#ending things

[beljar]

It’s hard to spend that much time alone. It’s hard not to have anyone.

Lain Reid, from I’m Thinking of Ending Things, June 14, 2016

[loungininparadise]

[pensamientos-indestructibles]

Nota mental: "el hecho de que yo sienta que finalmente logre cerrar un ciclo, no significa que la otra persona también lo haya hecho"

[intankhasanah]

The Noise

Using shortcut to end the problems instead of using the one-at-a-time step to solve them is what I tend to do, or will do, or maybe consider to do, or hoping that I would have the bravery to do. 

No. No. No. It's not bravery. It's a coward attitude. 

Okay. Stop right there and say "SSHHH" louder because you barely realize it's the noise again that push you to have that kind of thought. To harm yourself and end things. 

Don't you know that "ending things" and "solving things" are different?

[morganadiavalon]

- Life's a bitch and then you die, you know?

- Well...sometimes life's a bitch and then you keep living.

[queerzaza]

Zaza, I've been dating this girl for about six months and I care about her a lot, but I've recently come to the realization that our relationship isn't going to lead anywhere. I want a serious relationship that eventually leads, hopefully, to marriage, and I can already tell that this one won't be heading in that direction. I want to break up with her, but is this a bad reason to do it? How can I do it without sounding selfish or mean?

it’s actually a kindness to break up with her now. the sooner the better. once you realise tht she’s not for you, tht’s the time when you end things. it would be much more cruel to prolong this relationship and stay together when you’re not happy. you need to set her free so you both can find ppl tht is in love with each of you. as tht’s what you both deserve. 

as for how to do the breaking w/o being mean, just tell her that it’s not working out and tho you care for her, you need to end things. if she wants more closure you can offer how you don’t see the pair of you together in the future. just be direct, respectful, and as kind as possible. i kno it’s not easy, but you’re doing the right thing for you both. best of luck turtledove!!

[honeycombhank]

Tumblr was recommending your rat photos to me, so I went to check out your blog. I'm really sorry to hear about your partner, I hope you're okay, and that they reconsider. :(

I am not sure how to answer if I’m okay, my feelings are deeply hurt but that will heal, trying to maneuver this new world without much normalcy at all is very difficult but doable. Do you like rats? Was the blog a success in that way for you? It’s okay if not lol!

I think that him ending things might be what’s for the best, but moving through the motions of grief and regret and guilt and all the other emotions I’m going through is very difficult right now.