state during it) but it's good for you.

and yeah, it'd been four months. so i was a little slower to get to depth than if it had been less time, and it was moderately uncomfortable with a few brief moments of tension that were fine, normal penetration stuff. your body going "oof, inflexible solid glass" is normal.

i did the full time with the medium and the full time with the large, then got out my favourite dildo and enjoyed a couple of tired little orgasms as a reward for getting it done because at that point i'm warmed up and it's an easy switch. you know when an orgasm makes you cry but it's really cathartic and a relief? good stuff! dilation works as buildup if you want to do penetration, but by itself it's very intimate; you're very focussed on your body and your feelings and self-control. trying to dissociate from it means you're not doing it properly, so you are very attentive to the physical feelings and movements, the little motions and control, and the responses of your body.

dilation is, and has been since surgery, one of the most profoundly intimate things i do with my own body. it is much more involved and patient and caring than, say, masturbation. enjoying that act of care for yourself is important to motivate yourself through the tedium of spending most of an hour on it.

then i took a shower, cleaned the dilators up, and had a lie down for a bit to rest.

i'm a little sore and a bit stiff when walking now, a couple of hours later, but dilation was always consistently slower and tougher for me than a lot of girls i know (likely related to my mobility/joint/ligament issues, your perineum has quite a lot of ligaments and there's two that can be pretty resistant to penetration, for me!). so i'm a girl for whom dilation was always pretty tough, but you just have to do it.

it's really not a burden, and people get too scared about it before surgery. if you're post-op, one day you'll feel like i feel right now. you did a chore, but it's a blessing too.

i feel much more grounded and connected to myself and more relaxed now than i did before that session. it's like i've pulled the cork on the depression and my emotions are flowing properly again. i feel real, my body exists tangibly rather than smeared by the fog of exhausted apathy. i still feel depressed, but i feel steady, satisfied, and i did something good today that i've needed to do for a while.

dilation is a mundane task, for a while it's a chore, it is not 'fun'.

but it's really not scary, and even on a bad day it can be a good thing.

dilation is about loving yourself.

and i think we don't talk about that enough, as trans women.

[irisjaycomics]

MAKE A TERRIBLE COMIC DAY 2026: Dilation Thoughts

IT'S MAKE A TERRIBLE COMIC DAY!!! Best day of the dang year!! Here's one about those cloying little thoughts all post-op gals have whilst attending to their big beefy neo-pussies. Relatable content! #MakeATerribleComicDay #MakeATerribleComicDay2026

[lundibix]

Ok mandated cockwarming session

[blondebrainpowered]

[transroadwarrior]

i slowly unwrap my dilator carrier like the deranged transfemme Sweeney Todd I am and waggle my fingers over the candy-colored dildos like a mad scientist selecting the right tool, before picking up Mr. Blueberry the blue one, tripping over my underwear, and bonking myself on the head with the stupid blue rod, instantly concussing myself

[queerbeverage]

Realtalk for a second:

Dilation is my personal ADHD nightmare. A new routine, 20min each day TWICE, you have to prepare it (some kinda cover, lube, mirror) and then it's also really uncomfy sensations (lube spilling on my fingers holy FUCK is that a shitty feel). And I gotta do that every day for atleast 6 months. Can't be lazy with it, can't just skip a day, otherwise you might lose depth. It's fuckin terrifying and it plays a part in my currently WRECKED sleep schedule, bc i can't go to bed without dilating for a second time. Also, if i'm not really in the mood, it's even harder. It costs a lot more mental energy to convince myself it's necessary for my recovery.

It's so fucking hard.

Still, just the psychological peace i have from being flat now and being able to have penetrative sex if i want... it's wonderful. I'd still get the surgery every time. Just wanted to give a little perspective that i have never seen elsewhere. Dilation is hard on you if you have executive dysfunction and trouble with new routines. Be prepared.

[doctorlarch]

Hi, Doctor. What would you do for a patient with a tight pelvic floor? I’ve started to get wet all the time, but my daddy can’t even get a finger inside me. I’m scared to try dilating on my own, so he said I’d have to visit you. I’m really shy about asking for help for something like this. Do you really have to look at me there to fix it?

I’m afraid I’ll have to do more than look down there to help you, I’m going to have to touch you too. But it’s okay I’ll wear nice soft gloves and I promise I’ll be gentle. There’s a lot we can do for tight little patients like you. Dilation therapy is our most common treatment plan but it’s not our only option. Some patients are too tight to start dilation therapy right away and need to take a quick trip to the OR first, there I can make a quick easy snip or stretch your hymen while you’re asleep and unable to feel it. If your daddy can’t even fit a finger inside of you then I’m afraid the more aggressive treatment options might be necessary. Another option if you’d like to avoid the surgical route would involve pre-treating with muscle relaxers prior to your dilation therapy. These medications can make you feel a little loopy or tired but they help all your muscles relax, including your pelvic floor. This can make the dilation more effective and much less painful for you. Despite which route we go dilation therapy takes a lot of time and commitment, you’d have to come in once or twice a week to have your stretching appointments then at home every night your daddy would have to follow your home stretching program. I will show him how to stretch you and what dilators to use as you progress to bigger and bigger sizes.

I know it may seem scary or feel like a lot, and it is. But I’m sure you can be brave for the Doctor and your daddy.

-Doctor Larch