the lies i weave are oh so intricate

[Header Image Description: a pile of golden glitter. Avatar Image Description: A body of water that is glimmering gold from sunlight. End Image Description] A safe space for those with NPD or those who think they might have it. Self-Diagnosers and Questioning people welcome, ableists who believe in “narcissist abuse” are not. This blog is by and for pwNPD (people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder) but NTs and other non-narcs can absolutely follow, interact with posts, and ask questions. Mod is a transmasc adult. he/him or neopronouns! I have other brain/personality fuckery too so I might post about other disorders, especially in regards to how they interact with NPD. I follow back / like / reply from a Les Misérables URL with 3 hyphens in it.

[thatnarcissisticfeel]

Hello! I have no idea if “that xyz feel when” blogs are still around, but I figured I would make one. All are welcome here so long as you’re not ableist or a bigot in some other way, though obviously those with NPD (or those who think they might have it) will be prioritized in asks/submissions/messages and whatnot. Kindly fuck off you believe in narc abuse, though. This is a safe space that does not judge anyone for their symptoms regardless of how “ugly” or “scary” they might seem.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Like I get that it's horrible to be a victim of abuse that people don't take seriously, but if your proposed solution is "and that's why I have to argue that my abuser must have been one of those evil mentally ill people that society actually conceptualizes as dangerous and is comfortable dehumanizing" you're losing my sympathy fast

[scramratz]

"You're so narcissistic. All you do is talk about yourself. " I think we've forgotten what a blog is

[thatnarcissisticfeel]

Furthermore, I think we've forgotten what narcissistic means.

[junglejim4322]

My delusion that im always right really isn’t helped by the fact I almost always do end up being right

[carbonite]

i have this weird self-esteem issue where i hate myself but i still think that im better than everyone else

[innerchildabortionclinic]

your ex is a narcissist? so he must struggle with close friendships, right--oh, he's respectful to his male friends? he only acts this way around women? that's crazy, they should invent a word for such a phenomenon

[adistant]

shout out to all the people who used to struggle with being Mean or cruel to others and are actively working on being better. shout out to all the people who were hurt, externalized it, and then decided to be kind about it instead. shout out to all the people who CHOSE kindness, shout out.

[yesornopolls]

Do you have narcissistic parents?

Do you have narcissistic parents?

Yes

No

Voting ended onFeb 1

[jewish-rock]

oh fuck off 20% of you do not have parents with npd. call them abusive or self centered jfc.

[thee-kt]

There's actually an 8th deadly sin and it's not paying enough attention to me

[magehand]

i think about these tweets a lot and honestly just hearing it from someone else has helped me a lot in even less than a month

[mikkeneko]

I don’t usually see content relating to NPD unless it’s “here’s how to spot a narcissist! [4000 word essay about their abusive family member]” so I thought this was worth a boost

[grantwilson]

[id: a twitter thread from Travis McElroy (@travismcelroy), reading: “The reason I don’t SEEM like a narcissist is that I have ACTIVELY worked to improve myself over the last 8 years. I still work on it! First things first, listen. It’s really hard when you know you are funnier and more interesting. But it helps a lot. 2) Realize that everyone thinks differently from you. It is really easy to get frustrated when others don’t grasp things the same way you do, but (as hard as it is to believe) everyone thinks differently. 3) Remind yourself that everyone’s priorities and beliefs are different. Not everyone agrees with you and that’s ok. 4) It is ok for you to think you’re great, but not everyone is going to feel that about you and that’s ok too. 5) Find someone who you can love more than yourself and then listen to them about becoming better. That’s what I did.” end id]

[unfortunatesal]

personality test came back negative

[eldritchbauble]

A good rule of thumb is to not assume the worst about people. Even people you don't like. A lot of the time, they're just people, they're flawed because they're human too. It is possible to have disagreements and different perspectives on things without bringing anger to the table.

That doesn't mean you have to put up with anyone's harmful behavior, or that you're obligated to put time and energy into any relationship that isn't fulfilling for you. It just means that sometimes disengaging is the best option rather than generating conflict.

[eldritchbauble]

I have a Cluster B personality disorder and I care about multiple people with NPD. Please don't make my posts into a way to demonize people w/ PDs (which are often caused by trauma and don't force anyone to be abusive). I don't do stigma on my blog.

[the-floral-skeleton]

Can we just say abuser again. “Narcissist” this “narc abuse” that, and then 90% of the time people just describe regular abuser behavior.

“It’s a classic tactic for narcissists to take away something you care about and then give it back and expect gratitude” you mean it’s a classic tactic for abusers. That is not some special strategy that only narcissists use, it’s literally just manipulation. Manipulation is a classic abusive behavior.

I am begging people to understand that abuse is a pattern of behaviors that anyone can fall into, not some special separate group that you can neatly label and separate yourself from.

[innerchildabortionclinic]

WHO ELSE up being a narcissistic influencer

[shitborderlinesdo]

is it possible to hate yourself but have NPD?

Contrary to popular belief, a big part of NPD is having low self-esteem, so probably  a lot of people with NPD experience self-hatred and self-criticism. With NPD, a person may exaggerate certain features about themselves and show off as a means of making up for their low self-esteem.

I have narcissistic traits in addition to my PD diagnoses, and I often slightly exaggerate my accomplishments so people don’t think I’m as much of a failure as *I* think I’m a failure. I’ll tell people I put in hours of volunteer work every week (which is true… sorta… I volunteer time on SBD, but sitting on a computer talking to people is not what others imagine when I say I put in volunteer work). I’ll tell people I spent my youth traveling before settling down (also true, though it was mostly due to couch-surfing and being homeless rather than traveling for leisure).

I am constantly concerned with what people think about me, and I always need them to respect me and think well of me. Because if they don’t, my narcissistic traits tell me I am worthless. If people don’t think well of me, I don’t think well of me. How I view myself is very dependent on what others think of me, so I’ll build myself up to make people admire me because it’s the only way to keep myself from spiraling into a pit of self hatred.

-Mea

[integrityflower]

watching or reading something thats shitting on some celebrity or political figure or even a fictional character and you agree with everything they say but then they had to call the person a narcissist instead of just calling them egotistical

[deltorandagger]

Seems people have a lot of trouble with dealing with those who have narcissistic personality disorder. So here's a nice little quick guide.

Ways to deal with your local problematic narcissist:

Give them money.

Treat them like a person.

Hand over all of your money to them.

Explain to them in detail exactly how cool they are, they'll appreciate it.

Slip em a 20 dollar note.

Remove the phrase "narcissistic abuse" from your whole vocabulary.

Pay them in cash right now.

Punch an ableist on their behalf.

Offer them 50 dollars.