#relationship positivity

[desultory-suggestions]

My boyfriend took towels out to the car before we left for a short drive and l was confused about why he would need them until I came outside and he had laid them over the leather seat so I wouldn’t have to sit on the heated leather like I usually do on hot days. Love is everywhere.

[stormandsparks]

Is this a hot take??

Don’t think so. But here goes:

Regardless of where someone falls on the ace- or aro-spectrums, they have no obligation to anyone else to be in a relationship.

Yes, this includes allo people.

Nobody owes anybody else to be romantically involved. And shaming people, even jokingly, for being ‘too innocent’ or ‘lonely’ or whatever is just wrong. Some people don’t want to be in any kind of relationship. That’s perfectly fine. Some people genuinely haven’t found ‘the one’ yet. That’s fine too. Some people just haven’t got around to dating. Also fine!

But also, never having been in a romantic or sexual relationship doesn’t mean ‘innocent’ or ‘pure’ or whatever. That idea can be pretty harmful - I should know, it’s the main thing that excludes me from the rest of my friend group.

I don’t know if this is just exclusive to the people I know (relatively liberal and all that) but I generally get more shit for never having been in a relationship than any of my friends get for having been in multiple. That’s wrong, not because relationships are (they aren’t!) but because nobody should be shamed for who they have or haven’t been with.

[beka-tiddalik]

"I can fix him": incorrect, passé, patronising

"I love who I am around him": understandable have a nice day

[queerplatonicpositivity]

It's not too late to find the connections you're seeking. There is still time to meet someone and build a queerplatonic relationship with them. There is still time to cultivate your chosen family. Plant seeds now. An acorn does not become an oak tree overnight, but one day it will be big enough and strong enough to cradle you in its boughs.

[nonbinarymlm]

My boyfriend and my relationship is such a source of joy and meaning in my life. The commitment and trust we share is incredible. And I know we can on each other to be respectful and sincere allies to each other in our marginalized identities

[genderqueerpositivity]

(Image description: a light gray background, black text inside a blue round border reads "polyamorous relationships are beautiful". End image description.)

[thewolveswithoutteeth]

Someone loving you as much as you love them really is the most healing feeling in the world