#feeling enough

[queerplatonicpositivity]

is it okay to refer to my qpp as my 'wife' or do we have to use zucchini? i only ask because i personally just dont like the term and have called them my wife (despite being unmarried and not dating at all.) im not entirely sure if we qualify- they're my absolute best friend and soulmate and we often sorta faux-flirt with acknowledgement that its not romantic? so yeah do you think we qualify as qpp and if yes is calling them my wife ok, i love them very much thank you

Hi, Anon!  You absolutely never have to use any terms that you’re not comfortable with.  Different terms resonate with different people, and one of the great joys of forming our own relationships on our own terms is getting to use our own linguistic terms for them.  Even if every single other qpr used the term “zucchini” (and I promise you they don’t), you still wouldn’t have to use it.

You get to use whatever words you and your qpp decide fit for you, and I think it’s absolutely lovely that you have decided to call them your wife.  I’m really happy that you have a term that works for you both, and I hope you feel happy and proud to use it.

As for qualifying as a qpr...

I’m consistently touched that people put so much stock into my perspectives on these things, but I really am just one person and I have absolutely no authority (nor does anyone) to tell you whether you qualify or don’t qualify as any particular identity or relationship.  I do know what it’s like to crave that kind of... external legitimacy, though, where a third party bestows “realness” on you and/or your relationships, so I can totally relate to the impulse.  But I will challenge you to try what I am trying myself... which is to work toward feeling “enough” and “legitimate” in and of yourself.  (Omg, it’s such hard work!)

I will say that your love for your wife, the love of your qpr, is wonderful and beautiful, and has made me smile. =D

[onespacewithyurko]

How to know you are already enough (the quiet truth)

You don’t become enough — you remember that you always were. When the mind stops chasing “better,” peace quietly appears. “Enough” isn’t a goal — it’s the stillness before any story about you begins.

[pallavivyas]

(via From Love Stories to Self-Love: My Journey to Feeling Enough)  “From love stories that shaped my dreams to the lessons heartbreak carved into my soul — this is my journey of finding strength, self-worth, and emotional wholeness.”

[literaryexist]

Memaknai kata "cukup"

Aku pernah mendengar seseorang berkata bahwa, "merasa cukup hanya untuk orang-orang lemah yang selalu mudah merasa puas." Seakan-akan manusia diciptakan untuk terus berambisi dalam hidupnya.

Tapi bagiku, cukup adalah sebuah titik tengah, ketika aku berada diantara penatnya dunia. Bagiku, cukup adalah ketika aku merasa tenang, diantara bisingnya kepalaku.

Ketika manusia terlalu banyak berambisi untuk banyak hal, tak jarang Ia jadi lupa bahwasannya dunia hanyalah tempat persinggahan. Seringkali aku juga diingatkan bahwa, merasa cukup bukan berarti kita tidak berusaha semaksimal mungkin. Tapi merasa cukup karena manusia ada ambang batasnya.

Manusia selalu punya porsi untuk menjadi yang terbaik dalam hidupnya. Tetapi jangan lupa untuk mengingat bahwa menjadi baik tidak hanya untuk manusia lain, tapi juga untuk Sang Pencipta.

Ini jadi pengingat untuk aku, agar tidak terlalu sibuk berlomba-lomba mencari validasi dari manusia lain. Tapi aku juga harus sadar bahwa hidupku berputar atas izin-Nya, maka apa yang terjadi pada hari ini, detik ini, dan menit ini semua adalah kehendak-Nya.

Berusaha dan berikhtiar adalah perintah-Nya, tapi memaksakan kehendak-Nya sama dengan menjadi manusia yang kufur dan tidak tahu terima kasih. Semoga kita senantiasa menjadi hamba yang terus sabar dan bertawakkal atas setiap ujian dalam hidup. Tidak lupa senantiasa mengucap syukur dan merasa cukup atas nikmat yang tidak pernah habis diberikan.

"Tidaklah mungkin bagi matahari mengejar bulan dan malam pun tidak dapat mendahului siang. Masing-masing beredar pada garis edarnya." — Q.S. Yasin (36:40)

[altinvebakir]

being me is studying and working so hard and then apologising for my finished work. you did your best girl, why are you apologetic? if they did it better they should’ve do it themselves. you worked so hard and i’m proud of you for it. you wake up early every single day and tried to get better at things. you tried and still try to improve every day. you try to shine in a world where man does the bare minimum and gets all the praises for it. women all around the world, loving caring amazing creatures, working their asses off and being a mother and managing their houses at the same time. we are heroes. we did it. we did so much more and better than men. so let’s be proud. i will not apologise for something i did just bc i know i could do better. i couldn’t in the time period so its ok. and i did so much more than nothing. i progressed. that’s everything.

[nuramalion]

The Bad of 'Feeling Enough'

The Bad of ‘Feeling Enough’

When you think you’ve had enough, it could be the indication of despair rather than being grateful. So be careful when you feel enough. I’m not telling you to keep look up and fight your days, forget to looking down and stop being grateful to anything you already have. No! God bless everyone with a good life, it’s something you should be grateful everyday. Even if you feel your live is suffer…

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[bordelineandpmdd-blog]

We are Enough

“We are enough because you and I exist. Period! We exist in the same way the ocean and the trees exist. We don’t say to the tree “you are not enough”, we see it as complete.” – from Merging Worlds ‪#‎LetsGoUp‬ ‪#‎OneWorld‬‪#‎InfinitePossibility‬ http://yesrising.com/2016/01/09/we-are-enough/

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