evikholin replied to your post “trans” and “nonbinary” are not equivalent categories. if nonbinary...”
i wld be so uncomfortable if someone who was exclusively into girls (or even just, not normally into guys tbh since im more masc if anything) included me in the category of ppl they were attracted to bc im not binary. like im weird abt ppl being attracted to me at all but still. so much of this trying to say u can be attracted to enbies however u id to Me feels disrespectful and makes me dysphoric
yeah!!! and also like, the whole idea that ever specifying “attraction to nonbinary people” is fetishistic is like... hhhh. like i get where you’re coming from, but do you seriously think attraction to unaligned nonbinary people has to always be subordinate to attraction to the binary genders*??? you're really saying that if a woman who's into women and not into men dates an agender person, that’s a lesbian relationship, but if a man who’s into men and not into women dates the exact same agender person, that’s gay??? (or otherwise like??? “if you’re into your own gender dating an agender person is gay, if you’re not it’s straight”???)
i mean obviously, there’s more than one way to define the boundaries of gayness/lesbianism, and “can be attracted to anyone but [opposite gender]” is the broadest but definitely one...
but also there’s a strong feeling of “nonbinary people are literally whatever gender is convenient to me and my attraction” and it’s. not good.
*not that “aligned” nb genders are lesser to binary genders either, but saying it about ppl who have nothing at all to do with the binary is just... extra ridiculous










