#finding youself

[pluviophile-who-likes-coffee]

There is nothing to find. Life is not about finding yourself. It’s about creating yourself. There’s something liberating about knowing your own bones, all the things you are capable of. Being unapologetically yourself makes you invincible.

The Monster by L.J. Shen

[justmylifewritings]

Stop being so desperate, looking for love. Stop trying to make it work with that shady guy. Stop making yourself feel as if so incomplete without a guy always by your side. He's just a guy. And you're a girl. Girls can do better. Stop feeling alone. You have your family and your friends right by your side. Stop. Remember yourself. Remember who you are. Remember what you've been fighting for. Remember how you used to be without that guy. Remember how happy you were looking at pictures of yourself with friends and family. Remember how you used to love exploring, and meeting other people. How the thrill of it excites you. Remember the girl who used to think that she needed no man to validate her sexuality, personality, appearance. Remember how awesome she was at painting, drawing, singing, dancing, composing, taking pictures, at lots of other stuff. Remember what she loved to do. Go and do what you love. What you ever planned to do. The things you planned but got held back because of  your past relationships. Go and become yourself. Again.

The girl who got so desperate for love, she lost herself

[withlove-theyellowallpaper]

Re-Start of Something New

Instagram, LinkedIn, WhatsApp, and even the web have been the platforms on which I have established myself and gained popularity. However, I am eager for that creative escape from all of that.

I do not wish to be confined to the Social and professional persona that I present elsewhere.

Hence, I have created a Tumblr account for the first time in my 21 years of life.

Hopeing to have that creative outlet.

[carlsthecat]

Puzzle people

When was the last time you sat on the floor, in the middle of your room, trying to find the missing pieces of your puzzle?

I’m writing this post in that exact position. Not only am I searching for a few random pieces, I’m also questioning whether or not I’m piecing together the right puzzle.

All around me I see pieces that just don’t seem to have a place. I see pieces with trees, pieces with…

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[carlsthecat]

October in May

I don’t know how much you, the person reading this, know about South Africa, but in Pretoria we have the “purple month”. This month is October and the reason it is the purple month, is because of the Jacaranda trees that bloom during this time. When South Africans want to describe something beautiful, we tend to say that it is as beautiful as Pretoria in October. You won’t understand this beauty…

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[marisadonnelly]

You Need To Stop Worrying About Who To Love And Start Focusing On What You Love

You need to stop worrying about who to love. Stop worrying about if you will find it at the corner book store, at the company party, at the cousin’s best friend’s wedding. Stop stressing over Tinder matches or Instagram photos or the paralyzing thought, “I am even datable?” Just stop.

When you put your energy and time and constant thoughts into your not-even-real-yet relationship, you’re pulling yourself away from what really matters. The everyday life. The happiness, the joy you find in focusing on who you are as a person and what makes you, you.

You need to stop worrying about WHO to love and focus on WHAT you love. What motivates you? What makes you passionate? What drives you? Focus on those things. Thrive on those things. Instead of scouring through potential dates’ Facebook profiles, lose yourself in a good book. Instead of primping to look ‘presentable’ for a possible significant other, dress in what makes you feel good.

WHAT do you love? Is it art? Sports? Music? Friendships? Sewing? Cooking? Hunting? Reading? Event-planning? Photography? Put your energy, your excitement, your focus, your whole self into those things. Lose yourself in your work, in your hobbies, in your friendships, in you.

And while you’re busy becoming a better, whole-r version of yourself, the love you’ve been searching for will find its way to you. I promise.

[manivillie]

Day 61: Still

In the stillness I found you, The girl I thought I lost. Past the white noise Of dictated lives, Stagnant placeholders. The vision blinded by walls of Who, what, when and how Questions with fixed answers. Stop uttering meaningless answers, With recycled words and promises, Fearful of the silence. Look for the fragrance of life, Hidden in the dead space Of a reality that just in. Instead, warm the…

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[ariellerylands]

Peanut M&M cookies

I like writing. I like the cathartic feeling of writing. The soothing sound of my mac keys clicking away as each thought turns from a misshapen, swirling whirlwind in my brain to organised letters and sentences on the screen. I like the way that I can feel myself to anyone who has ever felt the love of writing or of story telling. That the calmness I feel right now has once resonated with other…

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