#f vs t

[mbti-enemies]

INFP: mwah! INTP: ... mwah ha ha I think you mean

[confusedinfj]

Te - T vs F - People handling #1

Bouncing off my last post about decision making.

Pls remember: no actually nice person likes sustained conflict, no matter their type.

Te

Standard Mode

HELLO, I'M LOUD AND HAPPY AND I MAY OR MAY NOT BE A NE DOM! Oops I accidentally insulted someone. Watch me pretend I didn't mean it (I did but I didn't mean to start a fight, idw them to have a go at me! I'm secretly very vulnerable 😅).

Support Modes

It is good to have happy relationships without conflict, as science has shown. I want to be my ideal, optimal self and be kind.

K. Look. This is sad. Here's how you can fix it. You know that person is crap. It's okay to cry. But you're too good for them! Let's make a plan for you to get your life back!

Uh oh. Person is sad because if me. Oops. Idk what to do so imma hope it goes away. Imma make them a hot drink to show I'm sorry. *gives drink with raised eyebrows - SORRRRYYY*

Person is mad at me? I'm scared and vulnerable and... now I'm crying.

Fight Mode

I'M MAD BECAUSE NO ONE FOLDS THEIR SOCKS PROPERLY AND EVERYONE WOULD BE SO MUCH HAPPIER IF THEY DID. HEAR ME SCREAM.

[mbti-enemies]

when the Queen passed away....

Thinkers: *immediately start making memes*

Feelers: [ignores the above activity]

Feelers: *asks other feelers how they're feeling about it*

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Fe - T vs F - People handling #3

Pls remember: no actually nice person likes sustained conflict, no matter their type.

Fe

Standard Mode

I LOVE EVERYONE!!!! WE CAN ALL BE FRIENDS! I carefully adjust my behaviour so as not to offend everyone. I'm good at connecting with anyone, it's fun! Wow, people are so beautiful and important and interesting... Imma cry they're so profound. Oh yeah, but some people are evil. Be careful about those. I NEED TO CALL MARY AND SEE IF HER DOG GOT BETTER! Also, I'm a little sad, so I should talk it over with Paul cos he's good at helping me feel better without getting upset himself.

Support Modes

Wow, I'm so sad to hear that. *is genuinely upset. Looks at feet wondering what they're meant to do about that. Listens to you cry for an hour and is convinced it counts for nothing*

Oh, I upset a person. That's unusual tbh. Hey, don't be upset, person! I can see how you took my comment/behaviour this way, but I didn't mean it like that. *fixes things perfectly and even mildly inspires the previously offended person*

Wow, this person had a go at me. Are they though? That was kinda a subtle dig and I didn't notice it till 5 minutes later... I thought that was weird. Idk, I guess it's too late to mention it now. I hope they're not right. I'll have to ask Paul later. Ugh, I know he'll say it's not true, but I need to be sure.

Fight Mode

That's bit right. *Very short, sharp, sentences so full of information that your little head is going to explode thanks to the speed at which I am speaking* THAT'S RIGHT. I KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT, BITCH! YOU THINK I'M SOME GOODY GOODY WHO WON'T FIGHT? WELL TRY ME! NOBODY BEATS A TRIGGERED HIGH FE USER COS WE ONLY FIGHT WHEN IT'S NECESSARY TO TEACH YOU A LESSON! *rants until the perfect mic drop. Everyone but opponent applauds*

[confusedinfj]

Fi - T vs F - People handling #4

Pls remember: no actually nice person likes sustained conflict, no matter their type.

Fi

Standard Mode

I get along with everyone well, people generally really like me. If I don't like someone it's a big deal, and it probably means they're evil. I'm kinda edgy, and often mistaken fora tj at a first glance. I'm happy, but also a bit of a moody rage ball 😉

Support Modes

Your cat died? That's sad, my cat died last year. I was really sad. *says some really encouraging stuff* *but is completely clueless and possibly insensitive when they haven't been through the same thing as you and don't get it*

I made that person cry... I'll explain I didn't mean to do that. They're still crying? Look, I told them I didn't mean it that way. They'll have to deal with it, I didn't do anything wrong.

These people are attacking my moral beliefs! This is greatly upsetting me. I can believe people are this thoughtless and cold... THEY HATE ME! *retreats to be sad and depressed and feel unloved*

Fight Mode

*RAGE* *SHOUTING FACTS AND INTERPRETATIONS* Am I joking? You probably don't fully know, I deliver all my speeches like they're a meme. WAIT I WAS SERIOUS, AND NOW I'M REALLY GOING! I can't hear you... I literally can't hear you, I'm whipped up in a passionate fit of rage.

