#empath abuse

[quitblamingnarcissism]

The Just World Theory is a pattern in which people convince themselves that those who are suffering did something to bring it upon themselves in order to avoid feeling bad for them.

It's one of the most evil patterns in existence. Every injustice that has ever existed was able to continue because of the Just World Theory.

And the Just World Theory requires empathy. Someone without empathy would have no use for the Just World Theory. They wouldn't have to play mind games with themself in order to stop feeling bad for others because they already don't feel bad for others to begin with.

So enough about the idea that empathy equals good person. Every injustice in the world is caused by people with empathy.

[theconcealedweapon]

Contrary to what neurotypicals want you to believe, "feeling bad" is not what makes someone a good person.

In fact, a lot of hurtful things people do are motivated by "feeling bad".

And that's because people who "feel bad" will often focus on stopping themselves from feeling bad, not on actually helping the people who they supposedly feel bad for.

If someone experiences oppression or some other kind of unique struggle, feeling bad for them is useless. What they need is for people to listen to them, understand them, and make the world more accessible for them.

Those who "feel bad" for homeless people often just want them out of sight and refuse to advocate for policies that would stop them from being homeless. They often convince themselves that homeless people deserve it in order to stop themselves from feeling bad for them.

Those who "feel bad" for disabled people often post meaningless "share for disability awareness" posts, advocate for cures, say things like "I don't know how you do it", support ableist charities like Autism Speaks, or even support "mercy killing", but simply listening to disabled people is too much for them.

Those who "feel bad" often give advice that's overly optimistic and dismissive.

Those who "feel bad" often expect others to keep their struggles to themselves.

Those who "feel bad" often demonize neurodivergent people who don't "feel bad" but who do actually listen to those who are suffering.

[fourphansporpoinses]

What I would give to unmask to a certain person. Go as crazy as they do in their BPD splits and show them my ASPD side. But me getting angry makes me an unforgivable psychopath abuser. And he’s a delicate angel who is totally forgivable for getting just as violently angry.

(I have never used violence in my life, this person has hit their puppy on multiple occasions and in front of me.)

[atickandacricket]

getting dx with aspd has helped me put words to why empathy has always felt so disingenuous to me

it feels manipulative

like you’re just going to pretend to feel as bad as me??

and act like it’s helpful??

at best i just made you sad too

and now i have to comfort you

and it feels like you did that on purpose

pretended to be as sad as me so you didn’t have to actually listen to me

which is what i’d far prefer

just sit there and listen

cos any response you have won’t change the reality of the situation

[valcaira]

Watching narc abuse truthers bluescreen when I tell them I'm a narcissist who's been abused by someone with hyperempathy

[thatnarcissisticfeel]

I was lurking r/empaths on reddit (yes, i like to torture myself like that), and there was a post of someone saying they might have NPD. All the comments were reassuring them that that was impossible, and if they lived with a 'narc', they might have "narcissistic fleas."

Like wtf.

As someone diagnosed with NPD, I swear all empaths are very self unaware narcs.

The weird thing is....there actually IS evidence that personality disorders CAN be inherited. whether it's "nature" (as in an actual gene that is passed down) or "nurture" (as in something you learn from your environment) is hard to say for sure, and it's likely a mix of both, and while of course you can develop NPD (or any other PD or any other disorder in general) without having parents/guardians/family members/caregivers/etc who also have it....it's like, ok, even if it IS inherited.......Why are we blaming the people who have it? We don't control our bloodline or our living situation we were in as children.........

Even if you are dumb enough to believe in narc abuse or "narc fleas", WHY do you write off everyone in that type of environment to be a helpless lost cause who is destined to abuse and manipulative everyone they know?

~Empaths~ actually have zero empathy, especially in regards to NPD/ASPD/similar disorders. Even if you truly, truly, believe that narcs are "born that way" or "groomed that way" (HELLO??????), oh my god, isn't that all the more reason why you SHOULD support us and realize it's not our fault and try to help us in some way?!?!

r/empaths and r/raisedbynarcissists are both literal hell. And it's especially ironic when you think about how they both have "NO ABLEISM" rules in their sidebars, when their whole thing is. . .being ableist to those with low/no empathy.

[imjustangryandbored]

I could talk about being severely abused as a child and an ❤️‍🩹🥺empath🥺❤️‍🩹 would pop up and tell me about how my abusers must be narcissists

[starlite-sin]

Hey shoutout to the bot that’s going around the npd postivity tags with that whiny motherfucker from r/raisedbynarcissists. Thanks for reminding me that no matter how low i go, i will always be better than people like that

also what does that mean?