#bpd abuse

[vialunara]

okay I'm finally making a post here abt this so Maybe I stop dwelling on it. but.

people with bpd aren't inherently abusive.

we can display traits that are tiring, hard to deal with, and just plain harmful, sure. but abuse is intentional--symptoms are not.

im tired of people with bpd being talked about like they're intentionally manipulative, or someone to avoid.

so! to everyone Ever:

do not call people with bpd abusers for their symptoms.

do not even allude to it.

do not even claim that a person with bpd reminds you of past abuse because they slipped up. because maybe that's true, but you're on thin fucking ice.

people with bpd can do bad things due to their symptoms, but 9 times out of 10 harm isn't our intention.

so stop acting like it is.

you can genuinely harm people by saying this shit, believe it or not! and it isn't fucking ok.

ok bye

[condemnedbody]

Every time I see someone go "I can't talk about how people with bpd/npd are abusive!"

I have to question do you seriously think every single person with bpd or npd is the same as your abuser?

Because that is not the case. It might be because they share a disorder therefore might share symptoms but different people might have different symptoms, are at different points in recovery/therapy, and other people just act different.

Just because one or even multiple people with a disorder have given you a bad experience does not mean everyone with that disorder is destined to, and telling people with those disorders that they are abusers or are inherently harmful is harmful on its own and does absolutely no good and in fact helps no one recover.

You are allowed to talk about your abuse story, you are allowed to not like your abusers, you are allowed to talk about why they were abusive and what may have caused that.

That doesn't mean that you can just start tearing down strangers and their mental health because you got hurt yourself.

Don't be the stereotype of hurt people hurt people.

[shameful-sinful-sensual-sex]

I hope you'll be hung in the streets you fucking piece of shit

I mean shit they might do it because I’m black, but some cringey mentally ill freak from tumblr is as good an excuse as any to lynch someone. Keep in mind I told you guys to stop doing stuff like this and blaming it on your disorder. Ohhh ohh ohhhh and I called you stupid, tone deaf, and ignorant for perpetuating abuse, harassing abuse victims, and spreading misinformation about mental illness and abuse just to get away with the abuse you obviously dole out.

And you are in fact a freak because no disorder is making you constantly send this shit. You’re doing it because you’re empty and insecure. Most of us are and don’t do this stuff. I don’t respect cowards either. You said this on anonymous. Say it to the parents who traumatized you. Say it to the kids who bullied you. Say it to whoever fucked you up. And say that shit with your chest.

Otherwise, keep doing this until it makes you feel better, or bored. And you’ll add to the reasons you already feel shitty. I’m not suicidal and I’d never kill myself, I’m too petty and spiteful. That means you won’t feel bad about those messages if I just “disappeared”, but you will look back and cringe that you let some objective truths about personality disorders get to you this bad. You let a stranger who doesn’t know or care about you see how desperate you are to feel something interesting.

That’s almost worse than if I were to “kill myself” or get “hung” because I’m gonna let you know right now, you guys are far more inclined to do it than I ever would’ve. And I can tell you actually have a few people who might piss on your grave. Multiple people who can easily forget you. And I don’t lose sleep over corny losers who hide and throw rocks, randomly dying or hurting themselves. People accepted that I’m an imperfect person and they still respect me. Do they respect you, or do you need to send another vulgar message to mask?

[fourphansporpoinses]

What I would give to unmask to a certain person. Go as crazy as they do in their BPD splits and show them my ASPD side. But me getting angry makes me an unforgivable psychopath abuser. And he’s a delicate angel who is totally forgivable for getting just as violently angry.

(I have never used violence in my life, this person has hit their puppy on multiple occasions and in front of me.)

[livingzomboy]

If youre an ableist please block me, tags will be for reach but im protecting me and you who comes across this

Curate your online experience

The block me list:

Narc/BPD/PD abuse folks, your trauma is valid your ableism isnt

TERFs, trans women were at the forefront of your movement for so long

Moral purists, my thoughts and feelings do not define me, inherently ableist, racist, transphobic etc.

Anti-microlabels, also inherently ableist

Anti-paraphilia , theyre mental illnesses and we can recover (to the big three who are anti recovery or pro contact dni, pro contact for any harmful paraphiles dni)

"Schizoposting" people who seek to demean schizospec people and are not schizospec themselves, or post intentionally triggering content

those who think that the only neurodivergences are autism or ADHD, get educated homie

and similar ideas

[the-enemys-gate-is-down]

I look at pictures of myself from that time and I was a kid. just a little kid. she abused a CHILD. and she felt justified in doing so.

[devinetheory-2]

I didn't make you the villain.

You're self-made.

- DT

[mischiefmanifold]

A PSA...

Narcissistic abuse doesn't exist, it's just abuse

Borderline abuse doesn't exist, it's just abuse

Stop demonizing personality disorders