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T vs F with People

F types

Want to connect with people for the sake of it, it's how they're wired. A depressed F type will avoid people. Specifically:

Fe: Wants to connect and find a social group, or fit in with one. Finds it easy to find a point of connection with everyone, may struggle to open up personally. When depressed, will focus on the negatives and how people don't care for them as much as they do, etc.

Fi: Wants to connect and create personal friends, their own social group. Can find a point of connection through their own personal experiences/feeling. Can create deep attachment and open up quickly if it feels right. When depressed, will focus on how useless they are and how their friends don't understand them etc.

T types

Don't want to connect for the sake of it, struggle to genuinely connect without a reason. Enjoy company for fun, not likely to open up or wish to. When depressed, seeks company and deep relationships. Specifically:

Te: Wants to discuss ideas and achieve goals - is aware people are needed for this, aims to be kind and liked. Struggles to open up or engage on a deeper level, not sure what they're looking for to connect. When depressed, wants a close friend and uses Te to go find one (and as a heads up, a high Fe user is a really good find here, cos they're happy to let Te force them into a close friendship without context).

Ti: Wants to deal with people as much as is necessary (aka as little as possible), enjoys them as a puzzle or form of entertainment when feeling outgoing. Struggles to accept the idea thst genuine connection and vulnerability is needed - wants independence, nor community. When depressed desperate to find community and be understood. May become irrationally angry and upset when no one they know understands them or sees their pain, even though they've never articulated anything before. The hardest type to save from these feelings, because Ti can be very closed off and hard to read. Can quickly turn into victimisation, so pls, tps, seek out what you need rather than waiting for it to come to you - just a little bit.

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T vs F decisions

I think this makes sense

Ts like to make an emotional selection and then justify it with facts and logic

Fs lie to make a logical decision and justify it with feeling and conviction.

Examples:

~Ts~

The t type chooses to date someone for emotional reasons - I've never felt this way before, this person is pure magic, etc. But they'll justify being together with logic - we're good together, we have the same goals, etc. If the t type starts dating someone for logical reasons, the emotional side won't necessarily follow.

Similarly, a T type may choose a religion/house/anything really by going purely off how they feel - the people are genuine, God feels real here, this house feels like home. Once they feel something they can't explain (basically feelings), they'll begin to justify their decision with logic and facts so that they don't feel overemotional. This is why t types can sometimes be very strange and illogical 😂

T types should not over mystify feelings and trust they'll be enough to sustain a relationship/belief system/life decision -logic can apply to your feelings too*! Feelings are fleeting, and sometimes it's logical to ignore them.

~Fs~

An F type chooses to date someone for logical reasons - they're nice enough, we have similar goals, etc. They justify this with feeling: I've never felt this way before, this person is pure magic, etc. An F type is unlikely to date someone seriously without the logical side being considered, because they don't want to be hurt!

Similarly, an F type may choose a religion/house/anything really by analysing the facts and logical pros and cons - this God seems legit, this house is close to work, this job pays well. Once they feel they have found something solid, they'll allow themselves to attach feelings to that final decision, absorbing it into their identity.

F types should remember logic can sometimes be defied very well, so feelings aren't invalid. Logic doesn't take into account exceptions or morals, so sometimes it's best to ignore logic.

Balance ⚖

*infj alert 😂

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T vs F Behaviours

Would again like to clarify that t vs f stereotypes are really character issues, not T vs F things. Ts can be just as empathetic as an F type, and f types can be just as mean. The real difference lies in the cognitive functions, which you can hopefully differentiate by motivations and stuff.

Here is a brief attempt at explaining it.

Comforting behaviour

Te - Is comforting you in a particular way because they believe it is the best, most efficient way to cheer you up.

Ti - Is comforting you in a particular way because - from what they understand - this is what you want/need/the fastest way to make you stop crying.

Fe - is comforting you in a particular way because they feel like it will help you in the long run.

Fi - is comforting you in a particular way because that's how they would like to be treated right now.

So as you can probably see, Te/Fe and Ti/Fi are actually hard to distinguish this way! So how would you, for example, tell the difference between an Enfj and an entj?

Mean behaviour

Te - is classic mean and just says stuff to upset you - usually pick on insecurities and state things thst are true, but with no attempt to help you fix them.

Ti - is passive aggressive mean and plays mind games. Power struggles. Can totally rewrite history, even as it's happening.

Fe - could be manipulative, but good Fe will probably be mean by telling you everything they're upset with you about with no attempt at softening it at all.

Fi - like Te mean, except with no basis in reality. Will just say whatever makes them feel good and you cry.

So yeah, I hope this makes sense 😂